Minnesota!
Shoeless in Minnesota
- Joined
- Sep 15, 1999
My first child I went on bed rest at 36 weeks due to PIH and complications from gestational diabetes. I was induced at 37 weeks b/c of these issues.
I knew that I wanted at least one more child, but I knew that the complications were likely to arise again. So we waited a bit until my 1st was a little more independent (almost out of diapers, could get his own snack, etc). I delivered my 2nd child when my 1st was just shy of 3. Again, I had the same complications, started bed rest at 37 weeks . Following day I had an amnio to check lung maturity and all hell broke lose. My body went into shock, almost took me out.
My baby was born almost dead. His heartbeat was next to nothing (around 40 beats/minute). He was in the NICU for 2 weeks, 1/3 of his brain is dead. He wasn't supposed to live.
He will be 4 here soon.
Anyway, his birth made me realize that I had taken a huge huge huge risk with having a second since I had known issues. I almost left my older son motherless. My younger son is, of course, the light of my life, but I cannot responsibly go into having another child biologically. I cannot risk leaving my kids motherless.
So yes, I think that anyone who carries on to get pregnant with known medical issues and other children is irresponsible.
I am so blessed that God swung the cards in our favor in this instance. It could have easily been my older son and DH left alone on this earth.
I knew that I wanted at least one more child, but I knew that the complications were likely to arise again. So we waited a bit until my 1st was a little more independent (almost out of diapers, could get his own snack, etc). I delivered my 2nd child when my 1st was just shy of 3. Again, I had the same complications, started bed rest at 37 weeks . Following day I had an amnio to check lung maturity and all hell broke lose. My body went into shock, almost took me out.
My baby was born almost dead. His heartbeat was next to nothing (around 40 beats/minute). He was in the NICU for 2 weeks, 1/3 of his brain is dead. He wasn't supposed to live.
He will be 4 here soon.
Anyway, his birth made me realize that I had taken a huge huge huge risk with having a second since I had known issues. I almost left my older son motherless. My younger son is, of course, the light of my life, but I cannot responsibly go into having another child biologically. I cannot risk leaving my kids motherless.
So yes, I think that anyone who carries on to get pregnant with known medical issues and other children is irresponsible.
I am so blessed that God swung the cards in our favor in this instance. It could have easily been my older son and DH left alone on this earth.