kelleigh1
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- Joined
- Mar 15, 2005
I guess I should consider myself lucky. Hubby never lifted a finger growing up. No chores at all. His mother did everything. (I'm pretty sure his father did nothing.) When we moved in together, I'd already been living alone for almost 10 years and I grew up in a house where we all learned to do everything. (Three girls and we did all the inside and outside chores.)
It hasn't been easy and I still do the majority of the work around the house (no yard work since we live in an apartment), but when we moved into the apartment we're in now, hubby really stepped up. I work 2 jobs. He temps part-time right now. I wash the dishes - he has to put them away. (I do often have to remind him.) He washes the laundry and I fold but we each put our own stuff away. We both take out the trash. As for general cleaning...yeah, that's mostly me. He doesn't think about dusting or vacuuming or anything like that, but if I bug him, he'll pick up a broom. If I sweep the floor, I ask him to get the dustpan to pick it up - and he does without hassle.
I'd love it if he did more, but I figure this is good for now - especially from someone who never did chores before. (Parents - PLEASE - do not do everything for your kids. Teach them some chores so they can be responsible adults.) I think the big turning point was when I kinda lost it and told him straight out that I just couldn't do it all by myself anymore, especially working 2 jobs. We both live in the house, so therefore we both need to be responsible for the chores of the house. I don't think he'll ever think to just clean up on his own, but at least when I ask, he'll usually help. (And if I leave him a list, he'll do it.)
It hasn't been easy and I still do the majority of the work around the house (no yard work since we live in an apartment), but when we moved into the apartment we're in now, hubby really stepped up. I work 2 jobs. He temps part-time right now. I wash the dishes - he has to put them away. (I do often have to remind him.) He washes the laundry and I fold but we each put our own stuff away. We both take out the trash. As for general cleaning...yeah, that's mostly me. He doesn't think about dusting or vacuuming or anything like that, but if I bug him, he'll pick up a broom. If I sweep the floor, I ask him to get the dustpan to pick it up - and he does without hassle.
I'd love it if he did more, but I figure this is good for now - especially from someone who never did chores before. (Parents - PLEASE - do not do everything for your kids. Teach them some chores so they can be responsible adults.) I think the big turning point was when I kinda lost it and told him straight out that I just couldn't do it all by myself anymore, especially working 2 jobs. We both live in the house, so therefore we both need to be responsible for the chores of the house. I don't think he'll ever think to just clean up on his own, but at least when I ask, he'll usually help. (And if I leave him a list, he'll do it.)