I have written about my brother about a year ago and now his poor decisions have come up to bite him in the rear and we are going to let it. Thanks in advance for letting me share this story with people who might understand.
Background He lives in a rented trailer with his dog. He worked as a local delivery driver for a company since 2002. In 2006 the corporate grapevine spoke of moving the company to Mexico. My brother did nothing to prepare. In 2008 half of the staff was let go. My brother did nothing. In March 2009 he was laid off. Wow. Didnt see that coming
And my brother did nothing. Not even when our mother was wasting away in a nursing home 15 minutes from his house. He visited her a whole four times during her last year while I handled all her affairs and my family. One of his few visits was the day she died in February 2010.
This whole time he has lived off of $1300 month unemployment for the Texas max of 93 weeks submitting the bare minimum to keep the checks rolling. In other words, didnt really look for work. Last unemployment check was Dec 2010. This happens to be the month his drivers license was due. His last DWI of 2001 (one of several) showed up on his record and needed to pay $200 fine to get it cleared. He refused. So he has no license to look for a job in his field driving. His car, a 1986 model, broke down in August of 2010 and has sat idle in his driveway since. He still smokes and drinks which he admits costs him $300 a month and has an $80 monthly Direct TV bill
In early February 2011 I finished settling my moms estate (of which she left NOTHING to my brother, smart woman) and offered either a new car or cash to my brother out of my share (I also shared with my other not-mentioned siblings read my previous posts if interested). Broke, he took the cash.
Fast forward to July 2011 and he is broke again, but has a drug-addicted girlfriend (his words so guess where my moms money went ) car still not fixed, no drivers license (but has state ID) and he is 48 hours from being evicted. He is 2 months behind on rent and cant move into a friends unit because he lives in the same complex. The landlord would file eviction paperwork on anyone who houses a person behind on rent or evicted. So, he calls his sister (Me) for the first time in a month. Like a schmuck we pay his back rent with the advice to move ASAP as there is NO MORE MONEY from us.
He claims he got a job (only say he claims because if you were out of work for 2+ years, wouldnt you be screaming from the roof tops that you got employment!! I didnt hear a peep from this guy until the eviction was about to go through curious) washing dishes but hurt his back 2 weeks in and might need surgery. He is filing for Social Security Disability. The position is hourly and he is in too much pain to work. His cell phone is on our account and we have paid his share this whole time. Now I refuse to answer the phone and listen to more excuses, but I neednt worry he hasnt called even to thank us for bailing him out after the check cleared. He can leave a message.
This Friday rent is due again. If he doesnt pay it (and he cant not working and charity wont pay $575 in one go) and if hasnt moved then he cant move into his local friends places because of the Landlords rules about housing people behind on rent/evicted. Hope the shelter is safe.
My prayers go out to him and hope he is safe, but we can do no more.
His decisions have led him to this place. He cannot move in with us because his values and behavior are not those I want around my kids (drinking, smoking, swearing, references to sex & drugs, etc ) and we dont want him disrupting our lives so he doesnt have to disrupt his. BTW he will turn SIXTY in December.
Thanks for letting me rant. I have lost sleep over this, but I know I am doing the right thing but like a parent, I have to let him make his own mistakes as an adult and its hard to watch.
Background He lives in a rented trailer with his dog. He worked as a local delivery driver for a company since 2002. In 2006 the corporate grapevine spoke of moving the company to Mexico. My brother did nothing to prepare. In 2008 half of the staff was let go. My brother did nothing. In March 2009 he was laid off. Wow. Didnt see that coming
And my brother did nothing. Not even when our mother was wasting away in a nursing home 15 minutes from his house. He visited her a whole four times during her last year while I handled all her affairs and my family. One of his few visits was the day she died in February 2010.
This whole time he has lived off of $1300 month unemployment for the Texas max of 93 weeks submitting the bare minimum to keep the checks rolling. In other words, didnt really look for work. Last unemployment check was Dec 2010. This happens to be the month his drivers license was due. His last DWI of 2001 (one of several) showed up on his record and needed to pay $200 fine to get it cleared. He refused. So he has no license to look for a job in his field driving. His car, a 1986 model, broke down in August of 2010 and has sat idle in his driveway since. He still smokes and drinks which he admits costs him $300 a month and has an $80 monthly Direct TV bill
In early February 2011 I finished settling my moms estate (of which she left NOTHING to my brother, smart woman) and offered either a new car or cash to my brother out of my share (I also shared with my other not-mentioned siblings read my previous posts if interested). Broke, he took the cash.
Fast forward to July 2011 and he is broke again, but has a drug-addicted girlfriend (his words so guess where my moms money went ) car still not fixed, no drivers license (but has state ID) and he is 48 hours from being evicted. He is 2 months behind on rent and cant move into a friends unit because he lives in the same complex. The landlord would file eviction paperwork on anyone who houses a person behind on rent or evicted. So, he calls his sister (Me) for the first time in a month. Like a schmuck we pay his back rent with the advice to move ASAP as there is NO MORE MONEY from us.
He claims he got a job (only say he claims because if you were out of work for 2+ years, wouldnt you be screaming from the roof tops that you got employment!! I didnt hear a peep from this guy until the eviction was about to go through curious) washing dishes but hurt his back 2 weeks in and might need surgery. He is filing for Social Security Disability. The position is hourly and he is in too much pain to work. His cell phone is on our account and we have paid his share this whole time. Now I refuse to answer the phone and listen to more excuses, but I neednt worry he hasnt called even to thank us for bailing him out after the check cleared. He can leave a message.
This Friday rent is due again. If he doesnt pay it (and he cant not working and charity wont pay $575 in one go) and if hasnt moved then he cant move into his local friends places because of the Landlords rules about housing people behind on rent/evicted. Hope the shelter is safe.
My prayers go out to him and hope he is safe, but we can do no more.
His decisions have led him to this place. He cannot move in with us because his values and behavior are not those I want around my kids (drinking, smoking, swearing, references to sex & drugs, etc ) and we dont want him disrupting our lives so he doesnt have to disrupt his. BTW he will turn SIXTY in December.
Thanks for letting me rant. I have lost sleep over this, but I know I am doing the right thing but like a parent, I have to let him make his own mistakes as an adult and its hard to watch.