Mom "Lunch Shamed" For Giving Her Daughter Oreos

[Pembo]

It's not lunch without chocolate in it.

 

[lauradis]

I am not saying I agree, I will just explain it to you.

Potatoes are a vegetable. If Susie has a potato, that is her vegetable, so by the "standards" she still needs a grain to complete her meal.

So lets get his straight I can send in a bag of potato chips, a slice of wonder bread, that would be a complete meal to the school. lol

 

[lauradis]

My gramma packed me the best school lunches ever and they always had a treat like oreos or something in them. They're one of my favorite memories from my childhood. I'd be so mad if I couldn't do the same kind of thing for my kid cause of a stupid, self-righteous teacher.

I think the teachers are just doing their job and following policy, its the school board you should blame that make the silly rules.

 

[Mkrop]

Schools have rules and the rules should be followed...with that said some school rules are ridiculous....the Oreo example is the perfect example of this. The parents should work with the school to change these rules whether they are prom attire, regular dress code, vacations or lunches. And I would be the mom who sent Oreos but I would be up at school to get it changed and telling them to stop parenting my kid.

And as a person works as a lunch monitor, I am the one who helps the kids open their yogurts etc, tell them to stay in their seats, clean up spills etc. Soooooooo many of them throw away all of that uber organic stuff you are sending in. I had one little girl have a complete meltdown bc mom must have tried a new organic bread that had seeds in it. Or parents send in way too much for the little ones to eat, they dont have all day to nibble. That is the real shame....not the Oreos that may get sent in.

 

[Laura66]

Schools have rules and the rules should be followed...with that said some school rules are ridiculous....the Oreo example is the perfect example of this. The parents should work with the school to change these rules whether they are prom attire, regular dress code, vacations or lunches. And I would be the mom who sent Oreos but I would be up at school to get it changed and telling them to stop parenting my kid.

And as a person works as a lunch monitor, I am the one who helps the kids open their yogurts etc, tell them to stay in their seats, clean up spills etc. Soooooooo many of them throw away all of that uber organic stuff you are sending in. I had one little girl have a complete meltdown bc mom must have tried a new organic bread that had seeds in it. Or parents send in way too much for the little ones to eat, they dont have all day to nibble. That is the real shame....not the Oreos that may get sent in.

That's my job as well! I see the same thing as well!
I also see some great lunches parents send in - pasta and fruit salads, veggie dips, amazing sandwiches - and I wanna say "can you tell your mom to send some in for me!"

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

You know what's funny? I just talked to DD about school lunches. We get the menu sent home and my kids will eat most of it, but I asked what happens if she doesn't like something. She said she gets some kind of "special"... It's a string cheese, yogurt, and dinner roll. That's a lunch??? I mean I guess it's better than going hungry but dang! At least throw some fruit or Oreos in and make it a square meal

 

[Paula Sedley-Burke]

I live in England so you guys owe me one white t shirt. It now has my lunch on it where I spat it out in disbelief! ( it wasn't oreos ) Seriously? Despite anything else what are they doing going through the childs bag lol. i would excuse her of 'intent to steal'

We call this nanny state. Too much power. I went through a stage as a child where all I would eat was penguin bars ( an English candy bar ) it was that or nothing. Mum said fine she'll get bored. I did and grew out of it and no I did not turn black and white..

 

[Dawnlight]

I agree to a certain extent that parents should have full control over what they provide for their children for lunch.

Where I tend to have that internal wince come from are the days when I am working at elem school or just going to have lunch with my own kids and see 3rd graders drinking Mt Dew or sugar free Red Bull with lunch.

And I'm not talking about once a blue moon or for a special treat, regularly and consistently a few kids that come to mind that have Mt Dew as their lunch drink.

This is the problem. There are a few irresponsible parents, so the school feels that they need to collectively policy and punish everyone else. Personally, I don't think the schools need to butt in even where those families are concerned, but if they feel they need to do something about it, then they should take it up on an individual basis, not make it seem like it's a widespread problem.

Schools are afraid of dealing face-to-face, one-on-one with parents (or even children, in many cases). Case in point; my girls ride the bus to school, and since the beginning of the year there have been issues with a couple of kids. Instead of dealing with those individuals and their parents, they've now made the kids sit in assigned seats until the end of the year. My girls, and all the other well-behaved children, now are forced to sit with people they don't want to or even like. Collective punishment is ridiculous and not fit for a free and democratic country.

 

[ELSA711]

My child is told everyday for two years - she is 4 now she can't have cookies or snacks I send her cause they are not healthy.
Last week the new rule is no go-gurts.
She said the teachers said they aren't healthy and they won't let her eat them now.

Last time I checked I was the child's mother.

 

[ELSA711]

You know what's funny? I just talked to DD about school lunches. We get the menu sent home and my kids will eat most of it, but I asked what happens if she doesn't like something. She said she gets some kind of "special"... It's a string cheese, yogurt, and dinner roll. That's a lunch??? I mean I guess it's better than going hungry but dang! At least throw some fruit or Oreos in and make it a square meal

I think your kids go to same school as mine, that's our kids lunch bag special too. I'm thinking, what, no wonder they are starving when they come home everyday

 

[ronandannette]

Thank goodness we have never had the lunch police in any of the school's my dd's went to.

Amen, sister!

The only lunch 'rule' at my daughters' elementary school is no peanut butter/nut butter/no nuts in their lunches. And that is no even for the entire school, it's on a class by class basis!! Last year she could have peanut butter sandwiches every day if she wanted, but this year there is at least one child in her class with a nut allergy so we've been asked not to include any nut products. I've been really careful about this, but if I 'accidentally' sent a peanut butter sandwich or something I'm not sure I'd even hear about it.
Honestly this is all getting out of hand. Send Oreos....send slim jims!!! Hell my daughter usually has a snack pack pudding in her lunch; it's her treat!

As far as I know, all schools here are "nut-free" zones now, and that was controversial enough at the time it was implemented. Going "cookie-free" would have been impossible!! My DS was not a sandwich eater, never packed him one once during his school years. Virtually every single day of elementary school he took hot rods (peperoni sticks), string cheese, crackers, pudding cup, carrots and a juice box.

It's not lunch without chocolate in it.

Yep! DS always had a treat-sized chocolate bar or two, complete with a hand-drawn smiley face and XOX written on the bag by Mom! (Since he graduated last June I miss buying those little chocolate bars...I wonder if he'll let me write on his lunch bag when he starts college in the fall...)

 

[ELSA711]

It's not lunch without chocolate in it.

I like to pop in a Hershey kiss every so often for my kids.
I work early in morning and don't typically see them off to school, so they like finding a 'mommy kiss' in their lunch boxes

 

[kymom99]

I am a teacher and one of our instructional assistants who had kids at our school actually went to the snack machine every day and got her son a pack of peanut m&ms for lunch. Swear to God. She said it was all he would eat.

 

[weeniecat2442]

Just curious if it it's common these days for schools to have "healthy" food policies? other than nut-allergy related ones

 

[rwdavis2]

Kids are not obese because of what they eat for lunch at school. Part of the problem is that phys ed and recess get phased out or reduced as well as what the kids eat at home and sitting in front of electronics for too much time.

 

[LBIJim]

So lets get his straight I can send in a bag of potato chips, a slice of wonder bread, that would be a complete meal to the school. lol

You'd probably be executed. They mean $4 per pound baby Yukon gold Potatoes and a slice of $7 per loaf artisan 12-grain bread.

 

[LBIJim]

As far as I recall, cookies were often part of the approved balanced healthy lunches the cafeteria served. Both when me and my kids went to school. Not Oreos, but a school-made or packaged snickerdoodle, chocolate chip, or oatmeal raisin.

 

[soccerdad72]

Our school recommends healthy alternatives for snacks (for the younger grades that have snack time), but as far as I know, they've never lectured anyone about the food they send in.

Somewhat off-topic, but can I just say I hate this new word trend - adding "shamed" to the end of any word (e.g. "fat shamed", "skinny shamed", "lunch shamed").

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

I'm so glad my kids are adults and out of school. I don't think I'd have the patience for all of this these days.

 

[aaarcher86]

Just curious if it it's common these days for schools to have "healthy" food policies? other than nut-allergy related ones

Both of our recent schools had a healthy snack policy.

The only person that said something to my kid was the one teacher I shut down, though. We still get the generic 'please remember to send healthy snacks' comment at the bottom of weekly emails, but that's about it.

It was pretty amusing that the teacher was cruising down morbidly obese lane but telling me I can't give my kid a freaking snack bag of Cheetos.