Happy Hump day to everyone!
I am feeling a little sad..... DS21 (Josh) is finding the adjustment to night shift/ and
his new job quite difficult....I understand, he's not had any responsibility or pressing commitments since he graduated HS in June 2011. I've let him stay home, rent free, responsibility free and not pushed getting a job until recently. I've tried to be supportive, but of course to him I always come off as the mean one who just doesn't get it.... this morning at 6:45am, after his shift (2nd shift by the way) he came into my room and told me he wants to quit. Ummmm NO WAY! I said, and he gets all attitud'ish on me. Says I don't listen. He said he has another job lined up through his girlfriend's mom's brother who works for a company installing windows. That he'll make $18/hr doing that instead of $15 at Home Depot, and it'll be DAYTIME hours Mon to Friday....Well....that sounds all fine and dandy, except how will he get to this job, I say?? He has no car, which was the main reason for him working in the first place to get a car. He says "you said you'd take me to the dealer to look for a car" I tell him, that YES, when he has the money, we'll take him to look, but that's going to take time to acquire!! I'm not paying for a car when I'm worried myself about keeping up the bills while his Dad is off work with his injury.
So he stomps out of my room throwing "Forget It, I'm never talking to you again" in my face -- and that I never understand. He's ummmmm what age????? 21????? I don't know, it's times like these I just want to say, don't talk to me about it , talk to your dad!
My relationship with him is fragile enough to begin with, I don't want to rock the boat!!! I'm always the bad one in his eyes, the one who's not supportive..he has a good way of just turning everything around to make me look like the witch with a B
I've had it really, it makes me want to cry. 2 days into his job and he's already looking at quitting! That's crazy, it took so much effort to get him this job, to arrange his resume, help him prepare for the interview. I was so proud of him, now I'm embarrased to say my pride is slipping to dissapointment
I don't want ot be disspointed in him, I want him to find his way!!!
So, I have left it in DH's hands, he has a better way of getting things across to Josh without looking like the A hole. Josh will listen to his dad more. I do want to support him, I just need him to learn commitment and to start taking some responsibility for his future, because it's draining me. He wants to be an electrician, but he has to realize, HE needs to go out, find the company to apprentice with, do some of the leg work, mom can't always be coming to his rescue...
And, he won't be making the 80 K per year he's hoping to to start, he'll start at the bottom with dirty work even as an electrician!!! every thing in life isn't easy, and some things take work.....I don't know if he'll get that, but I sure hope he grows up some and starts acting more his age
Blah....I just needed to talk to someone. Thanks for listening guys!
Marie