Today would have been my Toby's birthday...please join me in toasting the gift of our Toby for 25 years. If you are able, please join us in lighting a candle in honor of all children, of any age, who have gone before us. Losing one's child pre-birth, as a newborn, infant, toddler, child, teen, young adult or adult is devastating - a bereaved parent's heart never heals, there is no "closure:...but we do find joy, laughter and peace again. Sheila, dear friend, you are especially in my heart and thoughts tonight. Thank you, dear RC friends.