First of all, I want to say thank you for the sharing in this thread.
I too am also very strident in my beliefs on this issue because I wish to try to help these young people have the best life that they can.
Information is essential and also the knowledge that sex is an amazing and gratifying experience. Otherwise, why would we risk swollen ankles and stretch marks, right? LOL
The original issue here was not information in and of itself but what was appropriate for a 9yr. old- We can each only offer the original poster our advice and wisdom as we know it-
I too have gay friends and family members and I love them, pure and simple, even though I don't always agree with their choices. It is not my place to judge them and not their place to judge me. Love meets people where they are, but loving them will not change my core beliefs either or how I raise my daughter.
As for the issue of sons, I have none but I can't imagine that I would raise them any differently than my DD as my brothers were raised this way and my MIL raised her boys this way. Core morals do not change according to what sex the child is.
So, I do believe that children should know whats up with their bodies-My daughter knows her body parts and what they do and I answer each q she has and basically let her lead me in how much info she requires- We also continually discuss the idea of privacy and what body parts are private-all age appropriate I think- and I'm sure by the time she's 9 she will be well prepared for her period but will I be buying her books discussing relationships and alternative lifestyles? No. Will I be teaching her to be tolerant and loving to others? Yes-