Form OP:
What I was trying to say in my original post is that a WDW vacation is becoming more like a structured cruise vacation. It is presented as being a boon for travelers but in the end it serves the corporation by:
1. Keeping people on property longer by limiting what you can accomplish in a day, i.e., tiering FP+ in Epcot and limiting availability of FP+. It also favors people with smart phones ...
2. Allowing the corporation to predict the distribution of guests at the parks, hotels and restaurants so that staffing can be maximized or minimized.
3. I don't have children traveling with us so there are only so many experiences that we are interested in, under FP- we could maximize our favorite rides and restaurants
4. I don't fly so we are committing to 4 days driving for 3-4 days at WDW, so I am just as committed to getting my money and time's worth as people who invest in airline tickets and a week at the parks.
5. I used to love the planning but changes such as the notice needed for canceling a dining reservation mean that if you feel sick or end up at a different park, you will pay.
The corporation wants our behavior to be more predictable, I want to be more spontaneous so I will explore different vacations for awhile.
A few thoughts on each of your points...
1. Yes, it is a bit easier if you have a smartphone in your party, but it certainly is not necessary. Kiosks must be used to book additional FPs. If everyone was forced to use a kiosk for all changes, the lines would be insane. Allowing guests to use smartphones helps to alleviate the backup. While tiering is a bit of a pain at times, we've never had a problem doing everything we want easily, and the tiering is only in two parks, and it does help with crowd control, which benefits everyone.
2. Disney is a business, and it is smart business to meet the needs of your consumer. Knowing the anticipated crowd level helps them plan accordingly. I cannot understand why you feel this is a negative. Perhaps you could elaborate?
3. Having a small party actually works very well with FP+. Even with our family of 4, we easily got 6+ FPs per day, and that was with very little effort on our part.
4. Everyone wants to get their money's worth, whether it is a meal in a local restaurant or a multiday vacation. You already have park tickets, so you are currently wasting money by not wanting to use them. Lol
5. You can think your fellow travelers for the cancellation policy. The restaurants were losing money because of, for lack of a better term, reservation hoarders. Something had to be done, and typically they will wave the fee if you have fallen ill.
Spontaneity can still exist at WDW. In fact, FP+ is much more flexible that the old system. You can change things on the fly, you are guaranteed 3 attractions, and most importantly, you know ahead of time exactly when you can do those attractions. I truly hope you are able to visit again someday, especially since you already have tickets. I think you might be surprised at what you can do if you allow yourself to have an open mind.