WWYD? Need advice on solo trip.

[ShesAPirate]

I'm very seriously considering a VERY last minute trip to Disney by myself. Time/money are not an issue... but I would be going to escape some horrible things going on in my life. I just feel like if things do stay lousy, I need to escape for a few days.

My question is, has anyone else done something like this? I don't want to ruin Disney for myself by attaching bad feelings to it (since my heart will still be breaking no matter where I am)... I don't know, I'm just confused. I feel like Disney is probably the only place that I'll feel even a little better, but I don't want to risk associating unhappiness with it.

Sorry if this doesn't make much sense. I feel like I'm not forming my thoughts too well. Any advice will be appreciated!

 

[monkeybug]

I think we all have places that bring us comfort, or make us feel better emotionally in some way. If you think that Disney is that place for you, I say go for it. Like you said, your going to feel heartache either way, if there is something about Disney that makes you believe it will ache a tad less there, then it's worth a shot.
I think you can continue to associate the bad things your going through with the issues causing them, and in the future know that Disney was separate from those issues.
I love the Mountains, and I've gone in really stressful times of my life to gain some peace, it has never caused me to feel like they are tied to the stress I was going through at the time. I still love to escape there in happy times and not so happy ones. The issues change, my life changes, but they stay pretty much the same, and I think that's what makes it such a comforting place to go to. I can see how Disney would be similar for some.

 

[hereyago]

First: I am sorry things aren't good for you right now.


I have never done a solo trip to Disney to get away, but I have gone off a few days to clear my head, to step outside of the situation type thing.

I will say that in 2003 a trip was all ready planned months before, I experience a hurricane and someone was looking out for me because I shouldn't be here right now. BUT: things with the house getting fixed-or shall I say not getting fixed because insurance company was just ignorant. I really needed to scream.

DD went into the Neverland Club and I went to ride the Tower of Terror and I screamed my head off-plus it was scary and I felt better afterwards. I could scream and no one would think I was just loco.

Take yourself and get away, hugs to you.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

I'm also sorry that you are having a difficult time right now. I think it is a good idea to get away for a few days and if you enjoy and find comfort in Disneyworld, that's a good choice for you. It would not be an issue for me in the future.

 

[Tuffcookie]

OP, I have done what you are comptemplating many a time! It refreshes your soul! Do not hesitate! You have to take care of you. (and once you're back you will be able to take on whatever the problem is/was)!



TC

 

[ShesAPirate]

Thanks for all for the replies so far -- and the hugs. It really does help to come to the boards when I'm down because of all the good people here. Thank you!

 

[disneyfav4ever]

I go to Disney by myself all the time. Once I went after a very close friend's death, and though that trip had already been planned, I was still really gald I went, since it made me feel like myself again.

 

[FireDancer]

I've gone solo plenty of times and loved it. Instead of retyping all the reasons why just read this column.

 

[Disney Doll]

I've never gone alone, but DH & I have gone on a couple of "comfort trips".

The 1st one was after some heartbreaking infertility issues. I was at home one afternoon, had my disney music playing, the SpectroMagic song came on and I was bawling! DH stopped home unexpectedly (of all the days...he alomst NEVER did that!) and found me. We ended up going to WDW about 3 weeks later, staying at the WL and having a marvelous, relaxing, wonderful time that really rejuvenated both of us. It made us realize that even if we couldn't have children, we had each other and a lot of love to give away as well.

The 2nd time was after my DMIL died. She died in December, we went in January and had the most perfect weather imaginable. Sunny and 80 every day. We relaxed, meandered around, lounged by the pool and just rejuvenated ourselves after 3 long months of caring for my dying DMIL and then burying her right before Christmas.

We don't associate WDW with bad at all...as a matter-of-fact, those 2 trips cemented in our minds that, for us, WDW is really emotionally curative. Both times we came back with a renewed ability to handle the things life was throwing at us. Taking ourselves out of the "thick" of each situation allowed us to gain some different perspective which enabled us to handle things better when we got home.

 

[Piglets Mommy]

I say go for it!
I'd really love to be able to go "run away" to Disney right now to get away from all the stress...if I had the time and money, I'd do it in a heartbeat!

 

[Mickey527]

I have gone to WDW alone many times and when I am there I don't usually think of the problems I have waiting for me at home. Usually they are the normal, stress, home issues, etc... I enjoy watching the people who are there smile and enjoy all my favorites without feeling any guilt that I am making someone else go on a ride or eat at a restaraunt that they don't like.
However, I did retreat to WDW once when I was newly diagnosed with Breast Cancer. I was diagnosed on Aug 18 and they couldn't do the surgery until Sept 30th. I had a month of thining about what I had to go through and since I knew the stage I was even more worried.
I went to WDW thinking I could forget everything but it didn't happen. I woke every morning thinking about the Cancer and went to bed every night in tears. No ride or drink could get my mind off what I had to look forward to.
So I guess it depends on what you are trying to get away from whether you can take it out of your mind completely.