WWYD Family/Christmas related

[Gigi22]

OP, give yourself a break.

When your soon to be XH is at work, check around for a good divorce lawyer, and make that appointment. Get those ducks in a row now.

Then, no matter how difficult your future XH is over the holidays, you have something to look forward to, and you can tell yourself that you are doing all you can in your current situation to make sure your kids have a good holiday.

 

[RadioNate]

OP - unfortunately, I know exactly what you are going through. I wish it was easier, for both of us.

 

[DisneyScraps]

I would just pretend that nothing is wrong for the day. Just be an award winning actress. Your kids probably won't remember much about Christmas as they get older but should it go wrong they might.

I am so sorry this is happening. I know it's a difficult time. Good luck to you and be strong!

Lisa

 

[hellokitty86]

No advice, just hugs.

 

[minkydog]

No no... nothing like that... we just haven't gotten along in a long time. He's been coming home later and later, and I suspect some extra curricular activities (can't prove it). It just sucks that this is all going down so close to Christmas. I want to do whatever is best for my kids. I just don't know if I should try to make things better for the next week and appease him, or just ignore the situation and pretend like everything is okay for their sake.

I think if you can manage to fake it for another week, you should. It's going to be bad no matter when you do it, but if you've managed this long one more week won't hurt you(assuming there is no abuse going on.)

 

[rie'smom]

So my husband and I haven't been getting along for a long time. This week has been particularly bad. I'm pretty sure that we will be getting a divorce. I don't want to ruin Christmas for DS9 and DD3. What do I do? Do I try to make up for this week to keep the peace for them (he would make Christmas unbearable) or do I just do my best to keep it together for me and them and ignore whatever he may do??

I'm so sorry that you are facing this! if it was me, I'd fake it through Christmas for the kids and then do what I had to do. Again, I'm so sorry.

OP - unfortunately, I know exactly what you are going through. I wish it was easier, for both of us.

I'm sorry you're going through this as well.

Hugs to you both.

 

[focusondisney]

OP - unfortunately, I know exactly what you are going through. I wish it was easier, for both of us.

Hope things get better for you, too.

 

[PrincessKsMom]

If you've made it this far, you can hang in there another week or so for the benefit of your children. Just think, the end is in sight and then you can begin a fresh start for you and your kids. Good lucks and

 

[wgwtgb]

Thank you all for ur comforting words of support...they mean more than any of you could ever know or realize...just a little update. There was a pretty big fight this evening...in front of dd3... So I have taken the children and will be staying at my parents home for the next few days. If I have to, I'll ask Santa to stop there. Thank you all again for your support. I shall keep you all posted!

 

[TLuvsD]

Ok, I wrote this before the OP updated.

Just stay at your parents. Have Santa come to their house...lots of kids visit Grandparents for Christmas......

Assuming no abuse/drugs/etc I'd stick it out if possible. I'd make plenty of holiday plans with just the kids or kids and friends. Things like looking at lights, book night at the library, whatever. Take pictures that don't necessarily include DH.

Get your financial house in order, no big spending, find copies of bank records, tax returns, credit card statements, cell phone bills. Call an attorney and get professional advice for your state.

I'm sorry you are going through this, especially at Christmas. I'll be thinking of you.

 

[focusondisney]

Sorry to read your update. I hope you'll find peace in the new year.


And luckily, Santa can find good children whereever they are!

 

[Liberty Belle]

OP, I'm sorry you're going through this.

I just read your update, and please understand that I would probably have done the same thing, but...how will their dad feel if he's not with them for Christmas, especially if this is your last one as a family? Maybe he is a crappy father and and doesn't care, but I just can't imagine how I'd feel if after a fight my husband took my sons to his moms and away from me for Christmas.

 

[dislaney]

No advice just Hope things get better for you soon!

 

[momof1princess]

i'm so sorry, OP i'm a former legal secretary, and the PPs are right-please, get your financial house in order. make copies of all bank, investment, mortgage and credit card statements, as well as any other financial records. many attorneys offer free or low-cost consultations, and my advice is to ask around and retain the most ruthless, shark of an attorney you can possibly find. please don't tell yourself that your DH would never do such a thing to you-i promise you, in a divorce situation, he would. i pray you and your children are safe, and that, no matter what, you have a Merry Christmas.

 

[december]

OP, just searched out this thread to see if you had updated. I hope all is well.

And RadioNate, just saw a sad update in another thread. You are in my thoughts as well.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

I think the holidays make things more stressful and bring things to the surface, there seem to be more hard times than usual. Hope all is okay.

 

[horseshowmom]

I think the holidays make things more stressful and bring things to the surface, there seem to be more hard times than usual. Hope all is okay.

I once had a lawyer friend tell me that there are more divorces at Christmas than any other time. She said that holidays seem to bring out the issues more.

OP, I hope you're okay.

 

[sunnyday123]

I once had a lawyer friend tell me that there are more divorces at Christmas than any other time. She said that holidays seem to bring out the issues more.

OP, I hope you're okay.

Lol...my ex listed Christmas Eve as our seperation date.