Would you want to be invited to this wedding reception?

[luvmy3]

Call me old fashioned (and I am only 34!) but all this "the reception is about the bride & groom" stuff is wrong. The reception is a party you are throwing FOR YOUR GUESTS, just like hosting any other gathering. You need to take into account what makes them comfortable and happy. The WEDDING and the MARRIAGE are about the bride & groom. Think about it, how comfortable are Great-Grandma and old Aunt Helen going to be sitting on a bale of hay??? IMHO, you have to put your guests first when hosting ANY kind of gathering, that is more important than doing what you want because YOU like it.

If thats how you feel there is always declining the invite to the recpetion if you don't feel it meets your expectations

 

[chloelovesdisney]

I would have to decline that invitation.

 

[MushyMushy]

I would go for a close friend or family member (which in this case being a godson, he is). The reception itself would be fine to me, but then I live in a rural area where something like this would be commonplace. It's really no different than any other destination wedding -- you'll have people fine with the travel, and for some it would be a hardship.

 

[Donaldswife]

If thats how you feel there is always declining the invite to the recpetion if you don't feel it meets your expectations

OH, I know that. I just think some people have gone way overboard in its the whole "it's my day" or "it's our day" mentality. I believe if you are hosting a party you should take into account all your guests and make it as comfortable as possible for as many as possible. Personally, I WOULD go to a wedding like this, but I would not HOST a wedding like this because it would create too many issues for too many people. I think people focus too much on themselves and what they want, instead of realizing that having as many people as you love possible there with you to celebrate your new marriage with you.

 

[suzannen]

My sister had a wedding similar to this years ago on her BIL's farm. It was only immediate family and closest friends invited for a total of 35 guests. Nothing was held in the barn, but the wedding was outside with bales of hay covered with gorgeous homemade quilts (very comfy) and beautiful. The reception was held in the back yard. It wasn't vegan though, it was a big old Southern BBQ with a pig roast, ribs, burgers, beer, wine and sweet tea. No band or DJ, just music playing on their stereo speakers. And, at the end, we all sat down and played the game Trivial Pursuit which had just come out. It was one of the most fun and personal weddings I've ever been to. And, I'm a citified NYer, if there ever was one. This will be the complete opposite of my DD's wedding in 9 days in NYC which will be a black tie affair at the Pierre Hotel with over 300 guests. I'm hoping that will be fun too, just in a different way. How boring if every wedding was the same.

 

[TheLists09]

I don't accept or decline a wedding invitation because of where a reception is held, or what is being served...I base my decision on who is inviting me. If only an acquaintance, then I wouldn't have a problem declining...but a friend or family? It makes no difference how they choose to celebrate - its their day.

ITA with this sentiment. Just hit McDonalds on the way over to the wedding. And all will be good.

 

[Green Tea]

So, you would happily make a 600 mile round trip?... to go to a place that is inconvenient for almost every single invited guest?

It's the couple's day, not yours. They should do what is special and important to them.