My son is 13. His hair is driving me, dh, my mom NUTS. His hair is very thick and coarse. I think if his hair was thin and fine like mine, it would look better. He insists on long hair. It's always in his eyes. It's extremely shaggy. It has no shape/style -- it's just THERE. He looks a lot better with shorter hair. I'm not talking a high and tight, but a normal men's cut. His hair is eating his head!! He looks like the muppet Beaker with Barkley the Dog's hair! We did tell him awhile back that he needed to shower more often if he was going to have longer hair. He will show me Emo/scene hairstyles. I do not think I'm old (31) or out of touch or closed-minded, I just think they look ridiculous!! And he's not into his clothes/appearance otherwise. Maybe if he was begging for skinny jeans, Tom's, Chucks, vneck Tshirts, eyeliner, etc, I'd think well, the hair matches the clothes. Sometimes I wish he'd be more concerned with what he wears. All this to say... Is this the hill I want to die on? I try to let my boys express themselves how they want. It's not hurting anyone. Hairstyles are not permanent. Then I also think back to when I was 13 and holy heck, I wish my mom had done something about MY hair/clothing choices. I've never been a girly-girl and my hair was awful. No one is seeing those pictures! On the other hand, when he's 31, I can pull out the pictures and say "remember when your hair ate your head?". Basically, his hair is driving us MAD. And I know it's ridiculous. And I know ppl are going to say it's his hair, why do you care... Imagine sitting next to someone that smacks their gum all day long. That's how we feel! And he looks really unkempt. I imagine people seeing him and wondering why we don't make him do something with that mop.