I love death metal but I wouldn't play it at a wedding. As for the other stuff... Not your day. Just don't pay for the DJ then.
Im not a big fan of the style but deeper into the night (when kids and old people have most likely left) we will definately be playing 'intermission'Agreed. Like I said before, I am not a fan of death metal but I do listen to some hard rock/metal. Halestorm, Rammstein, In Extremo.... that sort of stuff. But I would never want to play that at a wedding that my family would be a part of. They are my guests and I wouldn't want to make them feel uncomfortable with the music. It's just not worth it.
I do agree that we are hearing one side of the story and not getting any real details (even though they have been asked for). So my answers are based on the information provided and my own feelings on the matter in general.
I also dislike 99% of music played at weddings but it's that whole tradition sort of thing, I suppose. I didn't have a DJ or band at my wedding, the reception was held at a restaurant in MGM Grand.
After being married and divorced and thinking about marriage again, I think I would keep it low key this next time. I think the hooplah of the "traditional" (and I use that term loosely anymore) wedding is cliche, gaudy, overly expensive, and boring. People only really want to come for free food and drink. I would prefer to focus on the union and then figure out our own way to celebrate with the people important to us. There is absolutely no reason to spend thousand of dollars, especially the second time around. And for my generation, the first marriage is practice anyhow.
Him wanting to pick out the dress is weird. It sounds controlling.
Whoever is insisting on the death metal, is very immature. It doesn't matter if it's just the groom or the bride agrees. Skip the traditional wedding and have a party with your friends if that's what you want.
Yes, a wedding is about the bride and groom but not considering the comfort of your guests is selfish.
The groom has zero say in the dress. Zip, zilch, nada. He doesn't get to be "the deciding factor".Are you guys reading another thread about the dress? All I saw was that he wanted to be the deciding factor in the type of dress she wore, not that he wanted to pick out her dress.
Maybe he doesn't want her walking down the aisle looking like a hoochie, or a southern belle in a huge dress, or a gothic princess, or whatever else.
We are hearing on side of the story, and since the truth always lies in between the two sides of the story I don't think its fair to judge him solely on what the OP says. Planning weddings can bring out the worst in people, including MILs. No offense OP, its just that I'm sure you want things a certain way for your dd, and maybe you are having a hard time dealing with the fact that she, or you aren't going to get your way on everything.
The groom has zero say in the dress. Zip, zilch, nada. He doesn't get to be "the deciding factor".
The groom has zero say in the dress. Zip, zilch, nada. He doesn't get to be "the deciding factor".
So then what does the groom get to decide that the bride has absolutely no say in--zip, zilch, nada? Can he pick absolutely any tuxedo--let's say powder blue with a top hat maybe--and she can't say anything?
Are you guys reading another thread about the dress? All I saw was that he wanted to be the deciding factor in the type of dress she wore, not that he wanted to pick out her dress.
Maybe he doesn't want her walking down the aisle looking like a hoochie, or a southern belle in a huge dress, or a gothic princess, or whatever else.
We are hearing on side of the story, and since the truth always lies in between the two sides of the story I don't think its fair to judge him solely on what the OP says. Planning weddings can bring out the worst in people, including MILs. No offense OP, its just that I'm sure you want things a certain way for your dd, and maybe you are having a hard time dealing with the fact that she, or you aren't going to get your way on everything.