MushyMushy;19791865]
Hey, I didn't know about the umbrella policy! I'll talk to him about it and we'll have to look into it. Thanks for the idea.
As a matter of fact, they DO jump off the roof!
Me too.I think he's being unreasonable.
Well, some of DS's friends do concern us, but that's why, IMO, I'd prefer to have them here with us than the other way around. But, DH feels the same way about our daughter's friends too, and she's only 11. I don't mean to make DH sound mean or anything, but he's just not a kid person. I love adolescents and teens, but DH doesn't at all. It does my heart good to hear the kids all joking and laughing while they're sitting around outside, but it grates on his nerves and he assumes they're up to no good.
Hey, I'm willing to listen if you think I'm the one being unreasonable!
As brief as possible, when we bought this house, my husband seems to have developed a whole new sense of responsibility that he didn't have before. The big thing is this fear of being sued. He used to not have a problem with the kids having friends over, but now he FREAKS and doesn't want them to have people over because he's afraid they'll get hurt or something, especially DS's friends. I, personally, would prefer to have my kids' friends here where we know what they're up to. Similarly, when we moved in, DS's friends were lined up to help, but DH didn't want any of them to because he was afraid they'd get hurt and sue our homeowner's insurance.
I just don't see other parents going through this! Or do they?
If your husband is worried about accidents tell him to stay out of the bedroom.
More accidents take place there than anywhere else.
Just look at the population figures.
If your husband is worried about accidents tell him to stay out of the bedroom.
More accidents take place there than anywhere else.
Just look at the population figures.
I'm not sure how the stakes are higher with regard to a lawsuit like this when you're renting vs. owning ? Granted if there's negligence and a parents chooses to sue it's possible you could lose your house but honestly that's one of the reason you have home owners insurance. A parent isn't any more likely to sue because you own than they are if you rent.
Honestly, I'm with you in wanting to have my child's friends at our house rather than her going to their houses.
As advised by a prominent lawyer in the insurance world, we have a million dollar rider on our home owners insurance to cover accidents, etc. This covers injury settlements over and above what our home owners policy would cover. It only costs us $150 per year. Best sleep aid in town.
I'm not sure how the stakes are higher with regard to a lawsuit like this when you're renting vs. owning ? Granted if there's negligence and a parents chooses to sue it's possible you could lose your house but honestly that's one of the reason you have home owners insurance. A parent isn't any more likely to sue because you own than they are if you rent.
I haven't read all the previous posts, but I'm going to guess that this is your first time as homeowners. My DH was exactly like that and maybe even worse before it got better. He also wasn't sleeping well. He was worried about the mortgage, the liability of someone getting hurt, and would sometimes just fixate on some random thought like, "What if we suddenly need a new furnace". He would wander around inside of Home Depot just checking prices on things like new water heaters. I think it all goes back to fear of commitment for men. It's the length of the mortgage, the taxes, the liability issues, and a host of other worries we just don't seem to worry about in the same way. It'll get better after a few months. My suggestion is just to tell him that you're trying to understand his worries, but that he needs to realize that this is your family's home and he's going to have to make an effort to relax.
Just wanted to add that you could start by asking him if he can explain to you exactly what he's so worried about. I would sit down with him when there are no distractions and try to convey to him that I really wanted to know. He may be holding it in because he's afraid that if he shares his worries with you, then you'll be worried too. (Try not to laugh when he tells you his concerns. It'll be hard, but try.)