I did 12 years active duty, currently finishing up in the reserve. I did Afghanistan and Iraq. I've buried friends. I'm also a disabled vet according to the VA (yes, you can be a DV and still be in the reserve. It is fully on the up and up as intended by federal law).
I'm unclear on something. You said something about him not updating something and you said that he's retired after 14 years. Was he medically retired or early-retired some other way? That happens sometimes. Is it his blue Retiree ID card that he needs to update or renew? If so, you need to go yell at him about it, not us. If he did 14 years and left on his own, that's up to him. You say it was for financial reasons. I assume then he had an opportunity at the 14 year mark that he liked better than the Marines. He made a choice. If I have misjudged the situation, please clarify.
Veteran is not a protected class. I am happy to accept discounts when they are offered, but nobody owes them to me. In fact, when I left active duty, but before I joined the reserve, I remarked to my wife "there goes our Disney discount". Don't like Disney's policies? Go to Seaworld. Don't go around demanding things of people and don't play like "Army wife: toughest job in the military" Because it isn't. My wife made sacrifices, no doubt. She had to be a single mom a month after our son got out of the NICU because I had to go to Iraq. But she'll be the first to tell you that she didn't have it nearly as bad as a lot of service members. FURTHERMORE, my sister in law sure didn't sacrifice a wet fart because of my service. Thank you, good day.