I'm confused.
He's seeing someone or not? How far away does he live?
Friends is one thing but if he is seeing someone don't get your hopes up! You don't want to be with a man who juggles multiple women or leads someone (either of you) along.
Distance can be a huge factor in a relationship. My BF lives 35 minutes away and between work, our kids schedules, etc. it is extremely challenging. You just can't pop over to see each other when one of you is having a bad day. We live in the Northeast so winter weather makes it even more challenging!
Yeah, um....it's complicated.
Distance-wise, we are looking at about 11 hours driving. Not a short distance for sure. But, it is still closer than most of the East Coast, closer than Florida, for sure closer than the Western US. You are for sure right. You don't get to just pop on over when you want to see them.
But, I believe that and I've seen that long-distance relationships CAN work. One of my good friends from the site met a guy in Texas, about 15 hours away, and now they are pretty close to being engaged. We've both talked about not wanting to put a "Distance Limit" on God. And while we agreed it would be hard, if that person is The One, then they are The One, and you just have to make it work until you can be together.
The gal he is seeing/was seeing, is actually about the same distance-wise, a little bit shorter of a drive time-wise.
Onto the "Is he single?" part. Argh. Yes, I think.
The last time we spoke about her was weeks ago, during the "I don't want to lead you on, but I've met someone" conversation. Ever since, he has never mentioned her to me, part of which I think is his attempt to spare my feelings, which was kind of him.
The last time he saw her was late October, when she went to visit. She posted a pic of them together (I'm not a FB stalker, but she tagged him in her photo, so it showed up on my feed) shortly thereafter. There haven't been any photos or conversations since then, publicly at least.
Honestly, I didn't really think much of it until somewhat recently when he started contacting me more frequently. It just kind of popped up out of nowhere (Don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining, but it was a noticeable change) I got to wondering if things didn't work out for them.
In December, he actually had a conference in her home town, the place where they originally met, and he told me he was looking for things to do in his free time. After the fact, I asked if he met up with her, and he just said no. No explanation, no details. Just, no. So, considering he was in town, and they didn't meet up, assuming he was being truthful with me...that's what I'm basing my instinct on. But, of course, maybe she was unavailable or out of town. So, it could mean nothing.
In our conversations, he has still not mentioned her. He tells me his plans pretty often, and he never mentions her. And, he pretty much gives me an hour by hour analysis of his plans. There is never a "Somewhere in between there, I need to Skype with..." or "I probably need to set aside some time to call..." But again, that means nothing, because he never talked about her before so...