I haven't read this whole thread, but just wanted to give a little story.
I had two showers before my ds was born. I had my dd 18 months later. I didin't have a shower for her, which was fine, I didn't need anything (got plenty of gifts from people, just no organized shower). I didn't really think much of it to be honest.
The only problem with this is I am a scrapbooker. I have pictures in my ds scrapbook from the shower, but obviously I don't have any in my dd's scrapbook from a shower because there wasn't one. And I have to say, once she got old enough to understand what the different pictures were about, it really hurt her feelings. She asked why there wasn't a shower for her and I explained because I had everything for a baby, but she said "but everyone was so happy about DS being born that they had a party, wasn't anyone happy about me being born". It totally broke my heart. How do you explain to a five year old that an etiquette rule someone set years and years ago is why we didn't have a "party" to celebrate her birth.
Since that happened, any close friends I have that are pregnant with #2, 3 or whatever, I throw them a shower, take lots of pictures and put a little scrapbook of it together for them (and for the future 5 year old, so they know "people were happy about them being born" as my daughter would say).
I had two showers before my ds was born. I had my dd 18 months later. I didin't have a shower for her, which was fine, I didn't need anything (got plenty of gifts from people, just no organized shower). I didn't really think much of it to be honest.
The only problem with this is I am a scrapbooker. I have pictures in my ds scrapbook from the shower, but obviously I don't have any in my dd's scrapbook from a shower because there wasn't one. And I have to say, once she got old enough to understand what the different pictures were about, it really hurt her feelings. She asked why there wasn't a shower for her and I explained because I had everything for a baby, but she said "but everyone was so happy about DS being born that they had a party, wasn't anyone happy about me being born". It totally broke my heart. How do you explain to a five year old that an etiquette rule someone set years and years ago is why we didn't have a "party" to celebrate her birth.
Since that happened, any close friends I have that are pregnant with #2, 3 or whatever, I throw them a shower, take lots of pictures and put a little scrapbook of it together for them (and for the future 5 year old, so they know "people were happy about them being born" as my daughter would say).