Principessa1284
<font color=royalblue>The girl whose MIL brought h
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- Oct 10, 2005
Oh wow, I didn't think I'd have such a response! DH made himself a disboards name to see what all the hubub was about. I really appreciate all the support and suggestions. Just a few points of clarification..
1. Hoarding - oh, did you miss my episode? It aired just a few weeks ago.. No, lol, we're definitely not hoarders. We have 3 cats, keep clean litter boxes, and the house doesn't smell - trust me, I'm very sensitive to any scents or smells. Like I said - it's not very clean. The last time (or maybe it was the time before? I forget) they came, DH and I busted our butts to get the house as spotless as we could. We were SO proud of ourselves and thought they wouldn't have anything to complain about, but damn if they didn't criticize everything that we had done. So, I figure, why should I give my best effort if it's going to be shot down and criticized any way? DH would assume just not clean at all for them, but I wanted to at least try make it halfway decent.. which I think we failed at. I do have half a mind to have a profession come and clean the house before their next arrival, and take full credit for it.
2. While I am thankful that we were able to save up some money for this house, I probably would not have agreed to move in right after we got married. We were in BDH had always had a so-so relationship with his parents, but when I met them and we got married, it was fine. Kooky and sometimes annoying, but fine. He used to tell me stories about them from when he was a kid, and I'd think he was just exaggerating. They have the keys for the house and come and go as they please. This time, they only stayed for 3 days, but this 3 days was worse than the 3 months they spent here in the fall. They generally stay for 2-3 weeks, 2 or 3 times a year. I really thought they were doing us a huge favor out of the goodness of their hearts, but they needed someone to take care of the goats and watch the property. They wanted caretakers, and they don't trust ANYone. They've been trying for YEARS to sell the land (12 acres I think?) and have gotten some offers, but they refuse to sell it for anything less than they have decided they want for it (way more than double what it's worth). So, they're stuck with it, and if they want to live in their pretty mansion in Alabama, they need someone here to watch their tax-deduction goats.
3. They will not be getting the address to our new house. If they happen to find it out and show up - we'll have a peephole and an alarm system, I don't plan on opening the door. DH told his siblings that he doesn't want to have ANY contact with his parents once we move.
4. As much as I would LOVE to move out ASAP, as silly as it sounds, I fear for what they would do to my goat and her baby. I hand raised this goat after her mother rejected her after we first moved in, and she just had a baby of her own last month. They know I care very much for her, and if we just left, I don't know what they'd do to her. It sound so ridiculous, but she's my pet and I just love her to death. It's not like a dog, where I could just bring her with me or have a friend take care of her - she's like, a goat. Not to mention that I don't know of an apt complex that would take a 3 or 4 month lease, that would also accept pets, that's reasonable in price, has internet and phone available from DH's company which is required for him to work from home (no option to work from an office), and I wouldn't get shot going to my car at night. We also have to watch our spending because the bank is scrutinizing every penny right now, and we have to keep a certain amount in our accounts.
5. Oh boy would I LOVE for MIL to find this and read this... It would be my favorite thing ever - and I'm not being sarcastic at all. I have never been anything but polite to her face.. I don't feel the need to give her ammunition. She can keep making a fool of herself and, outside of the disboards and vent sessions with my friends, I just sit there quietly. It's DH's family to deal with, not mine.
6. *We* have never asked to borrow money from them. Like I said, DH did that before we were married and paid it back right away.
I think I addressed everything I felt the need to. I really am trying to have a sense of humor about the whole thing, but it's getting old.
PS - life is too short to skip out on an art show or disney park with some friends while they're in town. We don't go out very often, but it's worth whatever the price is to have a little bit of sanity restored for a few hours. Even my former shrink told me to get out and do things more often, and not to worry so much about the state of the house. I used to get crazy stressed out and make myself sick before they came, worrying about what they would say or think, but now I guess I really don't care what they think anymore.
1. Hoarding - oh, did you miss my episode? It aired just a few weeks ago.. No, lol, we're definitely not hoarders. We have 3 cats, keep clean litter boxes, and the house doesn't smell - trust me, I'm very sensitive to any scents or smells. Like I said - it's not very clean. The last time (or maybe it was the time before? I forget) they came, DH and I busted our butts to get the house as spotless as we could. We were SO proud of ourselves and thought they wouldn't have anything to complain about, but damn if they didn't criticize everything that we had done. So, I figure, why should I give my best effort if it's going to be shot down and criticized any way? DH would assume just not clean at all for them, but I wanted to at least try make it halfway decent.. which I think we failed at. I do have half a mind to have a profession come and clean the house before their next arrival, and take full credit for it.
2. While I am thankful that we were able to save up some money for this house, I probably would not have agreed to move in right after we got married. We were in BDH had always had a so-so relationship with his parents, but when I met them and we got married, it was fine. Kooky and sometimes annoying, but fine. He used to tell me stories about them from when he was a kid, and I'd think he was just exaggerating. They have the keys for the house and come and go as they please. This time, they only stayed for 3 days, but this 3 days was worse than the 3 months they spent here in the fall. They generally stay for 2-3 weeks, 2 or 3 times a year. I really thought they were doing us a huge favor out of the goodness of their hearts, but they needed someone to take care of the goats and watch the property. They wanted caretakers, and they don't trust ANYone. They've been trying for YEARS to sell the land (12 acres I think?) and have gotten some offers, but they refuse to sell it for anything less than they have decided they want for it (way more than double what it's worth). So, they're stuck with it, and if they want to live in their pretty mansion in Alabama, they need someone here to watch their tax-deduction goats.
3. They will not be getting the address to our new house. If they happen to find it out and show up - we'll have a peephole and an alarm system, I don't plan on opening the door. DH told his siblings that he doesn't want to have ANY contact with his parents once we move.
4. As much as I would LOVE to move out ASAP, as silly as it sounds, I fear for what they would do to my goat and her baby. I hand raised this goat after her mother rejected her after we first moved in, and she just had a baby of her own last month. They know I care very much for her, and if we just left, I don't know what they'd do to her. It sound so ridiculous, but she's my pet and I just love her to death. It's not like a dog, where I could just bring her with me or have a friend take care of her - she's like, a goat. Not to mention that I don't know of an apt complex that would take a 3 or 4 month lease, that would also accept pets, that's reasonable in price, has internet and phone available from DH's company which is required for him to work from home (no option to work from an office), and I wouldn't get shot going to my car at night. We also have to watch our spending because the bank is scrutinizing every penny right now, and we have to keep a certain amount in our accounts.
5. Oh boy would I LOVE for MIL to find this and read this... It would be my favorite thing ever - and I'm not being sarcastic at all. I have never been anything but polite to her face.. I don't feel the need to give her ammunition. She can keep making a fool of herself and, outside of the disboards and vent sessions with my friends, I just sit there quietly. It's DH's family to deal with, not mine.
6. *We* have never asked to borrow money from them. Like I said, DH did that before we were married and paid it back right away.
I think I addressed everything I felt the need to. I really am trying to have a sense of humor about the whole thing, but it's getting old.
PS - life is too short to skip out on an art show or disney park with some friends while they're in town. We don't go out very often, but it's worth whatever the price is to have a little bit of sanity restored for a few hours. Even my former shrink told me to get out and do things more often, and not to worry so much about the state of the house. I used to get crazy stressed out and make myself sick before they came, worrying about what they would say or think, but now I guess I really don't care what they think anymore.