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After reading this article http://groundedparents.com/2014/11/26/can-we-please-stop-gaslighting-our-kids/ I figured that you all might have great advice to avoid this at the parks.
After reading this article http://groundedparents.com/2014/11/26/can-we-please-stop-gaslighting-our-kids/ I figured that you all might have great advice to avoid this at the parks.
Gaslighting is very serious psychological abuse over a period of time.
I'm not sure how something like that would relate to the average family enjoying a vacation together.
Yes I read the article.Did you read the article? I'm not sure "gaslighting" is the best term to use, but the article is basically about helping children deal with holiday overload, which can be applied to WDW as well.
Well, yes. But the article the OP linked to is trending on facebook, so you can expect to see the term used a lot in this watered-down form. "Gas lighting" is set to become the new "bullying."Gaslighting is very serious psychological abuse over a period of time.
I'm not sure how something like that would relate to the average family enjoying a vacation together.
Well, yes. But the article the OP linked to is trending on facebook, so you can expect to see the term used a lot in this watered-down form. "Gas lighting" is set to become the new "bullying."
If the article is trying to infer that by requiring children to behave in public parents are "gaslighting" the kids I want to slap whoever wrote it. They are the types that are putting kids out in the world that throw fits no one wants to witness. Behaving in public is not up for negotiating or debate in my world. It is done, or else. Fits can be thrown at home but never, ever in view of others.I get what the article is saying, and I agree with it... to an extent. We as parents shouldn't put our kids in situations where they are set up to fail. I don't however feel that its wrong to teach them that public meltdowns are unacceptable. Saying that you are not allowed to subject others to an obnoxious display of your anger and frustration is NOT the same as saying you are not allowed to feel that way. I feel that telling children that they need to calm down is NOT wrong. Its teaching them appropriate social behavior. The middle of a crowded department store is not the appropriate place to teach coping skills or try to reason with a toddler. "Calm down now or we are leaving" is the appropriate response.
Yeah, I think the author really believe this way.Not getting this article. When I was a kid we drove hours and hours to visit relatives almost every holiday. My brother still does this on certain holidays with his kids. Should nobody be doing this because when the kids get restless, it's "gaslighting?" The parents also used to take us to see choral presentations at the Kennedy Center. When you are a kid that is pretty boring. But gaslighting??? Would locking them up in a plane for a few hours be better? Or just going to movies or events that THEY want to experience? Or are they suggesting you just stay home? And for goodness sake if your kid doesn't want to sit on Santa's lap don't make them do it, but geez, saying going to visit Santa is "gaslighting?"
Nobody's asking the kids to act like adults or to stifle their emotions, but they do need to learn to have patience and bear it with grace. I do not know if the author is using the broad brush, but if they are suggesting that expecting children to behave in public is "gaslighting" then I can't say I agree with that.
Honestly I don't think this is such a big deal.
No one in my family expects you to sit at the table when your done. You can get up if you want.
If the article is trying to infer that by requiring children to behave in public parents are "gaslighting" the kids I want to slap whoever wrote it.
I think, in many cases, parents expect too little out of their children. Expectations are a good thing, imo. They teach kids what is acceptable in different situations.
I did opt to start reading it. But had to stop when they said that if you are a woman you probably have experienced gas lighting in the context of a personal or professional relationship. That is simply absurd to say thatIf you're going to have a violent response to something, you might as well read it.
I did opt to start reading it. But had to stop when they said that if you are a woman you probably have experienced gas lighting in the context of a personal or professional relationship. That is simply absurd to say that[QUOTE="bumbershoot, post: 54796838, member: 141567"
If you're going to have a violent response to something, you might as well read it.