amyhughes
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Serious question: What is she getting from this guy that she can't get (or feels she can't get) elsewhere in her life?
Her parents don't like him.
Her friends don't like him.
He isn't buying her things (she's buying him things).
He isn't taking her places (she's taking him places).
She has been asked out by another guy, so it isn't that she's unattractive to other young men.
Girls don't hang out with guys like this for no reason. She's getting SOMETHING from this relationship -- what is it?
I've been in a similar situation. Family & friends hated my boyfriend. He was a leech ( I got to pay his gas money throughout college and Disney trips, and a laptop), took him to Disney World for his College graduation, and yeah had plenty of other opportunities to date other guys. He wasn't even that good looking when I look back at pictures. People just shook their heads for 3.5 years. But, I stuck with it to the bitter end. I was wrapped up and in there too deep to see what a complete *** I was being. I suppose looking back, I connected in some way with this guy. We had a similar brand of humor, he was out there in a way I had rarely seen. His personality (and this kills me) reminds me now of a con artist. And he was. We shared a job and he ended up stealing money from it, I got blamed. But, what I was getting out of it was someone who for whatever reason seemed to connect with me almost on a primal level. Weird I know. But, what are you gonna do? Not saying that is what is going on here, but sometimes you can just get taken in by someone even if that person is your poison.