Yay for lollipops and cotton candy!!! Glad to know that at least my disbrides think it's a good idea! I just have to vent for a moment about my mom. She is driving me bonkers! I've kept quiet for a long time about it, but last night it just got to me.
It all started when we told my parents that we were moving the wedding from our hometown in NC to Disney. The first thing my mom said was, "Okaaay." (in this "skeptical, you are crazy, and I don't agree with you" voice). Insert rolled eyes here. (the smilies look too happy!) So after a couple days of prodding and poking, I finally get her to act like she's kind of excited about it. She's the kind of person that has to be in charge, have all the ideas, and if things are exactly the way she wants or needs it, she's totally miserable and hell bent on making everyone else miserable too. grr. So, general lack of enthusiasm has been going on since February. Gee, I'm so glad that you are so excited about your only child's wedding day. awesome.
THEN...once we got over all of that, she starts in on the guest count. Kept making comments about who we are inviting. One of the best things about my Escape wedding and the big reason I didn't go with Wishes, was the cap on guests. I come from a huge family. The NC wedding we almost had was going to cost double the Disney wedding because of the 150 people on the guest list. 75% of which was my family. (Aunts, uncles, and cousins, plus their kids and significant others). Ridiculous! And, let's be real. I don't even like half of them, or I've seen them once in the past 15 years. But I can't invite a cousin and not an aunt, or one sister and not the other three, etc. It was getting waaayy out of control. Enter Disney wedding, problem solved!
Well, for me anyway. Not so much my mom. I think she's getting grumblings from family members, although she won't tell me any of that. (I wish they'd grumble to me instead of her...cause I don't care!!) So now, she's started this, "You don't have anyone from your family here. No one is representing our side. Why does DF get so many and it's just me and your dad invited? What do you have against your family, etc." (which totally sounds like someone else is feeding her this BS)
So I break down the guest list for her:
"I can only have 18 guests. DF and I invited one of MY many cousins to stand up with DF, but he backed out saying he couldn't afford it." (BTW, he makes a 6 digit salary. Can't afford it my @$$!!)
Me: "So DF has his
1. Mom
2. Dad (Best Man)
3. Stepmom
4. Sister (BM)
5. Nephew (RB)
6. Randy (Great friends and mentor to DF, who's also PAYING FOR THE WHOLE WEDDING!)
7. Randy's wife
Sorry that you guys decided to stay married and not have any other children so that we could have more people from "our side" of the family attend. Not my fault, not my problem."
I have
8. Deana (MaOH)
9. Hillarie (MOH)
10. Joyell (BM)
11. Katie (BM)
12. Ayla (FG)
13. Noelle (guest, daughter of Quillion and Deana, sister of flower girl)
15. Quillon (GM).
16. Mom
17. Dad
18. Hopefully my grandmother if she can make the trip.
HELLO MOM!!!! I have more people than FH!"
So...now mom sees this isn't sound logic (which never really stops her btw), and decides to go a different route.
mom: "well, it's just not fair. we won't have anyone to talk to. It will be everyone together having fun and me and your dad over here by ourselves."
WHAT?!?!
Me (because at this point I am so flippin' fed up!): "Well, if that's the case, then you have no one to blame but yourself. You've known these people for at least 10 years, and they are all excited to hang with you. You are my parents. I'm not going to ignore you the whole week. And everyone is nice. If you end up by yourself, it's because you put yourself there."
This is all happening in a restaurant, and I immediately start crying. Mom immediately backs down and says she didn't mean to upset me...yada yada. So we eventually calm down, and I suggest that we send out an announcement newsletter to all the not invited guests, explaining what's going on, that we will have an at home reception at some point, and invite them to vacation at WDW while we are there (even though they can't come to the ceremony or DP). Great! We have a compromise, everyone's happy!
Ok...fast forward to last night. I spent hours making a newsletter for everyone. Trying to find the best way to phrase everything so no one would be mad, everyone would understand what was going on, etc. I did it up all fancy with pictures and layouts, etc. Emailed it to my mom a couple of days ago. Nothing. Finally called her last night and asked her about it. She goes, "oh yea. I think I saw that." Well.....Did you read it? "Some of it. I glanced over it." Ok, by now the blood is boiling.
"mom, I spent hours working on this. For YOU. I could really care less whether these people know what I'm doing. And you can't even look at it?"
So she pulls up the email (all the while complaining about my email address, which is maxwell wedding ... because she "can't ever find it".) Clean out your inbox mom. So I say,"well, it's my name." and she replies with, "It's not your name yet." In this really condescending hateful tone. Grr. Two months away from the wedding. Come on!
So after she reads the email, all she has to comment on are:
1. I didn't put our names in the right order and
2. I make it seem like I'm going to pay for everyone to come down and vacation in WDW. WHAT?!?! (I did nothing of the sort, btw).
So I finally get a vague, non committal "it looks good" from her, and get off the phone as fast as I can.
Whew. Sorry about the vent. I just can't take it anymore. I am so afraid that she's going to ruin my wedding! She's not going to get enough attention, or be fed on time, or have to get up too early, or pick a fight with me or dad, or whatever. I am terrified! She can't just be happy. I honestly think it's an attention thing. It scares me to say it, cause it's my mom, and you arent supposed to think of your parents that way. But she is a selfish person, who needs to be the center of attention. Please please please don't ruin my day!!
Ok, well...my original plan was to get on here and put up all my musical selections. Glad that I came up with such a happy topic instead!
I'm going to go make coffee, and then I'm going to follow up with a happier, more fun post.
Well, today I stumbled into Bath and Body Works, and wowza! They have an incredible sale going on! I stocked up on stuff for me, stuff for BM's, welcome bags, my mom, BFF's, flower girl, GM, AND ring bearer. It was AWESOME! Just to give you an idea...I bought $267.00 worth of stuff for....get this....$37.50. Thirty-seven-fifty. WHAT!?
I haven't told DF yet. I think I'll show him the bag and tell him the original total first. Then he'll marvel at my bargain shopping skills instead of that I bought more "crap" for the welcome bags. 
Any idea how long that will be going on?
But fortunately, he will be doing his orientation at the end of July...so that gives us a little time to get everything in order and move. I am so excited and happy, but so nervous at the same time. We will be moving 500 miles away in one month, and three months before the wedding. But on the upside, we will be moving an hour away from WDW!!! 
And I went to WDW last Sunday, and yes, I'm going again tomorrow. That definitely doesn't suck either! 
