nugov2
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- Jul 29, 2012
We operate on the philosophy that you have our trust until you break it. Once broken, it takes a lot to gain the trust back.
- I would never, ever read a private diary unless I thought my child was on the verge of suicide or something very drastic.
- As of right now, I have no reason to go through my children's phones. However, I do reserve the right to do it if I begin to not trust them. But I have been very, very lucky that their group of friends are good kids. I really don't care what other children post, that is their parent's problem.
- I would never, ever delete friends from their facebook without discussing it with my child. That is so over the line. We would sit down and go through them together and I would ask why they were friends with this particular person and what was the reason for being friends. If there was no good reason they were friends, then we would delete the person together. But me making the decision without trusting my child, no. As I said above, I don't care what other's post. That is their parent's problem, so I see no reason to actually go through my child's friends and delete them. And if they are posting nasty stuff, I WANT to be able to see it. That way I can counsel my child to stay away from them. For instance, if somebody posts they are going to vandalize such and such, that is a great opportunity to let my child know that this is not appropriate and to stay away because they could be accused just by being there.
- I don't search the room. However, as with the phone, I reserve the right to if I suspect something. I used to live in Colorado and everybody was flabbergasted when the parents had no idea that bombs were sitting on the Columbine killer's dressers. If my child was getting in trouble, was depressed, you bet I would be in their room. But it would have to be something pretty serious to break the trust rule.
- I do not have the passwords to my children's social media, however, they know that if they give me cause to want it, they have to give it up. However, I am friends with them, so I can see their facebook pages and they haven't as of yet put me on any blocks.
All children are different, so all parenting styles are different. And nobody's is perfect. We all do what we have to do. But we are very big believers in trust and respect. If you want respect and trust from them, you have to respect and trust the teen. Within reason of course. There is a difference between trusting your child and hiding your head in the sand and letting them run amok.
I'm pretry much in line with this, other than I will have their social media password when they are on it. Right now my oldest is 10 and she isn't on any. She has a phone and I rarely check it, but I did look at texts before.
I do have blocks on her laptop. She can't go on just any website(I have them filtered) and it will boot her off after being on it for too long.