Maleficent Dragon
Member Since 2004; lost previous login.
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- Mar 9, 2013
This is a kind-of-sort-of rant/complaint post, but not too much. I am not angry or upset. Maybe more of a vent. 
If you have followed, you know I am taking my first solo trip in December. I was to go with my younger sister, but she is preggers and due at the end of October. My husband and 17-year-old daughter are not interested in going. As I borrowed the points in from my 2016 use year, I am going. I could sell the reservation, but I dont want to.
I am a bit nervous at times about going by myself, but I will not be completely alone. I am a chatty person, friendly, the kind that likes to take pictures for strangers, etc and I have a friend from up North that will be there during much of my trip and we are planning to meet up a few times.
In the 21 years I have known the woman who is my MIL, our relationship has been very rocky. Over the past few years, things have actually been okay and we get along decently. We went on a cruise with FIL/MIL and my SIL and her family last year and in 2013 we all did Disney together. In late 2013 my daughter, MIL, SIL and myself went to Disney for 10 days. It was weird being there without the rest of the family, but we had a decent time. So...things are much better now. Before 2012, there is no way we could have done any of that. I am so grateful all of that is in the past.
So, to today.... my MIL, though there is a decent relationship and love there, she has some weird jealousies when it comes to me for whatever reason. If I have something, she wants it. She imitates/copies/gets/mimics everything I have have, get and do.
FIL told MIL that he didn't want to do WDW this year because he is irritated by all of the FP stuff, price increases with closures and cutbacks and he is annoyed that Elsa took over WDW. LOL
When MIL found out that I was going, all of the sudden she started talking about her going. FIL piped in and reminded her that they are not going this year since they are going to Hawaii, Mexico, the Caribbean and two of their timeshares. She learned last weekend that my sister is pregnant and that I will be going solo. She asked me what kind of room I had and I told her a studio, which is a fold-out couch and bed. She began to hint about her possibly going. I was polite and played dumb, like I didn't get it that she wanted me to ask her if she wanted to go. She mentioned how nice Disney is in December, that it is one of her favorite times to go and she likes MVMCP. A while later she asked me if I considered asking somebody else to go with me and I said no because I am paying for the points and I am not giving up my bed. (She is the type of person who would NEVER sleep on a pull-out couch, it would be beneath her) She kind of seemed disappointed when I said that and then she dropped it and walked into the other room, kind of pouting.
Anyhow, bottom line is that I will not invite her to go along. I love her, but even if she offered to pay for all of the meals, my AP and airfare there is no way I would do it. She has to be catered to and I am not the person to do that. We have nothing in common and it would be a very long 9 days. We would have nothing to talk about. I do not know how you could spend 9 days with somebody you could not have conversation with just so you can go to Disney.
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UPDATE:
Not anymore. We went over today for a visit. MIL hinted at it again. I nipped it in the bud. I was polite and explained that I was really looking forward to doing Disney my way. Getting up when I wanted, as early as I wanted, staying out until the park is closed, eating what I want, when I want, etc. The hinting continued just a bit and I followed up by saying, "sometimes I think it might be fun to have somebody with me, but I think the most important thing in that decision is having somebody with you that you have things in common with. It would be really difficult to hang out with somebody for 9 days where you really do not share interests, conversation topics and such. I would hate to have somebody come along for the sake of just not being alone and get to the point where you dont want to talk anymore....or worse, come back and there be friction between you because you have nothing in common and you didn't enjoy the company. That would be horrible and it is not worth it." At that point she got it!!!!
If you have followed, you know I am taking my first solo trip in December. I was to go with my younger sister, but she is preggers and due at the end of October. My husband and 17-year-old daughter are not interested in going. As I borrowed the points in from my 2016 use year, I am going. I could sell the reservation, but I dont want to.
I am a bit nervous at times about going by myself, but I will not be completely alone. I am a chatty person, friendly, the kind that likes to take pictures for strangers, etc and I have a friend from up North that will be there during much of my trip and we are planning to meet up a few times.In the 21 years I have known the woman who is my MIL, our relationship has been very rocky. Over the past few years, things have actually been okay and we get along decently. We went on a cruise with FIL/MIL and my SIL and her family last year and in 2013 we all did Disney together. In late 2013 my daughter, MIL, SIL and myself went to Disney for 10 days. It was weird being there without the rest of the family, but we had a decent time. So...things are much better now. Before 2012, there is no way we could have done any of that. I am so grateful all of that is in the past.
So, to today.... my MIL, though there is a decent relationship and love there, she has some weird jealousies when it comes to me for whatever reason. If I have something, she wants it. She imitates/copies/gets/mimics everything I have have, get and do.
FIL told MIL that he didn't want to do WDW this year because he is irritated by all of the FP stuff, price increases with closures and cutbacks and he is annoyed that Elsa took over WDW. LOL
When MIL found out that I was going, all of the sudden she started talking about her going. FIL piped in and reminded her that they are not going this year since they are going to Hawaii, Mexico, the Caribbean and two of their timeshares. She learned last weekend that my sister is pregnant and that I will be going solo. She asked me what kind of room I had and I told her a studio, which is a fold-out couch and bed. She began to hint about her possibly going. I was polite and played dumb, like I didn't get it that she wanted me to ask her if she wanted to go. She mentioned how nice Disney is in December, that it is one of her favorite times to go and she likes MVMCP. A while later she asked me if I considered asking somebody else to go with me and I said no because I am paying for the points and I am not giving up my bed. (She is the type of person who would NEVER sleep on a pull-out couch, it would be beneath her) She kind of seemed disappointed when I said that and then she dropped it and walked into the other room, kind of pouting.Anyhow, bottom line is that I will not invite her to go along. I love her, but even if she offered to pay for all of the meals, my AP and airfare there is no way I would do it. She has to be catered to and I am not the person to do that. We have nothing in common and it would be a very long 9 days. We would have nothing to talk about. I do not know how you could spend 9 days with somebody you could not have conversation with just so you can go to Disney.
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UPDATE:
Not anymore.
We went over today for a visit. MIL hinted at it again. I nipped it in the bud. I was polite and explained that I was really looking forward to doing Disney my way. Getting up when I wanted, as early as I wanted, staying out until the park is closed, eating what I want, when I want, etc. The hinting continued just a bit and I followed up by saying, "sometimes I think it might be fun to have somebody with me, but I think the most important thing in that decision is having somebody with you that you have things in common with. It would be really difficult to hang out with somebody for 9 days where you really do not share interests, conversation topics and such. I would hate to have somebody come along for the sake of just not being alone and get to the point where you dont want to talk anymore....or worse, come back and there be friction between you because you have nothing in common and you didn't enjoy the company. That would be horrible and it is not worth it." At that point she got it!!!!
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!!! LOL I am such a mean mommie 
I would hate for that to happen. I am definitely standing my ground. 
What I am expecting to happen is my MIL will tell my FIL she wants to go to Disney and they will book something for November. She will have to get there before me because it is a competition.
