I never use touring plans, I can see where you would feel overwhelmed, but it really is very doable to plan your own visit.
You don't have to plan a specific ride order. You will however, have to make some choices. You kind of have to accept that there is more to do at WDW than you have time to see. You can see most of WDW, and all the big rides, and even some characters- but not EVERY little detail of WDW- that would take over a month. You simply can't be in two palces at once- that's part of the fun of WDW. After many trips, I've still never made it to the water parks!
When it coms to planning- a few key ideas are very helpful. Always try to zig, when the crowd is zagging. You won't get it right on your first trip- but you can learn from your mistakes quickly - and you CAN make many smart on the spot choices. Like if you see a QS lunch line at noon that's REALLY long- pick something else, or pick a different time to eat. If we get hungry at noon- we usually grab our ice cream dessert before our entrees.
The second thing to know is how fastpass works. Managing your fastpasses well will save you a great deal of time. Start each day by getting a fastpass, AND riding a e-ride attraction right away. If you do that at AK, HS, and Epcot- the rest of your day will be cake. MK is the only park that has more than three e-rides. E-rides are the top attractions. (an old term that goes way back) Most e-rides are fastpass attractions, but not all fatpass attractions are e-rides.(other posters have done a good job of listing the biggies: EE, safari, TT, S!, Mtns, BTMRR, Dumbo, Pan, TSM, Tot, RnRC)
If you want to add seeing characters to your days, then you kind of have to make some choices. A character meal is one way to see them with minimal waits. Otherwise, the big character greet hot spots (the ones whith multiple characters together) are kind of like e-rides. It pays to arrive early.
By now you've probably realized that at WDW, the early bird gets the worm. It pays to arrive at the parks as soon as they open. It will take you longer to get to the parks than you may think- so try not to stress - but DO try to arrive early. You can still cover a lot of ground any time of day- but arrving early is helpful. Similarly, if you can manage evening hours- they are also helpful. The parks are fantasic after dark, and evening events like fireworks a re highlight of any visit (I'll take Wishes over any afternoon parade!) the afternoon parades, IMO - are just an excercise in aggravation. folks jostle for the best spot, and it is frustrating being in the throng. (Meanwhile the ride lines are short!)
If you've alrady booked dining- then that is going to partly dictate where you go each day. If you have dinner in Epcot planned- then that's an Ecpot day. If you have dinner planned near MK- then that's a good MK day. Try to avoid hopping- or minimze it. You say you are booked at AoA, so I know none of your ADR's are at your home resort. Still, the food court at your home resort is always a good choice for a quick meal.
In my opinion- quick morning meals are wise. It's fine to have a nice TS breakfast booked one day (esp ifyou hyave to travel) but keep in mind most morning s that morning is a great time to hit lots of rides.
Back to zigging and zaggging- try to use common sense when touring. If you see along line- walk away and come back later. Likewise, try to think ahead- like avoid kiddie rides during popular kiddie hours - ItaSW has no line late at night,but a lnog line at 11am. the parks are most crowded from 11 until 3pm - that'sa great time to do the rides that have minimal lines, interspersed with using fastpasses. It's really that easy.
Other important sugestions: WDW is lots of walking. the more you are in shape the more you'll be able to do. Happy feet are critical. That means only high quality walking shoes- bring at least two pairs, preferably one pair that you can wear to the pool and for water rides (Kali, maybe Splash). If a member of your family can't walk long distances, strongly consider renting a
scooter, or using a stroller (n the case of kids). With a 4 and 5 years olds- consider a lightweight sturdy double stroller. Again, good quality will pay off.
Also make sure you understand how the dining plan works, so you don't have to figure it out when you are there. Know that you get mugs included.
It's also very importantto drink plenty of water. November is not especially hot, so it's not like July- but staying hydrated is still very important.
You should study the layout of each park. Do this before you go, and each night (before bed). I also like to prep up for the next day each night (layout clothes, clean the stroller basket, know weather and layout (rain) jackets). When you are studying the maps- if you can - also try to locate the restrooms. In a pinch, you can alsways ask where the nearest restroomm is located- but with little kids it pays to know. Know that EVERY resort lobby and just about every dining location -has restrooms.
DO encourage everyon to be proactive about restroom needs. When one peson goes- everyone goes -or at least makes GOOD use of that time. (maybe dad can get fastpasses while mom takes the kids)
Last, try to avoid drill sargent mode. It's okay if you don't see everything. WDW has lots of really amazing small details. If your kids are having a fantastic time playing in a water fountain, they won't care if they miss a ride the've never seen. There are sometimes where it pays to scoot your family a little (getting everyone out of the room in the am, not missing shows that happen only once a day- if that show is a priority, not mising ADR's), but really the biggest mistake you'll see reported is that someone was TOO mcuh ofa drill seargent. They got so caught up in not missing anything that they missed everything! (a.k.a. forgot to have fun and enjoy the moment) (the same is true of the peson whotries to photograph every second) Many of our best Disney memories are times when we stopped to do nothing. Also, overplanning/overprepping means no discovery. WDW is meant to be discovered.
The other thing to know is that while Disney staff isn't perfect, they are very good. Don't be afraid to ask for help. that is usually the quickest way to a solution. I've been to WDW many times, and I still find plenty of opportunities to ask questions.
A friend of mine and I (both single moms) are taking our kids to WDW in November. We have 5 days of park passes and are staying at the AoA. We have our ADR's planned (free dining plan) and that is all! I have no idea how to plan touring the parks. We want our kiddos (ages 4, 5, 10, 13) to see the big stuff, ride the rides, meet the characters and have a laid back (as much as you can at WDW) vacation. Is there anyone out there that can help me with touring plans. I joined touring plans.com but it is still so much to try to fit our ADR in with the plans.... HELP! 
ANY help would be appreciated!
, you have received a lot of good tips already. One thing to think about is possibly splitting up the group- one adult goes with younger kids while other adult goes with two older. Not for entire trip but maybe a few times so the older or younger groups do not get bored. We plan to do this, as our 3 year old would never be able to do Dinosaur, Space Mountain, etc and my older boys would tire quickly of Dumbo, etc. 
Even we don't all think that touring days need to be planned out minute by minute, a lot of us feel that we have a better overall vacation if we just take rides and other things as they come in a relaxed manner.
