Wow, this is UNREAL....Suicide related.

[Beauty]

This morning a 21 year old in our town killed himself.

He was living with his girlfriend. She told him this morning that she was moving out, he went into the bedroom got a gun and said "Are you still moving out?" She said yes and he stuck the gun in his mouth and killed himself.

Unbelieveable........21 years old!

 

[Cindy B]

sad, tragic, and unfortunately happens too often.

Just this year, an 8th grader in my school district attempted suicide. Tragic and hard to understand for some.

Its hard in a small town. I lived in a very small rural town (my parents still live there) and an 8th grade student committed suicide back in 1984. It really rocked out town, and the act is still remembered 20 years later. I think about him sometimes as well. His family still lives in the town.

 

[cati]

So sad. I hate to hear about young people that do not know how precious their life is. I feel sorry for that girl and his family.

 

[Pop Daddy]

that so sad, but what a mean thing to do to the people that you suposedly love, they got to live with that

 

[sissybells]

I had someone I went to school with killed himself on the phone with his girlfriend after she broke up with him. It is so tragic. I don't understand it.

 

[browneyes]

Originally posted by Pop Daddy
that so sad, but what a mean thing to do to the people that you suposedly love, they got to live with that

Yes, and it takes years for us to cope with it.

 

[ginna74]

it is sad and tragic, certainly not mean.... it is hard to understand though when you aren't depressive. I have had a very close friend commit suicide. I have had to deal with the suicide deamon every day now for quite a few years now and was diagnosed with bipolar 2 (or b? lol). If I could make it go away I would..... I hate it and I hate what it has made me become, I am depressive and always thinking about the bad things and rarely thinking about the good. I get a phone call from my m inlaw and I am thinking of ways of ending it....my meds help but they don't cure what I have.. it makes it livable......it helps me live.... If I were to end it right now... my family would of course be sad an morn but they do know I have an illness and they know that yes it would in truth be a selfish reason but one that I might not have been able to control...



people will have their own opinions about suicide informed or not....

I think my friend was in so much pain... that was the only way for him to free himself..... it was not mean.... it would be mean for me to judge him.... only God's judgement will matter for him....it just irks me when I hear people talk bad about those who have commited suicide.... that is beyond wrong to talk about the dead like that....... sure I was mad at him for a while..... but only because I loved him and I felt guilty.... then I became informed..

my husband has to deal with me constently being negative. He listens and gives his support. Not once... ok maybe once or twice.... has he gotten fed up with me being this way. He helps me take my meds because he has seen me when I haven't taken them and I am sure it scares him. I can honestly say and I whole heartedly believe that if I were to stop my meds I would be dead in less then a month. Can you amagin the people out there that go untreated? They commit suicide for any little reason.... knowing what mental illness is I think is the key to knowing the person with the mental illness.

 

[catsrule]

One of my friends is a teacher's aid for special ed children. They had a second grader, only 8 years old threaten to commit suicide in the class.

 

[snookhams]

It is such a shame that these individuals feel that they have no one to turn to, I can not understand what they must be feeling or thinking that would lead them to this option.

Yesterday, at the church I work at, a young man, I would say in his late teens early twenties, cut his wrist in the churchyard, luckily we had a recently ordained deacon (by 1 week), in the church office at the time, he was marvelous, he gave up his whole day to go to the hospital with the young man and his girlfriend, and when he was discharged they came back to the church and spent a couple of hours talking. He was in the right place at the right time, I truly believe that God works in mysterious ways, that this young man was bought to our church because help was available for him. I pray that others in this situation might be as lucky.

 

[dlbwright]

I feel bad for his girlfriend. What is she going to go through for the rest of her life. So sad!

 

[Goofymum]

When I was 19 I had befriended a 17 yo girl who was apparantly a troubled teen. I worked at Wal-Mart as a Customer Service Manager at the time and knew her mom. She thought it would be good for her daughter to have some "good" friends..her mom didn't like her choice of friends so she asked me to call her.

After talking to her, we hit it off and became good friends of course I felt it was my responsibility to take care of her. One night I even drove an hour to take her home from work so she didn't have to walk a whole block down a dark alley alone. After knowing her for 5 or 6 months I walked into work one day to over hear a conversation about a lady at work who's daughter had commited suicide the night before. I was concerned so I got in on the conversation and started asking questions. When I had realized WHO they were talking about I was just in shock. They were trying to recall who it was from work that the daughter was friends with. I told them it was me and they didn't know what to say. I walked around in shock for like 20 minutes and then when it finally hit me I broke down right in front of the store in front of customers and everyone. I ended up going home shortly after. It was one of the longest hours of my life. I think in terms of the heart that was one of the saddest and most painful experiences I have had yet. It took a long time to heal and to this day it still affects me.

 

[wishuponastarforever]

I lost my brother to suicide. He was also 21. That was 29 years ago and my family still feels the guilt. If only someone in this situation could realize the impact a suicide has. So many lives changed - you deal with the loss and the guilt forever. I think many feel everyone would be better off without them. NOT TRUE!

I once heard "suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem". If only those who have felt so desperate could realize this.

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

No man (or woman) is worth killing yourself for. That's so sad.

 

[ginna74]

I was 12 when I took a 2 handfulls of tylenol....was an attention thing I think....


there are many many many kids out there who have mental illnesses as well. It isn't reserved for just adults.

oh I have plenty of people to turn to as well... It doesn't make a difference. My meds are what is keeping me alive.

I do feel bad for those kids out there that don't get the help they need and deserve. It is only when it is too late that most realize that there loved ones needed help desperately. The signs are always there..... just not always apparent.

 

[Maleficent13]

It disturbs me when I hear stories like the OP's, and the several I have heard recently where a teen's response to discipline is to down a bottle of pills to "show them!".

Please understand, I mean no disrespect toward anyone battling depression (a very real condition), but I don't think that some of these cases are about that. I think some of them are more about punishing the person they feel has wronged them. I also feel that so many really don't understand that death is not reversable (especially those who are young). Death is forever. And the people you leave behind have to live with that fact every day. If you think that after a while they'll forget about you, well, you're wrong.

JMO, FWIW.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Very sad.

Wow, I mean, I think about the loser guys I was involved with when I was 21, and think....don't these kids realize that their "one and only" when they are in high school and college is probably NOT the person they will be with for the rest of their lives??? I mean, I know it's sad to break up, but certainly not worth dying over.

Such a shame. He probably had many other issues and this just made him snap.

 

[TerriP]

My husband's best friend committed suicide in their Junior year of high school, over a girlfriend that broke up with him. To this day, after more than ten years, my husband still says it is the hardest thing he's ever had to deal with. The two of them were born only two days apart in the same hospital, lived next door to each other, and were in school together from the very first day. My husband says he feels like someone that was destined to be his best friend for life left before life even really got started.

My sympathies to everyone who has ever had a suicide touch their lives.

 

[TinkBoo&ElliesMum]

I used to watch one of DS' friends and his older sister after school. The boy was 6 and had some issues, their mom wasn't around a lot and moved them around and in with different men.

The 6 year old was having a hard time with school work (he refused to do it and wanted everyone else to do it) DS offered to help him with some of his work instead of doing it for him, the kid freaked and went to the knife drawer, he decided he was going to kill himself. DS stopped him, held the drawer closed and screamed. I was a wreck and he was totally pissed that he had been stopped. I called his Mom and DH who both came running to the house (I was pregnant at this point and not needing the stress) She ended up doing nothing about it, decided he was just stressed out and that he would get over it.

We stopped talking shortly after that, I didn't want DS and DD around that kind stuff and if she wasn't willing to do anything about his problems I wasn't going to get stuck dealing with it. I tried to find her help, she said everyone was freaking out for nothing.

I can't imagine what I would have done if he had done it.

 

[luvmarypoppins]

I have had to deal with this one too many times. I think the worst part is most of the time you have no clue this is going to happen.

# 1 - My best friends boyfriend. I was playing tennis with him and then a few days later my girlfriend did want to break up with him and just be friends. He killed himself while talking to her on the phone. She was trying to get the police over to the house.

#2- My former best friends sister. The first time she threw herself in front of a train and the injury she received was losing her hand. The 2nd time she lost her life. In this case her parents knew and I feel they didnt aggresively get her the treatment she needed. Seems like this runs in their family.

#3- My next door neighbor in texas. Nice family guy with a small baby girl. Corrections officer so he had the gun. Saw him cutting his grass. 2 days later he decides to blow his brains out in the middle of the night. DH and I always wondered about this. Not too soon after his death we saw his wife partying it up with a bunch of people. Very strange. Alot of unanswered questions.

# 4- Mom from our church. Went home and found one of her sons dead in the bedroom. Seemed like he had been questioning life for a while.

Now I have another acquitance from church who looks like she is heading this way. Alot of people got after her husband as he was also not getting her the help she needed. I send her cards as she doesnt want to go out or speak to anyone except 2 people.

I guess you just have to be a good listener and observer sometimes too. Its such a sad situation.