Feralpeg said:I don't think it is tacky at all. I only have one child, but I didn't have a shower for myself. I didn't ask anyone to have a shower for me. My friends gave me a shower because they wanted to. I go to showers and give gifts for each child because each child is just as special as the first. Why shouldn't each child start out with new things. Of course, I would check with the mom to see if there are things she already has and doesn't need again.
It amazes me that people see showers as an obligation. It shouldn't be looked upon that way. If you don't want to give a gift, then don't.
I totally agree with this post! I had two showers & my kids are 22 months apart. Did I throw the showers for myself? ...NO my loved ones did. So who is being rude & tacky, the ones hosting the shower? How is that tacky?
Now I can see if the mother to be is throwing HERSELF a shower, that is tacky IMO.
I will say that we have a huge family, so most of those invited are close relatives & good friends.
And as a side note, the way it is done in my large family (& I'm a southerner, too) is a large nice shower is given for the first baby. Then a smaller one given for second babies, though they are as much a joy & anticipated as the first born.
If you are giving a gift anyway, why is the shower itself tacky to you? In our family, the showers are so much fun & a chance for us all to get together.