So Angry Right Now - Need to Vent

[Zandy595]

Long story short, DH broke the shower and had to shut the water off to the whole house. If the water is turned on it shoots out of the handle and can't be turned off. He just needed a part to fix it, but instead of going out to get the part and coming home, he decided it was a good idea to go to a movie with his parents. This was at 2:30 this afternoon and he's still not home. So we have not been able to use the water at all. No flushing toilets, no washing hands, no making dinner... I had to take DS to my parent's house so he could take a shower and use the bathroom. If DH doesn't get home and get it fixed we're going to have to go back over to my parent's house to sleep tonight. And he doesn't get why I'm angry.

 

[Andtototoo]

Long story short, DH broke the shower and had to shut the water off to the whole house. If the water is turned on it shoots out of the handle and can't be turned off. He just needed a part to fix it, but instead of going out to get the part and coming home, he decided it was a good idea to go to a movie with his parents. This was at 2:30 this afternoon and he's still not home. So we have not been able to use the water at all. No flushing toilets, no washing hands, no making dinner... I had to take DS to my parent's house so he could take a shower and use the bathroom. If DH doesn't get home and get it fixed we're going to have to go back over to my parent's house to sleep tonight. And he doesn't get why I'm angry.

Is he always this oblivious to major problems he causes?

 

[Breezy_Carol]

Can't you just turn off the valve behind the shower so you can turn the rest of the house back on?

I would be peeved also.

 

[Zandy595]

Is he always this oblivious to major problems he causes?

He doesn't think it's a big deal. DS was supposed to go to the movie with them, but decided he didn't want to go, thinking DH wouldn't go then and would stay home and fix the shower. My 16 year old son has better sense than my 42 year old husband. Unfortunately DH didn't take the hint and just left without him.

 

[usnuzuloose]

I would sit down and have a nice pleasant talk. I have gone through some things as well. I would explain that priority's come first. Just make sure your calm. It will come across better. I do understand where you are coming from. My DH has come along way from doing these kinds of things.

 

[Zandy595]

Can't you just turn off the valve behind the shower so you can turn the rest of the house back on?

I would be peeved also.

As far as I know, there isn't a valve behind the shower.

 

[phorsenuf]

Can't you just turn off the valve behind the shower so you can turn the rest of the house back on?

I would be peeved also.

Yeah. Why turn the whole house off? If it's a matter of not being able to access the pipes from behind the wall, there should be another shutoff to that particular room. Then you could still have the kitchen water and another bathroom (if you have another).
I should add that yes, I'd be quite peeved too.

 

[Wishing on a star]

I have to wonder if this might have something to do with, perhaps, pleasing his parents is more important to him than his wife, his home, his children??? Just wondering!

 

[Andtototoo]

He doesn't think it's a big deal. DS was supposed to go to the movie with them, but decided he didn't want to go, thinking DH wouldn't go then and would stay home and fix the shower. My 16 year old son has better sense than my 42 year old husband. Unfortunately DH didn't take the hint and just left without him.

Why hint? Why did you son try and manipulate the situation instead of just saying, "Yo, Dad. Stay home and fix the shower." Why not just TELL him point blank?

 

[westjones]

I would be upset also. I hope it gets fixed tonight!

 

[Zandy595]

I would sit down and have a nice pleasant talk. I have gone through some things as well. I would explain that priority's come first. Just make sure your calm. It will come across better. I do understand where you are coming from. My DH has come along way from doing these kinds of things.

Oh, I tried to get him to realize that the water problem was a much bigger priority than going to a movie that will still be out next weekend. Didn't get me anywhere.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Why hint? Why did you son try and manipulate the situation instead of just saying, "Yo, Dad. Stay home and fix the shower." Why not just TELL him point blank?

Yep, that is one factor that almost provides the answer to my question above.

IMHO, there is absolutely NO justification, blaming the OP, or anything else that makes what the DH did Okay.

I would have informed him that I was calling the closest emergency plumbing service, immediately, at a cost of at least $100.00-150.00 per hour on a Sunday on a holiday weekend...... plus parts and fees..... I NEED water, like NOW... (with a huge, implied, 'period')

 

[kellyg403]

I would be upset as well. Honestly, I am the type of person that when I found out he went to the movies and left me with ZERO water along with our son, I would have called a plumber.

There are consequences to our actions. It sounds like he doesn't prioritize well. From now on, when these things happen I would say honey, if you go to the movies I will call a plumber as I don't want to be without water.

Lay it on the table. If he is clueless to why you are upset he evidently needs to be told exactly what is priority to you and what is not and what will happen should it not be a priority for him.

Sometimes we just gotta say it, my dh doesn't think like I do. So, I can't beat around the bush or hope he will do something because he might know its important to me. I have to just spell it out. It has made the arguments fewer, trust me.

Kelly

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Long story short, DH broke the shower and had to shut the water off to the whole house. If the water is turned on it shoots out of the handle and can't be turned off. He just needed a part to fix it, but instead of going out to get the part and coming home, he decided it was a good idea to go to a movie with his parents. This was at 2:30 this afternoon and he's still not home. So we have not been able to use the water at all. No flushing toilets, no washing hands, no making dinner... I had to take DS to my parent's house so he could take a shower and use the bathroom. If DH doesn't get home and get it fixed we're going to have to go back over to my parent's house to sleep tonight. And he doesn't get why I'm angry.

Yea, it would be time for a "sit down" for sure.

 

[WowLookAtThat]

I have to wonder if this might have something to do with, perhaps, pleasing his parents is more important to him than his wife, his home, his children??? Just wondering!

ok....I don't understand what his parents have to do with this? He broke the shower and didn't think it was such a big deal. There isn't any "pleasing" that enters into this. He had plans with his parents and probably thought that the water thing didn't need to be addressed that fast. There probably isn't an inside, deeper motive for what he did besides being lazy.

 

[Robbi]

OP, I don't blame you for being angry. You and your son should either go to your parents or to a really nice hotel. Your husband can go to his mommy and daddy's house. Then tomorrow, call a plumber.

 

[Wishing on a star]

OP, I don't lame you for being angry. You and your son should eiher go to your parents or to a really nice hotel. Your husband can go to his mommy and daddy's house. Then tomorrow, call a plumber.

Amen.....

If he has not returned home, and is not, at this moment, taking care of the situation... I would not be sitting there waiting for him.

 

[BeachGirlFLA]

I'd be calling a plumber immediately.

 

[Zandy595]

The last thing I want to do tonight is drive back over to my parent's house. It's 25 minutes one way. DS is trying to get his homework done right now. But it's driving me crazy wondering if the water is going to get fixed tonight.



Please tell me where this valve would be, just in case we missed it somehow.

 

[phorsenuf]

The last thing I want to do tonight is drive back over to my parent's house. It's 25 minutes one way. DS is trying to get his homework done right now. But it's driving me crazy wondering if the water is going to get fixed tonight.



Please tell me where this valve would be, just in case we missed it somehow.

Where is your main water shutoff? Find that and then follow the pipes that would go to the bathroom. There should be a valve somewhere along that line. If you can shut that flow off, then you would be able to turn the water back on to the rest of the house.