What difference does it make except that she can't teach her kids simple manners and that some folks do not like to be addressed informally.
I hope you are raising your children better than that. I didn't realize that someone preferring to be addressed a certain way equaled an unreasonable "demand".
Sounds like the jerk I got on a phonecall for work one time. He got pissy b/c I was calling him Mr. _______. He told me to stop being so formal. I said "I'm sorry, sir." and he flew off the handle. I'm not using my job b/c he wants to be so casual and thinks getting pissy about it will change how I address him. 1 out of 1000 customers---I would guess that HE is the one making mountains out of molehills.
Amen to that! You probably said, "sir" out of habit, because it is how you were taught.
It is not as if the OP demanded to be called "Your Supreme Highness, Oh Most Noble Queen of the Realm." She merely wanted to be addressed as Mrs. Last Name, which, despite what many posters believe, is NOT out of the ordinary. MANY adults.....and not just the OLD ones.....prefer this term. It is not going to make a child's tongue explode to say "Mrs. Last Name" and it will do them a world of good to be taught that not everyone in life is to be addressed casually. (Perhaps these are the same children who grew up to wear flip flops to an invitation-only White House event and had no idea flip flops really weren't that appropriate for such an occasion.
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This may come as a shock to some, but not everything in life is casual. It's not all crocs, shorts, tank tops, first names, canned drinks and baseball caps. I see so many children growing up not being taught that there is a time and place for everything. When I see someone go to a funeral in shorts and a t-shirt and I know full well they own appropriate clothing, I nearly choke. Show some respect. Not every event is casual. Some of these kids are going to grow up thinking it's okay to go to a job interview dressed as if they were going to McDonald's for a Big Mac. (Actually, it's already happening. I read an article the other day by HR people that hit the nail on the head. It basically said, "They don't have a clue.")
And what is wrong with maam and sir? Again, it shows respect. Respect is a GOOD thing, not an insult. I have certainly taught DD to say those terms and she gets compliments from her teachers for using them. My nieces and nephews use them and I appreciate it. It goes without saying that my parents taught us to use them as well. If a child calls me maam, I don't feel old. I think to myself, "Their parents have taken some effort to teach them manners. How nice."
I don't want to be the friend of the children. They have friends. I'll be friend-
LY, but there is a difference. I am okay with being called Miss First Name for now, but if I wanted to be called Mrs. Last Name, I'd expect to be called that out of respect.
I think it's very generous of the OP to bake cookies for Little Miss Miffed. VERY generous.....especially since she has NOTHING to apologize for. She is doing the neighborly thing and going the extra mile to try and mend relations. As I said, if the neighbor is the least bit snippy when OP tries to approach her, I'd take those cookies home and call it a day.