WOW!
This has been such a help in many ways! First off, my son has already been diagnosed with ADHD and is on multiple medications. He also has a component of OCD for which he is also medicated for. He has been on meds since 4 years old and will be 7 next week. He was a premie, only 1 pound 7 oz when he was born, and his BIOLOGICAL mother, ( he is adopted) exposed him to cocaine and alcohol and smoking, so he has had a rough start.
I took him to WDW last year by myself, ( at the time, I was a single mom, I have since gotton married). It was our dream trip I had been saving for since the adoption. We went for 12 days and for the most part had a ball. we did it BIG, stayed at the Wilderness lodge and did all the character breakfasts, fantasmic ,
MNSSHP, we were even there for Halloween and went trick or treating at WDW! There was never a NO you cant have that, it was a totally permissive trip. I planned it that way. It was a once in a lifetime extravagance.
The hard part about it was, One I was alone with him, and he decided to have multiple meltdowns all over the world. Nothing precipated them, I never knew when they were coming. We would have good days, and then horrible days. We could have a good day and then poof out of nowhere we would have a major meltdown and have to return to the hotel, which was usually the worst part of the meltdown, trying to get back while he is screaming at me. HE would be screaming at me on the ferry back to the WL and telling what a horrible mother I was, how he hated me, how mean I was, and usually hitting or kicking or some other kind of abuse. I never knew how to handle it, I was mortified and did not make eye contact with anyone, for fear they would think I was crazy. Im sure they all thought...Oh my God, what a brat, how can that lady let her son act like that? On the contrary, I am a pretty strict parent and require respect and good behavior. Usually when he is good, he is very good, polite, respectful and in fact I often get compliments on his behavior and his politeness etc... There were sometimes when I considered taking him to the ER because I could not control him. The worst part was that I was alone, and had no one to help me. Eventually he would snap out of it as fast as it came on. I was in touch with his neurologist who adjusted his meds while we were there, but it takes time for them to kick in.
We made it through the trip, with mostly great memories, I always try to remember how far he has come from his beginnings.
Now we are leaving in 14 days for our next trip, staying at the WL again( love that place), for our family honeymoon. I got married in Sept. and went on a reg honeymoon with my husband for 2 weeks. My son stayed with my parents and was great for them. We promised him if he was good while we were gone, that we would take this trip to WDW to celebrate our beginning as a FAMILY!
he was so excited and lived up to his part of the bargain. So we leave on Nov 30th and stay til Dec 6th. This time going to
MVMCP and the candlelight processional. I have a special surprise planned for him and my husband at MK through gifts of a lifetime,
where he will meet Mickey Mouse, go on a scavenger hunt and at the end he will receive a present to commerate our trip. We are also going to celebrate his 7th bday while we are there, his bday is the 22nd, but we can celebrate it again there. This trip is again all ablut him, and I hope we can make it through without any major meltdowns.
He has been having more and more of them lately here at home, and we are going to start counseling for him this week. I was reading the above replies, and first heard about ODD. I looked it up and boy! does that sound like him. I will take the info with us when we go this week and see what they think. I am so greatful that i read this board, because it has given me a feeling that we are not alone in this world with these children. Sometimes I feel like my child is the only one who behaves this way, and I feel that I am doing something wrong in my parenting to make him this way. It is very discouraging when he is having one of these meltdowns, and I am in public and dont know what to do.
If anyone has any ideas on how to handle these meltdowns while at WDW, in case they happen, i would appreciate any help. At least this time, I will have my husband with me for help. My son, loves and adores him, so he is a postive influence on him.
We are very excited about this trip and cant wait to CELEBRATE all of our happiness of the past year.
Thanks for listening and for any advice anyone may have!