Thanks for everyones experiences, im so happy to hear familys with large age gaps and well as those with just one child. Do parents with large gaps find it easy to do activities all children enjoy?
Im still so undecided, my sister in law is pregnant with her second and i cant help but feel at little jealous but in the same breath i secretly am happy not to deal with nappies etc. I think im trying to replace the 'lost' first year of my daughters life - i had a terrible birth, ended up with a crash csection and was very very ill for 3/4months and felt left out of DD life, ended up with PND and basically only starting being a proper parent when she turned a year. Oddly im not frightened of it happening again, but i think, deep down, i want another child to gain what i lost. This is not the only reason i desire a second child, obviously, but i wonder if it robbing me of my logic.