I am in a rough place and would like to hear the opinions of others in the situation.
My sister lost her job 3.5 years ago due to insubordination. She had that job for over 10 years but due to changes made by management she had become unhappy and started badmouthing management. She received a warning and I told her to kiss some major butt and keep that job. She refused and was fired. Due to the nature of her termination she was denied unemployment.
She has never been good with money and her home immediately went into foreclosure. Her husband has an okay job but didn't make enough to pay many bills and my sister manages the finances. I told her three years ago to get her ducks in a row. Save some money for an apartment so she can pay first, last, security, etc. After one year without unemployment she did collect for one year but that was cut off. She has been on public assistance for utilities.
During this time my mother has contributed untold money for many financial emergencies. She is 75 years old and was reluctant to retire because she then couldn't subsidize my sister and she was afraid for her. I was able to convince my mom that it was okay to retire.
A month ago the bank sold the house with my sister still living in it. She now has to vacate and has no money, bad credit and a dog. She didn't save one dime in the 3.5 years that she wasn't paying a mortgage or utilities. My Mom is upset, as am I. I am worried for my niece, who at 18 is homeless. My sister is refusing all help and lashing out in anger.
Long story! My problem is, I am out of compassion. I am angry. I can't help, but I can't sympathize. She did this to herself. No money anyone threw at this situation would have helped. I a, torn between sadness and anger and there is nothing I can do. I need to separate myself from it but I can't stop worrying.
If you got this far, I would like to know how you would react to this situation. I feel helpless and angry.
Thanks.
My sister lost her job 3.5 years ago due to insubordination. She had that job for over 10 years but due to changes made by management she had become unhappy and started badmouthing management. She received a warning and I told her to kiss some major butt and keep that job. She refused and was fired. Due to the nature of her termination she was denied unemployment.
She has never been good with money and her home immediately went into foreclosure. Her husband has an okay job but didn't make enough to pay many bills and my sister manages the finances. I told her three years ago to get her ducks in a row. Save some money for an apartment so she can pay first, last, security, etc. After one year without unemployment she did collect for one year but that was cut off. She has been on public assistance for utilities.
During this time my mother has contributed untold money for many financial emergencies. She is 75 years old and was reluctant to retire because she then couldn't subsidize my sister and she was afraid for her. I was able to convince my mom that it was okay to retire.
A month ago the bank sold the house with my sister still living in it. She now has to vacate and has no money, bad credit and a dog. She didn't save one dime in the 3.5 years that she wasn't paying a mortgage or utilities. My Mom is upset, as am I. I am worried for my niece, who at 18 is homeless. My sister is refusing all help and lashing out in anger.
Long story! My problem is, I am out of compassion. I am angry. I can't help, but I can't sympathize. She did this to herself. No money anyone threw at this situation would have helped. I a, torn between sadness and anger and there is nothing I can do. I need to separate myself from it but I can't stop worrying.
If you got this far, I would like to know how you would react to this situation. I feel helpless and angry.
Thanks.