The DIS Dad's Club XII: Oh... There You Are Perry!

[Disney Commando]

With the bully thing, I understand it, but don't totally agree with it on a whole

Last year one of my friends sons got caught up in the bullying policy, a known class bully was pushing him around rough, and my friends son laid him out, this was 6th grade My friend who was in Dessert Storm 1st time around (Marine) and is now a cop, has taught his son to stand up for himself, he did and both got suspended for 10 days

Back when I went to school (the old school) if you stood up to a bully and were kicking his butt it seemed the teachers paused before they broke things up most likely the bully would not mess with you again knowing you will fight back

I know why they have gotten very strict with this, since alot of kids will not fight back and that is a bully's prey, but if it was your kid that fought back and put the bully in his/her place would you be proud that he/her stood up for themself

I just don't think if you stand up for yourself you should get the same punishment as the person who started it But I also agree that bullying should not be there to start off with.

 

[cj9200]

Chris, sorry to be late to the discussion but I agree with you completely. One instance of bullying that is "witnessed" means there is a lot more going on. The How do you define bullying and Boys will be boys statements would be laughable if they were not so ignorant. Unfortunately, I am sure you are encountering the "new guy" response because you just arrived. Good work and good luck.

Christopher, sorry you are going through all this. Hope you find something soon. Try to take some time off on the 4th to celebrate your birthday. I plan on doing it. Taking a few days in the Keys with DD, a friend from the UK and his son.

Dave, DD just got a plain black patch. We thought about decorating it. The "eye" one would be cool. One of her teacher's suggested she bedazzle it. Hopefully she will be able to retire it soon.

If Fl brings their red shirt/ back-up squad, there would still be a good result for FL. KY doesn't have much in football.

KY fought hard today. At least BB starts soon and KY can start kicking other schools butts. I am looking forward (I think) to next week when Alabama comes to town. Some good games today. Some were just plain bad.

 

[GoHerd1028]

Chris I think you are doing the right thing with your scout troop (even if you are my nemesis!). That sort of behavior can not be tolorated or it will get worse.

We had a problem with the bully issue at school last year. I have old Ethan not to let anyone pick on him, but not to do anything at school or on the bus. Well, one of the kids who was in his class and lives down the street was being a bully. I talked to the Dad about things and his response was "that I needed to be more Christ like"....what the heck was he trying to say ...turn the other cheek? I thought by trying to resolve the issue peacefuly would be "Christ like"(and this guy is a pastor...the kind that give churches and christianity a bad name) Well, that was the moment right then and there that I knew I was not going to get anywhere with this idiot. Now, I told Ethan to knock his block off...just make sure there are no teachers around to witness it and not to initiate the action. I feel my blood pressure rising just typing this!!!

 

[stopher1]

Christopher, sorry you are going through all this. Hope you find something soon. Try to take some time off on the 4th to celebrate your birthday. I plan on doing it. Taking a few days in the Keys with DD, a friend from the UK and his son.

I definitely plan on enjoying that day. Haven't decided which day exactly, but the 4th "COULD" be the day that I head to DL. Since I'll be out there anyway...

 

[Disney Commando]

Chris I think you are doing the right thing with your scout troop (even if you are my nemesis!). That sort of behavior can not be tolorated or it will get worse.

We had a problem with the bully issue at school last year. I have old Ethan not to let anyone pick on him, but not to do anything at school or on the bus. Well, one of the kids who was in his class and lives down the street was being a bully. I talked to the Dad about things and his response was "that I needed to be more Christ like"....what the heck was he trying to say ...turn the other cheek? I thought by trying to resolve the issue peacefuly would be "Christ like"(and this guy is a pastor...the kind that give churches and christianity a bad name) Well, that was the moment right then and there that I knew I was not going to get anywhere with this idiot. Now, I told Ethan to knock his block off...just make sure there are no teachers around to witness it and not to initiate the action. I feel my blood pressure rising just typing this!!!

It's funny how the bullys dad try to make his son seem like the victim If Stoper looks into the guys son he might find his kid might be a bully (might hopefully not) They always try to blow it off as kids will be kids crap

 

[cj9200]

A very early morning guys. Can't sleep so decided just to get up.

I definitely plan on enjoying that day. Haven't decided which day exactly, but the 4th "COULD" be the day that I head to DL. Since I'll be out there anyway...

Good for you. Never visited the World on (or near) the 4th so I do not know the joys of wearing the B-Day button. Same here on which day we will be celebrating mine. Probably the weekend. The son's birthday of the friend that is coming down is the 5th. I imagine we will do a dual celebration. Not sure what but I imagine good eating will be involved.

Have a great time whatever day (you deserve it) and if you see DL, bring back lots of pictures.

 

[MiJo]

i think caratine levels has something to do with the kidneys. im sure it will work out. is she going for the "trickle radiation" over weeks or is she getting the one time blast?? from what i could gather, they do the trickle when it sits in a bad area. tammys was on her optic nerve which was dead anyway so it didnt matter if the hit it pretty hard. i looked alot up on the internet which isnt a good idea but i couldnt help myself.

We won't know until tomorrow but the neurosurgeon thought it would be every day for 2 or 3 weeks, 15 minutes per session. Sounds like the "trickle" one. We go to the new St. Luke's at 9:00 AM. My DW is getting some of the feeling back in her left leg so that's good news. Still a long way to go.

 

[dvczerfs]

Those videos are disturbing indeed. However, it is sad to say that we live in a society where the bottom dollar is all that matters. It is not a problem that is unique to Disney. It is everywhere. That doesn't make it right, it just shows that we are all in the same boat... I have told people at work that the easiest thing any company can do and increase productivity is to just be nice....it does not cost anything...just be nice!

amen, isnt that the truth. im lucky, i still work for a company that is family owned and cares about the people that work for them. thats why they are still in business and make money. they pay all, including the familys health insurance for all 25 people who work there. when they switched plans last year, they had a meeting with all the employees and told us what they wanted to do and to make sure they were not causing a problem for anyone. our deductable went from 500 to 1000.once we hit 500, the company will pay the other 500. our insurance cost the company 1200 per month per employee.we are all like family in that place. we mess with each other like brothers and when one of us needs something, we are always there. as i said before, i dont think i could ever work for corprate american. including for the mouse.

We won't know until tomorrow but the neurosurgeon thought it would be every day for 2 or 3 weeks, 15 minutes per session. Sounds like the "trickle" one. We go to the new St. Luke's at 9:00 AM. My DW is getting some of the feeling back in her left leg so that's good news. Still a long way to go.

thats good news mike!! feeling is good!! they start shrinking the tumor and it stops pushing on what it is pushing on and im sure she will be back and running again. my sisiter had the trickle charge and she didnt have side effects at all from it when she had breast cancer. she would have the treatment at st. lukes on her lunch hour. ive been filling tammy in on her progress, we will be praying for you guys monday. keep in touch. we are leaving monday night,early tuesday for wdw but ill have my lap top with me. take care buddy!!

 

[theduck619]

Good morning fella's

Last night I took my daughters to Daddy Daughter Date Night hosted by Chickfila. We all got dressed up in our best. They gave the girls flowers and had a lady there to do nail painting. They served us at the table and they even had ice-cream for dessert. When we were all finished we got to do a 10 minute limo ride, which the girls thought was the best part of the evening.

I hope they continue to offer this. I saw a lot of dads and daughters of all ages there last night.

 

[dvczerfs]

Look for a documentary called MOUSETRAPPED.

It's kinda disturbing.

Part 1

Part 2

wow, how sad. i seen there are other videos from other years that when i get time, id like to watch. i agree with steve, its happening all over this counrty. the entire "middle class" upper, middle and lower middle class is all fading away. the town i live in, including my parents and grand parents all worked for the cement mills. my dad was head of accounting in the 70 and 80s for one of them. thats how my mom came to this country. her uncle got her father a job before they came here from italy in the cement mill. they came with nothing but what the had on. managed to make a good life for there familys just by working hard. my mom was the youngest of nine kids, she was the only one that went past the 7th grade. she graduated, a year late, but graduated from high school. including learning how to speak english along the way at 9 years old. but, they were givin a chance. if you wanted to work hard at something, you were givin a chance and rewarded for it. cement mills, steel mill (bethlehem steel) in the town next door. now the steel mill is a casino and hotel, there is one cement mill in town that employs about 200 people. its sad and i dont think amyone has the answer or wants to find the answer to the problem. they know what to do, they just dont want to do it.

 

[Cinderella's Fella]

Good Morning. A few months ago my DD1 and here husband decided that they need some time apart. So, DD1 moved in with us, our DGK's are here part time, going back and forth between Daddy's and here. We have 2 bathrooms, DW as hers and I have mine, I now share mine with the DD and the DGKs. Now, you'd think it would be a pain, it is, but I'm loving it. It gives me way more time with the DGKs than I ever had, or would have had. We have a contractor coming over to put in a bid to add a 3rd bathroom downstairs to make things easier on all of us.

I'm sitting here waiting for the kids to get up to start our day and I thought I would share with you that I'm feeling good.

Here are a couple of our favorite things:

 

[dvczerfs]

Good morning fella's

Last night I took my daughters to Daddy Daughter Date Night hosted by Chickfila. We all got dressed up in our best. They gave the girls flowers and had a lady there to do nail painting. They served us at the table and they even had ice-cream for dessert. When we were all finished we got to do a 10 minute limo ride, which the girls thought was the best part of the evening.

I hope they continue to offer this. I saw a lot of dads and daughters of all ages there last night.

enjoy david, they grow up real fast. briana and i still go out to lunch together every so often. more now than she was in high school.its hard to believe she offers to drives. my mil asked tammy how briana was doing in school last week, tammy said, she had no clue to ask her father that briana tells me more than she does tammy. with somethings its true but she tells her mom more than she tells me and thats fine. she hasnt fiqured out yet mom and dad talk to each other. anyway, im glad you guys had a great time.

 

[billybobblockhead]

Hi guys. Feeling like I'm finally over my "Post Disney Depression" and am feeling up to posting again. And to think, it only took 3 months for the PDD to subside. Hope that ya'll will let me re-activate my membership.

 

[twokids0204]

Hi guys. Feeling like I'm finally over my "Post Disney Depression" and am feeling up to posting again. And to think, it only took 3 months for the PDD to subside. Hope that ya'll will let me re-activate my membership.

Once a DISdad - always a DISdad....

Jump right back in.

 

[RodBelding]

Don't worry Chris, I've got it covered....

Oh, and your reply - well said.

Hahaha, logged on this morning with DW over my shoulder, and this is the first post that came up!

her: "So this is why you're on this Disdads forum all the time???"

me: "Yeah. Pretty much."




Morning guys!

 

[AirGoofy]

Good morning fella's

Last night I took my daughters to Daddy Daughter Date Night hosted by Chickfila. We all got dressed up in our best. They gave the girls flowers and had a lady there to do nail painting. They served us at the table and they even had ice-cream for dessert. When we were all finished we got to do a 10 minute limo ride, which the girls thought was the best part of the evening.

I hope they continue to offer this. I saw a lot of dads and daughters of all ages there last night.

That's cool. We missed daddy-daughter date night this year as it conflicted with spring dance performance schedule. But, I try to take mine out for special one to one time. My oldest and I went for a walk this AM.

 

[AirGoofy]

With the bully thing, I understand it, but don't totally agree with it on a whole

Last year one of my friends sons got caught up in the bullying policy, a known class bully was pushing him around rough, and my friends son laid him out, this was 6th grade My friend who was in Dessert Storm 1st time around (Marine) and is now a cop, has taught his son to stand up for himself, he did and both got suspended for 10 days

Back when I went to school (the old school) if you stood up to a bully and were kicking his butt it seemed the teachers paused before they broke things up most likely the bully would not mess with you again knowing you will fight back

I know why they have gotten very strict with this, since alot of kids will not fight back and that is a bully's prey, but if it was your kid that fought back and put the bully in his/her place would you be proud that he/her stood up for themself

I just don't think if you stand up for yourself you should get the same punishment as the person who started it But I also agree that bullying should not be there to start off with.

Problem is that bullies now travel in packs. Perhaps you can stand up one on one, but not five on one. My girls are 2 years apart. My youngest - Charly 7 - is just like the TV show - everyone loves Charly. All the kids want to be her friends. My oldest, 9, has some real jealous and mean little girls in her class. They have not been violent or physically abusive, but certainly could be. My oldest is just so care free and doesn't notice anything. I know she could not defend herself against 4 or 5 other girls.

 

[AirGoofy]

ok, looking on line to see if disney had any openings for my disney dream job, i came across what some of the cast members who you come in contact with everyday start out making. all these job are part time only and must be available 7 days per week including weekends and holidays:
gift shop cm = $7.55
walk up rest. cm = $8.05
custodian cm = $7.80 (extra buck an hr of 3rd shift)
bus driver = $10.70
mousekeeper = $8.35 (must clean up to 14 rooms per day)
i dont know about you, but i wouldnt put up with all that crap from people for that kind of money.

Don't they get health insurance? I know that some can be a lot to put up with, but if you measure it against working at McDonald's, ... My hope is to retire from my current job around 50 and move to Orlando. I could work at WDW for some extra cash and get discounts. It would be a pay cut, but may be worth it.

 

[stopher1]

Good morning fella's

Last night I took my daughters to Daddy Daughter Date Night hosted by Chickfila. We all got dressed up in our best. They gave the girls flowers and had a lady there to do nail painting. They served us at the table and they even had ice-cream for dessert. When we were all finished we got to do a 10 minute limo ride, which the girls thought was the best part of the evening.

I hope they continue to offer this. I saw a lot of dads and daughters of all ages there last night.

We did that last year at our CFA... but with my DD out in CA with her mom right now, I had to skip this year's event. I was kinda bummed about it. But DD is getting some very good grandpa-time now, so it's all good.

 

[BigTikiDaddy]

Afternoon Dads..sure has been a rough post summer for everyone. I'l be sending out prayers and good vibes to all. I've missed a lot here lately, can't find a lot of computer time anymore. I've had to give up the Caption Contest as a result.

Amelia has been struggling big time in school, where we've figured the french-immersion is a setback and not helping her. We've met with her teachers and working on principals now, but essentially we have to pull her out of french. The biggest problem is she never had a proper grade one education, so is far behind. Also, we'd have to change schools since the school she attends is out of our boundries. So lots of time devoted to helping her cope and arranging a transfer to a new school. She will be able to stay in grade two, snce she'd be assigned a special teacher to help catch her up, but there are a lot of intangibles. What is bothering me is I've learned she is being somewhat shunned at school (likely due to stuggling in class), and is off by herself most of the time at recess etc. She says she doesn't mind, but ugh, it can't be good for her psyche in the long run. We are doing what we can for her.

What with all that, and work is kicked into overdrive, ( I am in charge of cleaning, and reorganizing the shelves, on top of my inventory and beer duties), I come home hurting to go back at it the next day, but that should be done by Halloween (then our Xmas season starts).

All in all though, I cannot really complain. I've skimmed through the past couple of weeks here and there are far more pressing problems I really hope get resolved for everyone.