OH! I so know exactly what you are talking about!
If I were you I would already have prices for all three families at all the resorts I was interested in
Our trip in 2001 was with friends, although it was fun it was also stressful!
Might even be fun to stay at three different resorts so you can see what each is like and it gives you a break from one another! In 2001 my parents came with us, also. The stayed at the Hilton on Disney grounds and met us at the gate each morning! mom said it was a nice break! we did EVERYTHING with our friends. By the time we came home; we didn't speak for two weeks, not that we were mad or had a problem just needed SPACE!
But, back to how I would be three days out from the discussion (just to let you know you are not alone) I would have three folders w/all the options listed and ready for each family
! Really, I'm that bad! I would have had it done the night of the discussion (I need help!) We were suppose to go back in 2003 with the same family and another; a tragedy in one of the families stopped that trip
But, we were going to rent a house w/a private pool. I had a list of 10 houses, the price of tickets, gasoline, food, and value resort prices ready by the end of two days
-- told you I need help!!
Have fun planning! I always love a good plan...to change over & over & over and to tweak !!
We, too, are returning in 2010! but, we don't know when yet! But, I already have the prices of the POP and several mods for all four weeks we are interested in! (room only of course!)