Hello everyone!
I don't quite know how to approach this, so I guess I'll just dive in.
My eleven year old son, Liam, was diagnosed with Burkitt's Lymphoma last year. He went through five rounds of chemo, three surgeries and many hospital stays. The Children's Wish Foundation of Canada visited him in the hospital during his second round of chemo and told him that he was eligible for a wish. His first reaction was "SKYDIVING!" They politely suggested he choose something else.
I think the chance to make a wish really gave him something to hold on to. The second chemo round was tough because it was an intense mix of chemicals and it made him very sick and he suffered through a lot of pain. My wife and I split 24 hour shifts at the hospital and he always perked up when talking about his wish.
I think he thought that a Disney trip was out of reach, but when he knew it was something he could wish for, he really got serious about it. He chose a land and sea package. Four days at Disney World and three days on a cruise.
Anyway, we leave on Sunday November 25th and it's already been amazing. Children's Wish has been fantastic. Anyone else feel like these organisations go way above and beyond? They've invited us to baseball games, basketball games, Halloween socials, etc, and treated all of us like gold. He's a huge hockey fan and at the Halloween social, they gave him a Winnipeg Jets jersey (our favourite team) autographed by his favourite player.
My wife and I have struggled with guilt and feelings like we don't deserve this trip; or more accurately that there are other families that deserve it more. Liam finished his treatments in under three months, when they told us it would be six to nine months. November 21 will be the one year anniversary of the end of his last treatment. December 20 will be the one year anniversary of his oncologist declaring him "in remission" or "cancer free!"
So yeah, we feel like there are other families who go through so much more than we did. And that's true, no doubt.
But... it could easily have gone the other way. Burkitt's Lymphoma is a very aggressive cancer and achieving remission is not a given. In retrospect the treatment seemed easy and straightforward but it could have easily gone sideways in a hurry. He was stage 1. He had a golf ball sized lump appear on his neck literally... literally overnight. His tonsil was cancerous, his breathing was compromised and in short order it was life threatening.
Anyway, after that short but intense and emotionally draining ordeal, I have decided to be thankful and not guilty when it comes to this trip. I'm going to accept everything that is offered with sincere gratitude. It's a once in a lifetime trip for our family and I plan on enjoying and appreciating every last second.
Thanks for Listening!
Allan.