Meghan and Mikes At Home Wedding/Disneymoon9/18/10**THE DRESS

[teddygurl28]

TO Date:

When: September 18,2010
Where: St Patricks Church
Stoneham MA 02180 @ 5:30pm
Reception: Andover Country Club
7pm-12midnight
Guest Count: ???
Honeymoon: Walt DisneyWorld 9/19-9/29



*TinY DisCLaiMeR*

I originally began this post in the middle of April. Although, on this site I didn't get any cruel comments, I did on another..and the people who made those comments related themselves to this board. Now whether or not it really was those people, I will never know, its amazing how hiding behind computers can make people so heartless..heh.

I therefore decided to stop posting and requested the thread to be deleted-we all know that can't happen. For this I am glad because what I write here is true and public knowledge and I don't think I should have to take it down because people choose to say I am having a fake wedding (yes that is what they said to me..nicely put).

SO I have decided to start all over again...Im going to write over my old posts...starting with my disclaimer in this one thumbsup2)

This is my story along with Mikes...if you don't like it-don't keep reading it....

and as Thumper said "..If you don't have anything nice to say then you shouldn't say anything at all.."

 

[teddygurl28]

Players:

Meghan (me) 25- Disney Fantatic, overplanner, overstresser, OCD on way to much to name... I work full time at an insurance company where i met....

Mike (dbf) 29- Falling for Disney, Laid back, goes with the flow and whatever i want/need to do.



When Mike at I met at work, it was not love at first site, he wouldnt even talk to me, I assumed he was annoyed with the new kid-he claims he was just afraid to talk to me im not sure ill ever believe him on that one....

We started casually dating around september/october 2006. He and I had both just ended relationships so we weren't looking for anything serious...and to be honest, prior to him I had never looked at any relationship as serious...I always felt I was the type of girl who would never get married...I never dreamed up my perfect wedding, never pictured the perfect dress and never knew what a diamond should look like or that there was more than one shape. So what we had was perfect.


Things became more and more serious as time went on..blah blah blah...we all know how that goes......

We went on 2 trips in 2008..first a cruise....
..and then I took him to Disney World...he had been as a child...but as he explains it, his parents took him and his brother as almost a right of passage...(like many parents do) so he didnt get the full extent of disney

I tried to tell him what it would be like to go with me...I dont think he fully understood until we got there

But he survived...and it was there that i asked him if we could have our honeymoon in disney and he said yes....

..and i knew we both meant it....

 

[MegKate]

First off - I'm glad to see another Meghan on the board. Especially one who spells her name right! lol! Got to have the H! and a Massachusettsian one at that!

Congrats on the engagement! I'm looking forward to reading your plans!!

 

[teddygurl28]

Haha Yes Meghan with the H...i love when i say my name over the phone...people have no idea how to spell it..it usually comes out Megen....I am like ugh okay.......


...and my boyfriend LOVES the pats hes a season ticket holder!

 

[teddygurl28]

We went away again in February of 2009, and again had talks of marriage.....apparently everyone here at home (my own mother included) thought i was coming home engaged.... news to me! but that was it...mike and i decided we were done toying with the idea and sat down with it all. We decided September 2010, and he told me to get an idea on rings so he would know what to look for.

Now remember that over obsessive planning thing? yeh full blown--i found the ring type i wanted and showed him....it was now mid march.
I also looked at a calendar of September 2010...and looked at the 18th, and i said thats our day...why? not sure but its just right...then i realized that the 4th is labor day, and the 11th is well the 11th..so that only leaves 2 saturdays in september that people will most likely want for weddings..panic set in....I explain this to my boyfriend, and he doesnt seem to fully grasp the issue at hand..

now we live RIGHT outside of boston..so churches and venue selection you would assume would be plentiful...well not for 300 people!!

so i kindly explain this to dbf again...half yelling like a crazy person, half reminding him this is why he loves me....so he lets me make an appointment with the priest to see what can be done about all of this and when we would best want to be engaged by in order to get the church for the date we wanted and all that fun stuff....

i meet with the priest and explain the situtation....and he lets me book the church date and time i want! September 18, 2010 @ 530pm

 

[Kimmers127]

My boyfriend and I are not engaged yet, but are in the beginning stages of deciding to do a Disney wedding September 2010. (Lifelong dream is in the works, omg omg omg) I refuse to actually call Disney until I have a ring on my finger... but in the meantime I'm doing the research! We've lived together for a year and a half, have had our wedding date planned for quite a while now, just paying off a few bills before buying the ring. We'll definitely get engaged sometime this year but beyond that bf wants it to be a surprise.

Good luck with your planning! I'll definitely be checking back.

 

[Kimmers127]

My boyfriend and I are not engaged yet, but are in the beginning stages of deciding to do a Disney wedding September 2010. (Lifelong dream is in the works, omg omg omg) I refuse to actually call Disney until I have a ring on my finger... but in the meantime I'm doing the research! We've lived together for a year and a half, have had our wedding date planned for quite a while now, just paying off a few bills before buying the ring. We'll definitely get engaged sometime this year but beyond that bf wants it to be a surprise.

Good luck with your planning! I'll definitely be checking back.

 

[teddygurl28]

now dbf calls me, he left work at 345, im there til 5, so its some short time in between, its a tuesday, his jeweler just came back from diamond shopping in India. He picked out some good diamonds with us specifically in mind...mike goes to see him...yey!


Now mike has told me the ring is being made..but it will take approx 6-7 weeks

so it wont be ready until the end of may/begining of june

He is also trying to think of the best way/time to ask my father for permission/blessing...so any ideas from anyone would be great!


The last lovely bit of info is our honeymoon...as i mentioned earlier we are going to disney. We will go sept 20-29 and plan to stay at the beach club, we wont book until next years rates come out in august.

I won't do any further planning details until i have the ring on my finger because i want him and i to be fully involved together...although i do have our list of guests going...that will have to be altered but its like every time i think of someone i just write it down.....makes it easier (plus my brother was married in october so i just took my parents list from that)

 

[teddygurl28]

I also want to say why i am posting this here-

I have loved disney since i was a little girl, and as mentioned earlier i NEVER dreamed of getting married. When mike and i made this decision, i had no clue where to turn to look for ideas or information. None of my friends are married, so this is very very scary/exciting/unique/foriegn territory to me.
However i use the disboards for my trip, my daily disney dose, and just to get through my day because its usually always a positive board. I remembered seeing the link to the honeymoon/wedding section and i thought i would link over to here.

If people think i really dont belong here then I am sorry but i feel i do

 

[princess22]

YAY! Congrats on starting everything. Trust me, there isn't an order things have to be done in! DF and I did everything backwards (had the kid, set a date, then "officially" got engaged) We're all backwards.

But anyway, I can't wait to read more. And Yay for the 10 day honeymoon! So exciting. congrats again

 

[teddygurl28]

YAY! Congrats on starting everything. Trust me, there isn't an order things have to be done in! DF and I did everything backwards (had the kid, set a date, then "officially" got engaged) We're all backwards.

But anyway, I can't wait to read more. And Yay for the 10 day honeymoon! So exciting. congrats again

thank you for your kind post..you have no idea how nice it was to come on and read that after just checking my email.....
as noted above i mentioned slowly putting together a website...well i signed up on the knot...just to see stuff..and i listed it as no ring yet..so it was no surprises .. no lies....and i just noticed yesterday that they give u a website to create...so my boyfriend and i thought it would be fun to fill out like the 3 things we knew...well then i had it posted here..but then randomly i got alot of nasty posts on the guestbook and some of it was related to the dis boards of course i shouldnt have been upset but the comments were so rude and people had no idea what they were talking about..so i removed the link and protected the website so nobody can see it unless i give them a password...hopefully ill get past the tears it caused me....
..yes i know everything seems backwards and odd...but if people were to understand how everything played out maybe they wouldnt have been so mean and cruel..people were saying how i was making up a wedding and forcing dbf into things oy it makes me cry to think about it all over again

ok i need to stop thinking about it


***Thanks again for your support-I have decided to keep this thread open, your right that there is no set rules in how you are supposed to plan a wedding-so we are doing what works for us**

 

[princess22]

I honestly don't think you need to close your thread here. From what I have seen everyone here is nice! I can't believe people would actually say things like that. It annoys me how mean people can be. I never understood why anyone would say nasty things about someone. I always tell my third graders maybe it's because they are jealous. Don't pay attention to anything they said. They are a bunch of mean people who have nothing better to do with their time. At the end of the day, you have the man you want to spend the rest of your life with and that is all that matters! Keep smiling, it will be okay

 

[teddygurl28]

ok i cant seem to post photos?
can anyone tell me how?

 

[padisneyfour]

welcome and looking forward to hearing more as you go along with your plans. good luck and enjoy!

 

[teddygurl28]

SO still on the unofficial thing....ive decided when it becomes official the rest of my posts will be in a pretty font--because thats usually what i do but i just thought i would write a little...we are expecting a guest total to be near 300, our wedding party will be 16 (8 on each side) and so we have started to toy with the wedding list now so we can get working on the venue almost as soon as we are engaged (next month..fingers crosssed!) dbf kept saying he didnt want it to be a work wedding, and i agree, although we do have a bunch of good friends from work...now he is naming people from his department and i dont even know them? hes like we can discuss adding/subtracting people we already have..and im like subtract who? yu are the one with the million people! and he seems annoyed with me..i try to remind him its our wedding, not his (shouldnt it be the other way around?!) and yet there is only one guest of mine that he doesnt know and shes been a friend of mine since i was 10, so i wont budge on her...meanwhile his excuse is if you invite one person from the department you have to invite the others because everyone is "relatively" close in age im like im not doing that..if i dont know their last name im not inviting them just because we are inviting another co-worker they happen to be friends with...if thats the case id end up with the entire company! ugh....i dont know maybe im over reacting..i probably totally am...its just stressful...hes a people pleaser, and so am i but i feel like im going to be the one to have to explain to him that we cant just invite the world what am i going to do when the real planning starts

...ohk vent over

 

[teddygurl28]

welcome and looking forward to hearing more as you go along with your plans. good luck and enjoy!

thanks for stopping by!
srry i didnt get to that first, dbf just left the office so it was the first time i could get away from stuff
haha!

 

[figment fan21]

I just found your PJ Meghan!!!

I'm so glad i did! Don't worry about anything DF and I talked about some of our wedding plans before actually getting engaged too because we had just bought a house and wanted to save alittle more. Nobody has the right to say ANYTHING negative if they dont know you and your situation personally.

I'm proud of you for starting up another PJ and I can't wait to read more!

p.s. before DF realized that last time we went to disney in september he was insanely hot and miserable our original date was 9/18/2010.... good date!

 

[CinderelliT]

Congrats on your engagement!! I'm so sorry that anyone said anything offensive to you. Everybody does things differently these days. I don't think old wedding rules still apply.

Don't feel bad about not having a ring either. My DH and I decided to get married long before we were officially engaged. We had a lot to talk about since this was a big decision! I can remember telling people that we were engaged, and they would grab my hand to look for a ring, and be confused or didn't believe me since I didn't have one. We eventually went ring shopping together so I could help choose the ring I wanted to wear for the rest of my life, and then he paid it off in full before he proposed. Don't sweat it. I would just focus on planning now!

It sounds like an awesome bash with so many people. I can't wait for more details.

 

[teddygurl28]

thanks Thats why i like coming here...i feel much more relaxed and happy on this board!

well the ring is finished....now im just waiting for dbf to go through with his master plan....grr...i hate not knowing..im such an over planner.... anything being out of my control is not fun

 

[Bride-to-be]

haha the surprise is the best part!!! Just wait it will come in time.

We talked about weddings for a while before we got engaged. I called DFTW in September and we didn't get engaged until nearly a month after that. So I don't think what you are doing is unusual at all.

Some people in life are just plain mean - they are. I would just ignore those people and always keep your chin up!

I can't wait to hear about the proposal story! Hopefully its soon!