Hi Janet2K! I am so sorry to hear about the tragedies that you and your family have suffered through lately. You have been a TREMENDOUS help to those of us on these Disboards - unselfishly dedicated to helping others build the most magical memories possible. It's so hard to understand why bad things happen to beautiful people.
I also think this is the perfect opportunity for just you and your DD to go to WDW. My mother, my sister, and I went to Virginia for a day to see the Faberge Egg exhibit, and just that time together with the other women in my family was an unforgettable memory. I'm trying to plan another trip for the three of us soon, but now that we all work, it's so hard to coordinate schedules. Do this trip with you DD now, while she doesn't have to worry about asking for vacation, prioritizing responsibilities at work and home, or leaving her own family. It will be here before you know it!
I vote for splitting your trip between the BCV and the AKL Concierge. The BCV will be something new for both of you to try, and the AKL Concierge sounds like your "home away from home." That seems like a good balance. I also think a "My First Facial" at the GF for your DD is a great idea! (Be sure to throw one in for yourself, too.
) Before or after your spa treatments, you and DD could have tea at the GF High Tea. If your daughter doesn't like hot tea, they have "dark tea" for children (which is really just chocolate milk).
I also would not choose to do the Grand Plan on this trip. You can put that $$ towards the next WDW vacation!
Whatever you chose, have a WONDERFUL time! I'll be looking forward to reading a trip report when you return (hint, hint
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