Last time we cruised Disney our children never came to the dining room with us. We fed them and took them to kids club so we could enjoy dinner to ourselves. At the end we were told we would still need to tip the full amount for them. Is this what others do? We are booked on the baltic cruise 2010, and 12 nights adds up!
The tip you give on the last night represents all of the service you received during the cruise, not just at the dinners. Someone served you (and the kids) at breakfast and lunch...whether you ate at Goofy's or Lumiere's. Someone served the kids at dinner (unless you fed them in port). The same servers who wait tables at dinner work in Goofy's, Pluto's, etc. at other times. It is not customary to tip at all those other times....only at the dinner on the last night.
Yes, it is customary to tip for all guests in your party for a couple reasons. They ate somewhere at some time, so someone served them. Secondly, they took a spot at your server's table whether they sat there at dinner or not; it wasn't your server's decision that they not be sitting there. The tip represents his/her income for the cruise.
Yes, the $12 per guest per day (total suggested tip) adds up. $144 per day per person on a 12 day cruise is not a "nothing" expense. However, the Baltic cruises currently start at over $7000 for a family of 2 in a cat 12 and almost $10K for a family of 4 in the lowest available cabin. Then you add air, excursions, etc. As a percentage of your total expenses, the tip is not really much. Perhaps money could be saved in other areas of the trip if tipping the suggested amount represents a hardship. Since I've never been on a Baltic cruise, I can't give specific suggestions. However on a 7 night cruise I can do things like rent a car rather than using
DCL transfers, bring my own wine/beer/bottled water/whatever rather than purchasing on board, maybe choose to not do an excursion in a port or not schedule a spa treatment, etc. We each know what makes the cruise special to us and what we would be willing to do without. Save money on those things that won't cause your enjoyment to markedly decrease.
I'm probably being picky, but I've never been told how much I "need" to tip. I've received a form showing what the suggested tip is, but have always been free to adjust up or down as I felt appropriate.