I am at work and this thread is giving me a laugh! Just making me smile at what everyone has to say...
Yes I am from NJ...the northern folk would say south jersey, the south jersey folk would say north jersey so I stick with central jersey - the shore. We are still in the "cover your plate" mode. For me that means usually a minimum of $75 - $125 solo and $200 - $300 (depending on the relation) for duo. I would say I make the median income, when times are tight its the lower number, if i have it to spare its a higher number....I don't think I have ever given a gift at a wedding.
My step mother - from Idaho, went to a wedding of a friend last year, I have to say, I was in shock when she told me she got them a gift. Seriously I felt bad after when I said you got them what???? but really I have never ever heard of a gift at a wedding...registries are for showers. period. And she has lived here over 30 years....maybe she forgot
So here: 2pm wedding is a full blown wedding, just a little cheaper for the bride, plus if she planned late it was the only date open at the reception place she wanted!
I think I may have seen the dollar dance once and yes I think it was tacky. The bride and groom are to make an appearance at every table, and are supposed to have a small conversation with every guest - or at least a thanks for coming....am I wrong here? At least every wedding I have been to...pretty much means very limited eating time for the bride and groom but he usually is drinking and she needs to be able to fit in the dress
I don't think I have ever been to a cash bar...I don't think I would take offense to it....would just think they couldn't afford it. BUT a cash bar is a big reason for going....other then the happy couple thing...
First non NJ/NY wedding I ever went to was in college in Indiana...it was for a woman who was the sister of my boyfriends friend....HUH? Anyway I said I have no gif/nothing to wear. Don't worry its in a barn/restaurant and you don't need a gift and most people will just wear jeans....well he was wrong, alot had pants but the rest was pretty much right on...had a great time!
Never been to a cake/appetizer/ whatever else they have, but thinking about if some of you give $30 for cake, then we in nj are right on target for $200 for a full dinner and drinks!!!