Ugh.
I just can't imagine saying to your kid(s) "Here are your three choices" or "Pick an SEC school." Guess what, we tailgate every home football game for DIII private, liberal arts schools too.
Reminds me of when a friend told her DD that she had to go AWAY to college and gave her a radius on the map. Sure, being away from home can be a great experience for some kids (and I mean AWAY) but it is not for everyone. Talk about controlling... Of course, now, the DD completed grad school 900 miles away, met and married and gave birth to their only grandchild. I think she wishes she had not sent her off so far away because this may or may not have happened otherwise.
Reading these thoughts of pushing kids away from home at 18 make me see where my divorcing BIL is coming from...he has 2 kids over 18 (19 and 22) and they are on their own--he does not see them unless he needs computer help. He also has 2 kids still at home, 15 and 17. He keeps asking the 17 how she is going to pay for college next year and he tells her she needs to go to the local CC. He has less than 12 months and then he can cut contact with her also.
I've wondered about this type of "parenting" but I can see it isn't exclusive to what I think a deadbeat dad is all about. Cut'em loose, it is time. It just isn't so cut and dry for every kid.
I'd love to continue to read the pile-on, but we're taking our kids-that-will-despise-us-when-they-turn-18 out for dinner to celebrate my birthday and our wedding anniversary.
Have a good evening, everyone.
I'd love to continue to read the pile-on,
Not to be snarky, but what college experience do you miss out on by living at home? My DS has lived about everywhere and is planning on moving back home when his lease is up. We had to have a little talk last semester about how fraturnity life isn't a major in school. He joined the fraturnity when he was a commuter student and is one of the more active members. Like I said earlier, he is on the interfraternity council, is a flame for a sorority, is an officer with his fraturnity and is a homecoming king canadate this year. He is also a member of a political group on campus.
He hates most of what is on campus. I don't think he has ever been to a basketball game and only goes to homecoming football game for the alumni. He has never been to any of the movies they show on friday nights because there is always a fraternity outing or he has to work. He did play intramural sports. He also saw some plays back when he was taking a drama class, but I don't think its something he would do on his own.
He likes to live at home to get away from all the noise! Even when he is living here, I will go days that I never see him. I joke that I would love to see him stay at school, but to be honest, it really doesn't matter one way or another.
During the summer he worked 2 jobs and did visit with some of his local friends, but they are all kids in college too. A few of them go to a local college, but they all have summer jobs too and he has made lots of friends at his jobs that he hangs out with too, so he isn't a wallflower in any way.
I'll have to text him later and tell him he can't come home anytime soon or that will make him a snowflake!!!
Posting one's opinion, though it may differ from a previous poster, is a "pile on"? I did not know that.
Inever said college experience but wanting them to be immersed in the "college atmosphere" particularly one at an SEC school big difference. .
FYI: there is a "college experience" that can be had from living at home. We live in a college town and LOTS of students live at home. They still do all the college "stuff".
I have no clue what a SEC school is
Our Uni has tailgating and a football, baseball, basketball teams
So since you are such a perfect parent perhaps you should write a book on how to raise that special snowflake. SO what I want my kid to go to an SEC school and I want it to be the right one. you should probably call social services on me because I am not allowing my snowflake to express him or herself freely especially if that means them going to LSU . Now I am not surprised that I am one of the few posters here without a near perfect genius snowflake. I guess that is because I did not push them around in a stroller until they were 10 , I did not allow them to be picky eaters and I pretty much always take the side of the dreadful public school teachers. Oh and by the way I never said I would not shed tears or force my child to move out but I will encourage them to attend college away from home because I do not want to put my selfish needs of keeping the close to me in front of them getting a great education while having a great social experience. I do not appreciate you referring to me as a deadbeat parent because I do not want to breastfeed my snowies until they are 30.
Southeastern Conference! Alabama, Auburn, Florida, Georgia, LSU, South Carolina, Vandy, Ole Miss, MSU, Tennessee.
Nothing like football weekends at those schools!
My DD just started college an hr &1/2 away from home and is having an extremely difficult time adjusting.I am to the point where I am considering letting her come home on weekends while staying on campus during the week. I don't want her to be totally miserable, because it will certainly affect her studies, besides depress her and I don't think it's worth it. She hates the partying scene and of course most of the students on her dorm floor are partying all weekend long. Anyone else done this?
Sound to me like you want to live vicariously through your child.
Did it EVER dawn on you that living at home might be the difference between someone going to college and not going to college?
Oh-then the nearest one of those listed above to us didnr offer the major my stay-at-home son took and he doesnt like sports =so it wasnt in the equation at ALL for him
The parent who would force a kid to go there for that reason