Oodalally13
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I have no idea how my comment ended up inside the quoted portion above
Not sure what your interests are, but there's a lot to do in the Branson area that isn't what one normally associates with Branson. Besides the shows, there are 2 beautiful lakes, numerous rivers & streams, a civil war battlefield (Springfield), hiking trails, a butterfly house, golf courses galore, a waterpark, etc. Do some homework before you go & I'll bet you'll find something to your liking
I am not taking any offense whatsoever. Why would I take offense on how you raise your children and their inability to accept a gift without bad things happening to their lives? To be frank, I have never heard such a thing, so I am intrigued.
And, no. I have no idea why you feel that way. So, it makes it even more intriguing and interesting to a nosey person like myself
With college costs the way they are, and a DD who will be a senior in HS in the fall, the whole "should we or shouldn't we pay for an adult Child's vacation" is going to be a moot point for us until she graduates (and probably for a few years afterwards). Our only "vacation" will be getting her back and forth to campus. College is EXPENSIVE, y'all.
If she gets the degree she is talking about right now, she should get a job that will enable her to EASILY afford her own vacations (she will outearn us for sure).
We vacation together many times a year. We have a vacation home near Disney and also a cabin in Gatlinburg. My children have open invitations to use either whenever they want, but I'm not paying to get them there. They are very self sufficient and don't need that kind of help from me. .
If you have a vacation home near Disney, why were you asking for recommendations in Dec around WDW?
It was just 2 clicks on threads you started....In SEARCH
With college costs the way they are, and a DD who will be a senior in HS in the fall, the whole "should we or shouldn't we pay for an adult Child's vacation" is going to be a moot point for us until she graduates (and probably for a few years afterwards). Our only "vacation" will be getting her back and forth to campus. College is EXPENSIVE, y'all.
If she gets the degree she is talking about right now, she should get a job that will enable her to EASILY afford her own vacations (she will outearn us for sure).
That's why it's hard to have a discussion like this with strangers. Some adult kids have more disposable income than their parents in the early years with fewer responsibilities. Those parents are funding retirement, college for younger siblings, a larger household, etc.
You piqued my curiosity. That was a very interesting read. I have always found history fascinating.If you have a vacation home near Disney, why were you asking for recommendations in Dec around WDW?
This is an EXCELLENT comment and I suspect PP's would be making very different comments if the question had been "I'm planning and paying for a vacation and expect my college-aged or older kids to all get on-board. They apparently don't want to and I'm hurt and offended. What's wrong with them?"Heck, we dumped the kids at the grandparents several times to go on trips, so it's unlikely I'd want to vacation with them now that they're grown.
I don't think the kids ever went on vacation with us once they were in college. Scheduling reasons, not cost. We paid for older DD's airfare to attend younger DD's college graduation. And more than a few times we paid younger DD's airfare from Florida to here and back after she graduated.
I doubt they'd even want to vacation with us anymore, but I'm open to the possibility. Most likely shared finances, however.
Father-in-law invited us to Italy years ago and offered to pay for everything. We went, but I insisted on paying my family's costs. His philosophy is whoever pays gets to make all the rules. I'm the same way to an extent, so I paid because DW and I wanted to follow OUR rules.
I dont have kids, so its hard for me to say what I think is the right way to do things yet lol But from what I've learned from my parents growing up is the "separate but equal" mentality. So if one sibling has to miss out on something, its made up to them with something else at a later date. IF they deserve it, if someone is left out due to their behavior then that is their own problem.
I think that in your scenario if sibling B is helped out in aspects outside of going on vacation, thats its completely reasonable to treat sibling A to a vacation without sibling B. Just because sibling A doesnt NEED to be treated, I think its a nice gesture if you can do it.