Listen to Buckalew, she's got great advice! My daughter has felt exactly the same way about me, I'm pretty sure. She has suffered from anxiety, depression, been diagnosed with the wrong things, given the wrong meds. Psychotropic meds of any kind, or meds that contain hormones make things much, much worse for her. Can't tell you the number of hours I have lied awake worrying about her. And I have said a few inappropriate things which she always remembers with a bit of a twist or embellishment. Like your mom, I was trying to get her to fight for her own happiness, even though I knew it had to come from her. I did pay a therapist, that was kind of a disaster. Did a lot of research and came to realize that her hormones were probably out of whack and diet might help. I could not make her change her diet, of course, so I changed mine. And was kind of obnoxious about it. In January she decided to try it too, and it's been sort of a miracle for her. When she stays off gluten, sugar, and watches her carbs, her PMS and mood swings are under control. She did lose weight, but the mental stuff is even more impressive. She's socializing. She made a friend at work and moved into an apartment with her, got a nice boyfriend, is doing well at work. Still doesn't exercise, but if she sticks with her diet most of the time she continues to do well. I keep my fingers crossed all the time, but she is doing it for herself. I hope you can find a way to help yourself too. Finding a job is a good first step. Gives you some independence and a way to meet new people. Good luck.