chrisw127
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It's not that I don't want half of everything. I did just want this to be simple. There is also a lot of debt involved, unfortunately. I have been a stay at home working mom for 13 years and I don't make much money. I am , however, leaning more towards retaining a lawyer. My kids are 19, 16 (almost 17), and 4. I do need to protect them. I just thought things could go simply, I really don't like confrontation. I am also feeling the "guilty" emotions of leaving him even though I absolutely know I am doing the right thing for all involved.
I hope this all makes sense. Thanks for letting me vent!
I don't think you can be a woman and not feel guilty! It seems to be programmed into our DNA. Honestly, having a lof of debt (it happens, don't beat yourself up about it) makes it even more important to see an attorney, because just as assets need to be fairly divided, so do debts. I have seen many women saddled with debt because all they wanted was to get out of the marriage and they felt guilty.
In your case, consider asking about rehabilitative alimony (which is short-term alimony, often around 2 - 5 years) so that you can get back on your feet. Remember that if you don't feel comfortable with this attorney, there are plenty more out there who will be more than happy to take have your case. Depending on your income level, you might also contact legal services in your area to see if they can recommend an attorney to take your case at a lower cost. While legal aid/services will usually take pro bono divorces in cases of domestic violence, they will also frequently recommend lawyers who will take cases for a reduced fee in situations where the parties cannot afford an attorney.
Hang in there.