Your Holiday Downer

[Popsicle]

Good people, I'm so depressed.

Two weeks ago I quit one job to start another. Left a large law firm for a really, really small one. On the second day, I was ready to quit, but I have a mortgage.

The senior partner is a MICRO manager. Two times a day I have to go into detail about what I'm doing. He yelled at me because of a file I was reviewing. I had gone through the documents to see what was relevant to what I was doing and had turned the applicable documents so that they were standing up. He went ballistic. "Why does that folder look like that?" "I'm checking to see what's relevant so I go back for a more thorugh analysis." "I don't care. I don't want them to look like that." "But I'll put them back when I finish." "No you won't. You'll put them back now."

They did a probe on my references. I should have done a probe on theirs. They've gone through 6 associates in the last two years.

Last week I was at one of the secretary's desks looking at her computer. She was using WordPerfect for DOS.

I wanted to order some documents online. It's done all the time. The junior partner said they weren't any good. Fine. You can't do anything using Adobe Writer because it takes up too much disk space. You search for hours for a files that are stored in Word. Using a database would be more efficient. The response: "What's a database?" Talk about a time warp.

I'm a woman of a certain age, but I embrace technology thoroughly and completely. Technology CAN be your friend.

I'm ready to quit. I can't collect unemployment. I'm vacillating, but I think I'm going to quit this week. I can't take it any more. I feel like such a whiner, though.

That's not all. The SO is going in for surgery week after next. He's talking about arranging his affairs because he's going to die. Not that he MAY die. He's GOING TO die. Considering he's going into surgery during what is still technically an autumn month, and the fact that my father, mother, maternal grandfather and maternal grandmother all died during an autumn month, I'm going crazy.

WWWWHHHHIIIINNNNNEEEEE.

I can talk to you all. You understand!!!

 

[Byrd]

everyone should work for the money and the reward of doing a good job. It is a downer to srart a new job and be so unhappy. The company will not continue with that kind of attitude. I think you may want to start looking elsewhere. Unless of couse they are relatives.
Good luck, I hope things improve for you.
Byrd

 

[chell]

Sorry that things are not at their best right now. I don't have any wise words or even words of comfort, but I can offer you a hug.

 

[TigerBear]

(((hugs))) Popsicle. What a stressful time you are going through. Good thoughts coming your way.

 

[dvcfamily41801]

Sorry things are rough right now, I hope things improve for you. Sending loads of pixie dust your way!!

 

[epcotfan]

I'm so sorry. I would quit sooner than later so you don't have to use them as a reference. If they've gone through that many people in 2 years it tells you something. Go with your gut feelings.

 

[KathyFP]

What is the possibility of either going back to where you were at or finding another firm?????

Prayers and pixie dust to make it through the tough times. I will keep SO in my prayers.

 

[moinab]

Big for you.

We're going through tough times, too. DH was downsized a month ago. The day after, the top story in the news was that CSX was cutting 800-1000 jobs, most of them middle management (DH's level of employment) and most of them here in Jax. So glad to hear the economy is doing so great.

After several interviews where he was told he's overqualified, he started a temp job two weeks ago, at a 75% cut in pay. He absolutely hates it. Similar to you, he's having to work with antiquated office equipment and catty, underqualified coworkers. And our health insurance runs out today.

To top it all off, our 6 year old car is falling apart. Two weeks ago, we had to replace the water pump and timing belt. $450. The day after we got it back, it wouldn't start. Head gasket. $1000. (Don't even get me started about the transmission and alternator, also within the past few months.) We've been holding off on replacing the brakes and fixing the air conditioning. Just got the car back again yesterday. Now a headlight is out and the exhaust is making noise. We're barely scraping by right now. This car is eating up our savings. I want to cry.


Thanks for letting me whine. Try to keep faith that we will get through the tough times one way or another and be better people for it. Prayers and pixie dust to help you through your tough decisions.

 

[Pin Wizard]

(((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))) Popsicle and (((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))) moinab! I'm with you, Popsicle...these days I think it's important that we interview the potential employer just as much as them interviewing us!! And still we wouldn't have the entire scoop. Can you go back to your former employer? I've been that route...worked for a hospital, moved out of state, called my former boss and asked if I could get my job back...YES! Moved back and took it!! Stayed another 7 years! Sometimes it's even sweeter the 2nd time around. And right now, it might be good to go back in a different department...I'll have to work on that. Sorry about SO's attitude about surgery. It's hard when you've seen what's happened to others in the family. But it CAN be different. I for one would be freaking out right now. When my mom was exactly the age I am now, she had DOUBLE BYPASS surgery!! That thought has freaked me out in anticipation of this age. But I'm okay so far. Geeeeeeeeeeez!

Hugs for you, too, moinab! Cars can be such a pain in the you know what. Mine also needs work that I've been putting off...single parent, student, not working. I'm about ready to leave school and find a job. Don't want to do that! I'll never get my degree going that route! I hope it works out for you soon.

 

[Pig Pen]

I am going through something similar. I left my job earlier this year because my boss, a political appointee, was not re-appointed by the new administration.

Although my new boss was okay (a bit manic though) I am devoutly political so I found another job.

BIG MISTAKE! I cannot go into details but I am ready to quit after 5 months. Unfortunately, I make very, very good money and will not be able to find another position with comparable salary. To prepare for this, we sold our house, paid off all our bills, and rented a condo. Right now I am holding on until we decide if we are staying put or moving to FL.

Start looking around for another job. See if you can change your style of living to prepare for a pay cut.

Tell your SO good luck in surgery and we are all pulling for you here on the DIS.

 

[poohandwendy]

About the job...that really stinks. I have no advice, only best wishes that it will work out one way or the other. It usually does.

BUT, as far as the SO...please tell him to STOP being so fatalistic!!! It is not good to face things with the 'half empty cup' mentality. He is stressing you out and not doing his health good in any way by being negative. Sorry...had to vent a little. Life is too short to see things through dark, gloomy glasses....

 

[snuggles]

No advice here except that life is too short to do something you hate. I hope your job situation works out for the best and I'm sending prayers that your SO's surgery goes well. {{{{{{HUGS}}}}}

 

[Popsicle]

Thanks, everyone. Your hugs and understanding are the best medicine in the world. I should remember to leave the white zinfandel alone before getting on the Boards.

Moinab, my hugs and prayers go back to you. Will pray for you and yours that something wonderful comes through SOON for your family. My minister says that during our lifetime, we are always either going into a valley or coming out of one. No one stays on top of the mountain all the time. May your time in the valley be short.

As far as going back to the old firm, one of the senior partners told me before I left that if things didn't work out I could come back. I'll call him tomorrow and see if that offer still stands. It's my philosophy that you do the best work you can do on a job no matter how you feel about it. It has its rewards.

Thanks again, everybody!

 

[Robinrs]

Popsicle,

I'm so glad you're considering going back. If they considered you a valuable employee, they'd be THRILLED! Hopefully you can work it out.

No job is worth that kind of aggravation. These people sound like idiots.

Prayers for your SO and for you. Don't concentrate on the time of year, concentrate on hoping he will become more positive.

It's been a rough time for you and you deserve better,

God bless,

Robinrs

 

[GailT]

Popsicle, good luck with all you are going through. Times do get tough, be thankful you have a DS and your income is not alone. Things will work out, I am almost sure of that, employers can take their power an smash it in someone elses face, try to look the other way till you get something else. OH and I hope DH is OK after his surgery

 

[Popsicle]

It's Sunday. A blessed day. Again, thank you all for the supportive words and thoughts.

It's really important to put things in perspective, and to realize that no matter what our situations, there are still many things for which we can be thankful. We will ALL be okay.

Love and XXXX.