Well, now that I'm about 2 months behind in posting this!! Man, time flies when you're planning a Disney Wedding! (And Disney vacation in 5 weeks!).....
Here goes:
So, we decided to go get our marriage license on May 22 (because I was taking that day off of work anyway to try out for Millionaire-which I ended up not doing) and then we picked June 20 as the day we would have our civil ceremony (or as someone at work said, getting your driver’s licesnse-because that is exactly what it’s like!). We picked June 20th because of two things. 1) We were going to see The Cure that night at Madison Square Garden,
so it was already a special thing and 2) it’s my parents anniversary.
Getting the license was easy!! Almost too easy…afterwards we got lunch at one of the Burger Heavens in mid-town
and then I bought Eoghan a new cell phone…
Since we thought of ourselves as engaged and we were going to be married within the next month, it was important to me (for some reason) to have an engagement ring…I knew we were past the point of Eoghan really proposing and until we found the ring, it might even have only been a couple of weeks before we were married, but it was still important to me. I decided for some reason I didn’t want a diamond. As my best friend said, “well, you are unconventional” and my sister in law said “When have you done anything ordinary?” So, I decided on an Emerald. We looked and looked. We didn’t have the $ at the time to get anything major but I couldn’t find anything I liked. 1) We really didn’t know where to look. 2) I only wanted White Gold, not Yellow Gold. 3) Emeralds are not so popular, so there’s not a great selection unless you want to order something or whatnot. Because it was convienent, we looked at the stores in one mall and then another. I saw something that we were actually going to buy but I didn’t really like it. Eoghan said, you know I rather spend a bit more money on something you are going to really like than just buy something to buy something. We had one more store to check…Whitehall. I guess it was coincidence that I chose Emerald being the May birthstone, otherwise it might have even been tougher to find something.
Well, imagine my happiness when there at Whitehall I found a ring that was unlike any of the others I had seen so far! It’s an emerald cut emerald, but it’s set horizontally, there are some diamond chips on either side and it’s set in White Gold. The ring is modern looking I think which is what I wanted. It’s so weird, because as soon as I saw it, I felt like it was mine.
(Sorry for the crappy picture, it was the best I could get for some reason and the ring is not pictured on-line anywhere that I can find)
So, of course it had to be resized as it was too big which would take 5 days and then as I posted elsewhere, after having it for only 5 days, one of the chips fell out, so by the time it was fixed, yes, I only had it for a couple of weeks before our civil ceremony!
Our civil ceremony gave me a hint of what wedding stress might be like….and there really wasn’t too much to plan! First of all, originally Eoghan and I just wanted Karma to be our witness (because it was because of her that we actually met!) And this would have been fine, but after talking to our lawyer we were told it’s good to have pictures of family members at your ceremony. So it ended up that my mom, both of my brothers, one of my sister in laws, one of my nieces (also my MOH at Disney Wedding), Karma and my cousin (who works near city hall) would be at our ceremony!
Sometime in May Eoghan and I had an argument and I went shopping! I just went up to the local TJMaxx to look. I decided to try on some dresses for the summer. Ironically I found one White one that I could use for the civil ceremony I had thought. Angrily I thought, watch, it will be the only dress that fits and that I like…sure enough!!!! I went in with like 8 dresses and it was the only one I liked and that fit!
Well then, I guess someone’s trying to tell me something….I bought it and went home to Eoghan.
Planning for the civil ceremony was fairly easy actually. I had already ordered our wedding rings on-line as we didn’t want to get anything too expensive for right now and will get better rings for the Disney Wedding. I think I am going to try and get my mom’s diamond wedding band fixed so I can wear it. I have tried it on and it actually looks really good with the e-ring! Our wedding bands are sterling silver and are inscribed with “I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine” in Gaelic.
In this pic I think they're shown in yellow gold however...
I knew I would wear my White patent leather maryjanes that I had already because the dress has kind of a retro feel to it. It’s above the knee, A-line with a wide satin collar and little puffy sleeves. The lace is cool. It’s like big polka dot, like a cotton lace. The dress has a flesh-tone liner. I would order a bouquet from the local florist (I wasn’t even going to have flowers but when we went to get our license, I saw a couple of brides with little bouquets and thought…”I want a bouquet!!”
I would get my hair done the night before at my usual place. I found a little satin bag to carry. I needed to get Eoghan his outfit though. He had nice shoes to wear that I had bought him previously, but he needed a shirt, tie and pants…the only other thing I needed to do was find a place for us all to eat/have lunch.
Eoghan actually came out shopping with me one day and we found a very nice shirt, tie and pants. After talking to my SIL, we decided we’d go to Aleo’s on 20th Street.
We have been there before so we know the food is good and they have a back garden we could sit in…
it really looked like it was going to be the day I wanted it to be!
Eoghan and I decided to take the Metro North train in to Grand Central instead of the subway the whole way. (Even though we would take the subway from GCT to City Hall!) It would just be a nicer ride for our special day I thought. The morning came and we got ready…Eoghan came out of the bedroom in his outfit and I was impressed!
I had never even seen him in a shirt and tie before! He looked great! I was running late, so he walked up to the florist and got me my flowers
…we left soon after he got back. We walked to the train station and got out tickets from the machine. I wondered out loud to Eoghan if he thought people knew I was a bride to be….because you know, I was wearing a white dress and carrying flowers! Karma was going to meet us at GCT at 10:20am and then take the subway down with us where we would meet my family. By the time we found everyone it took a little while and in the meantime I had seen a few brides, some of whom were dressed to the nines! I thought I looked so cute and stuff until I saw them, but when we got upstairs, I felt better about my choice of garb for the day.
Anyway, so we all entered the building, all showed our ids and went through the metal detectors…
It was a really nice day, Sunny with a little wind about 80 degrees or so.
We went upstairs and Eoghan and I led the way even though we had been there before for our license, we actually weren’t sure about where to go to actually get married and all the signs said license!) Basically we just went in the same office where we went to get our license. We signed some form (both our hands were shaking!) and Karma signed it too, then we went to another line and handed it in, then we went to another window to pay our $25. Then it was into another room with a sign CHAPEL outside. It was actually just a waiting room that you had to wait in before you got called in to where the clerk would marry you. At first we were all excited, we took lots of pictures and there weren’t that many couples waiting. You could see the Brooklyn Bridge out the window which was cool. The thing that kind of sucked was we probably got into the waiting room about 11:15 or so and then the clerk took her lunch at 11:30!! So we had to wait for her to come back and meanwhile all these other couples and their families were coming in…the excitement wore off while we were waiting, it was getting a bit annoying…Eoghan and I were both like..we just want to get it over with already! (that doesn’t sound right though LOL)
Finally the clerk came back from lunch at around noon and we were the first names she called!!!
We all got up and went in and the ceremony went like this: “….is there anyone here who knows of any legal reason why these two cannot be married?” Everyone in the room replies “no” tee hee. Then it was right into it! “Eoghan, do you take Lori to be your lawful wedded wife?” “I do” “Do you have a ring?” “yes” “place the ring on her finger and when you place the ring on her finger……(I don’t even remember what she said it was so fast!) then she said the same thing to me, then “You may kiss the bride”, we kissed and that was that! I swear, 2 mins. Tops! When we excited the room, my brother started clapping and cheering so the whole roomful of couples and families followed along and started clapping and cheering!
That was really cool and I felt so happy I can’t even explain it!!
This was taken when we walked out of the room to all the clapping and cheering-
We went outside and took more pics.
Then we all hopped in cabs and headed to the restaurant. My cousin had to go back to work.
We sat outside at a long table. I sat at the head! Eoghan was on one side and Karma on my other. My mom sat next to Eoghan. It got pretty hot but they had umbrellas that we sat under. We ordered champagne and had some brief toasts. I’m normally not a champagne lover, but this was really good! I have to find out what it was…the owner of the restaurant is a client of my brother’s so he sent over some antipasti platters (mmm). Karma and I shared a salad and some pasta. (I didn’t have much of an appetite). Eoghan had a Caeser salad and Chicken Marsala. For dessert the owner sent over fruit plates and Eoghan and shared an Iced Latte and 2 scoops of gelato (1 Chocolate and 1 Hazelnut) It was sooo yummy!! From there, my family left to go home, Karma had to stop by her office and Eoghan and I hopped in a cab up to…..World of Disney!!!
It had dawned on me a couple of weeks before the wedding to go there afterwards, I thought it would be cool to get our pic taken with a character and tell them we just got married at City Hall and are having a Disney Wedding in May…Eoghan thought it would be neat as well! (phew!)
So, we booked it upstairs in case there was a line, but when we got there, they were in between sessions and we ended up being first on line! The characters that day were Snow White and Dopey!!! Snow is our favourite princess!!!! YES!!! Eoghan thinks she is the prettiest and growing up she was always my favourite because when I was growing up before Jasmine and Belle, Snow was the only princess with dark hair.
When they opened the door we walked right in, I went to put my stuff down (bag and envelope) and the photographer who was very nice started talking to us…”How are you today” Neither of us could hold it in…”We just got married!!” Everyone in the room was saying congratulations to us! We told them how we’re going to Disney in Sept and how we have booked and are planning a Disney Wedding next May 1. Everyone was so happy for us! I don’t know about Eoghan, but I felt like a movie star! All the people on line after us were also saying Congratulations! It was such a nice feeling! After we posed with Dopey, we went over to Snow. On our way over I exclaimed “It’s our favourite princess!!!” In her princess voice, Snow was like…”Ooh, I heard that you have some good news? Did I hear you say you just got married?” “yes” we replied. “oh well then I hope you will put on these bride and groom ears…” Are you kidding, you don’t have to ask me twice!! Even Eoghan put them right on! We took our pics with Snow and then waited outside for our pics after some more Congratulations wishes…
While we were waiting a CM came over to Eoghan and asked him his name and mine..Eoghan didn’t know why, but the CM reassured him by telling him it was for something fun..it certainly was!! We got a certificate that said Congratulations on your Wedding Day and attached to the top of the certificate were two pins!!! One is the Year of a Million Dreams pin and the other one is Mickey and Minnie in an airplane kissing!
From there we hopped in a pedi-cab, which neither of us had done before, to the closest subway station…we subwayed it home to walk the dog, me to change my shoes and Eoghan to change his clothes…we were home for about 45 mins then we turned back around and went back in to see The Cure play at Madison Square Garden…the show was excellent!! Eoghan had never seen them before and I hadn’t seen them since 1984 or so..they played for like 3 hours and we didn’t get home until after 2am….a long but excellently fabulous wedding day!!!
We spent the weekend registering and watching the Euro Championship…(we have come full circle it seems!)
Next up: Disney wedding stuff…..