mdsoccermom
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Sorry, duplicate post.
Can I ask why you felt the need to mention she was divorced?
My mom and I are in the same age frame as you and your daughter. She is starting to drive me crazy too. I just told her straight up, my house my rules. She, too, cried. I just don't get the drama. Should I have to (your daughter as well) not say anything for fear of hurting your feelings? I actually had the conversation with my mother just this morning about how she interrupts. It is rude. I was trying to have a conversation with my own DD10 and she kept interrupting when both of us were talking. I kindly asked her to stop interrupting so I could finish my sentence. To which she replied, "well, excuse me for talking." Again, rude. Since I was a child, I have not been a morning person. Yet, she wants to have these deep conversations with my every morning. I try to tell her nicely that I am just not a morning person but she doesn't listen. She watches my children when I go to work so I see her every day though.
Just because she had a disagreement with you just not mean she disrespects you. Maybe she respects you enough to want to have a conversation with you?
In either case, talk to her but no need to cry. Talk to her like you are both adults. Good luck.
Can I ask why you felt the need to mention she was divorced?
My mom and I are in the same age frame as you and your daughter. She is starting to drive me crazy too. I just told her straight up, my house my rules. She, too, cried. I just don't get the drama. Should I have to (your daughter as well) not say anything for fear of hurting your feelings? I actually had the conversation with my mother just this morning about how she interrupts. It is rude. I was trying to have a conversation with my own DD10 and she kept interrupting when both of us were talking. I kindly asked her to stop interrupting so I could finish my sentence. To which she replied, "well, excuse me for talking." Again, rude. Since I was a child, I have not been a morning person. Yet, she wants to have these deep conversations with my every morning. I try to tell her nicely that I am just not a morning person but she doesn't listen. She watches my children when I go to work so I see her every day though.
Just because she had a disagreement with you just not mean she disrespects you. Maybe she respects you enough to want to have a conversation with you?
In either case, talk to her but no need to cry. Talk to her like you are both adults. Good luck.
My adult daughter who is 36, divorced was so nasty to me this past week-end and really took the wind out of my sails. I have been crying and can't seem to get past it yet. She sent me flowers and apologized but I am still upset.
It started when we were visiting for a few days and I was making coffee for morning and she wanted me to do it differently and said if I couldn't do it the way she wanted we could go stay with my son and dil instead. I was shocked and the next day I couldn't stop crying. She could tell I was upset but then she had to tell me the things about me that drive her crazy. Says I interrupt and ask too many questions, or ask stupid questions. Also says that I try to one up her when there are get togethers and bring a dish to pass. I now am afraid to say anything to her and have it be the wrong thing. Anyone have this type of experience and have any words of wisdom, I am 63 years old and usually fairly well liked and respected.
I did ask her if anything new was going on in her life and she said no and not to make this about her. We usually werevery close.
Can I ask why you felt the need to mention she was divorced?
My mom and I are in the same age frame as you and your daughter. She is starting to drive me crazy too. I just told her straight up, my house my rules. She, too, cried. I just don't get the drama. Should I have to (your daughter as well) not say anything for fear of hurting your feelings? I actually had the conversation with my mother just this morning about how she interrupts. It is rude. I was trying to have a conversation with my own DD10 and she kept interrupting when both of us were talking. I kindly asked her to stop interrupting so I could finish my sentence. To which she replied, "well, excuse me for talking." Again, rude. Since I was a child, I have not been a morning person. Yet, she wants to have these deep conversations with my every morning. I try to tell her nicely that I am just not a morning person but she doesn't listen. She watches my children when I go to work so I see her every day though.
Just because she had a disagreement with you just not mean she disrespects you. Maybe she respects you enough to want to have a conversation with you?
In either case, talk to her but no need to cry. Talk to her like you are both adults. Good luck.
Can I ask why you felt the need to mention she was divorced?
My mom and I are in the same age frame as you and your daughter. She is starting to drive me crazy too. I just told her straight up, my house my rules. She, too, cried. I just don't get the drama. Should I have to (your daughter as well) not say anything for fear of hurting your feelings? I actually had the conversation with my mother just this morning about how she interrupts. It is rude. I was trying to have a conversation with my own DD10 and she kept interrupting when both of us were talking. I kindly asked her to stop interrupting so I could finish my sentence. To which she replied, "well, excuse me for talking." Again, rude. Since I was a child, I have not been a morning person. Yet, she wants to have these deep conversations with my every morning. I try to tell her nicely that I am just not a morning person but she doesn't listen. She watches my children when I go to work so I see her every day though.
Just because she had a disagreement with you just not mean she disrespects you. Maybe she respects you enough to want to have a conversation with you?
In either case, talk to her but no need to cry. Talk to her like you are both adults. Good luck.
OMG!!!! Just a side comment here... But, what is it with some women and ego and cooking!!!But , the kids love my cooking and so I like to make their favorite dishes but won't be able to do that anymore because she thinks that I am upstaging her. That was a shocker to me.
We go down to visit about every 6 weeks to see our kids and granddaughter. My son has a very small house and my daughter has much more room. Actually we bought the house when she short saled her home so she had a decent place to go. I NEVER would mention this to her so that is not in the equation.
But I think maybe we should rethink going down, it is only 2 hours away and really not necessary, But not bragging, as far as moms go I am pretty darn good. My daughter has a sharp tongue at times but it just rolls off my back but this one really broke my heart for some reason. I feel like it will never be the same again.
OMG!!!! Just a side comment here... But, what is it with some women and ego and cooking!!!
My MIL is this way.
It would be a big issue to even bring things to contribute to Christmas dinner.
OP, my advice on that... When you are in her home, you really must defer. The coffee situation might be the perfect example of that. Don't jump in and assume.
At this stage, any remnant of a mother-child dynamic might not work out well.