Would you rather...

[Tink888]

Well, as it stands right now, I love my DH. We aren't poor but we aren't rich either. I'll stick it out with him and take the love regardless of rich or poor.

Now, if something were to happen to DH, I think the next time around I'll give up the love and take the rich. I'm pretty sure I could spend my way to happiness (I know I'll give it one heck of a try) and for enough cash I can get along with anyone pretty darn well!

Plus, I can't see myself ever loving anyone the way I love DH anyhow so if I can't have that, then yeah, show me the money!!!

 

[SDSorority]

Would you rather...

Be with the person you loved and be poor?

OR

NOT be with the person you loved and be well off?


And please, no: "Be well off AND be with the person I love!", unless you really really really can't help yourself. Looking for what people value most: love or financial well-being. Just curious!

I can't imagine being without my husband. He is seriously my soulmate.

 

[4nana]

I'll go with #1, as we've been poor most of our 46 yrs together!

Praise God we no longer struggle to make ends meet, as seniors are more comfortable financially, but have definitely earned that badge in younger years.

I'm blessed with a very loving husband I wouldn't trade for gold, a wonderful family, a home he built us, and all the necessities.

I'm probabaly rich in ways many will never realize or know!

 

[NHdisneylover]

The first couple of years we were married DH and I were broke (not poor--I like what a PP pointed out). We lived in Phoenix where water bills are high and usage is much higher during day time hours than at night. So, I only did laundry at night time and we got up earlier than we otherwise needed to to grab our (quick) showers before rates went up. All laundry was hung out to dry. We only ran the A?C for a couple of hours in the evening to cool the house down enough to fall asleep and only on the days it was over 100. We ate meat once a week and I felt HORRIBLY guilty for giving into my pregnancy craving for out of season nectarines because they were so expensive. We never went to a movie and were able to go out to dinner about once a week because my wonderful mother in law would send us a chatty letter with $20 and a note that we HAD to use it to go out to eat about once a week We rented movies on special occasions (birthdays and Christmas Eve). I know we qualified for WIC because the health nurse who came to LLL meetings wanted to run the numbers--we didn't take it and I do not know what else we might have qualified for. if i had to live like that for the rest of my life to have DH in it I would do it in a heartbeat.

 

[disykat]

Okay.. poor meaning you can make ends meet.

So, you can eat, own a car, have somewhere to live, etc. BUT, you can't always go to the movies, out to dinner, have extra money to just spend, take shopping sprees.. and worst of all: cut back on your Disney habit.

In that case, I think I DID pick #1. Wait, I wasn't rich when I was single either!

 

[Mickey'snewestfan]

I'm sorry, then, but your scenario just doesn't make any sense. I'm poor because I'm poor, but only if I'm with that person? Otherwise I'm well off?

Is there a single person money fairy involved? Otherwise I just don't see how your financial situation is tied to your partner without them being involved.

I realize you're just asking a question out of curiosity, but it's hard to answer because there just isn't any logic to it.

Unless, of course, I can find that fairy.

Your super rich ex husband (who was so terrible you repressed that memory) has been court ordered to deposit alimony into your bank account each month -- however, you have stay single and celibate in order to receive it.

Substitute ex wife if that works better for you.

 

[NHdisneylover]

Your super rich ex husband (who was so terrible you repressed that memory) has been court ordered to deposit alimony into your bank account each month -- however, you have stay single and celibate in order to receive it.

Substitute ex wife if that works better for you.

oh you're good at this

 

[lspst8]

Let me state that I am the least romantic person that I know. In high school when we studied that romantic poets, my English teacher had everyone take a quiz to see if we would identify with them, and I scored the lowest in my class --- every teenaged boy was more romantic than me! Depsite all that, I'd still pick my DH over great wealth (especially since you qualified that we have enough for necessities and aren't starving or homeless).

Although, why can't you be the one who makes the money? I make more than double what my husband does (and he only got his pretty good job a few months ago, prior that he only made 10 bucks a hour at Lowes.) I still married him. We still get along great, and we haven't had one fight about money ever. I love the old saying "I bring home the bacon, and can fry it up in a pan." There is no rule that the man has to make the majority of the family income.

 

[Mickey'snewestfan]

NH,

I don't know whether to thank you for the complement, or curse you out for quoting me in the 1 minute before I corrected my apostrophe error.

 

[NHdisneylover]

NH,

I don't know whether to thank you for the complement, or curse you out for quoting me in the 1 minute before I corrected my apostrophe error.

That is how I feel about my tags. I love that I got them and don't dare mess with them--but they both have terrible typos

I think I can go back and fix it in your quote

ETA--done! Now everyone can just wonder what error you're talking about. hee-hee

 

[eliza61]

Also... how poor is poor? Because I like eating. If being poor makes it so that I have to eat ramen noodles the rest of my life I'm definitely picking option #2.

LOL. definitely my kindred spirit. Will I have to forgo indoor plumbing? if so, bye bye sweetie, hello penthouse.

 

[traviesojmt]

Dh and I got married and all we owed was bills. Some of our fondest memories were from our poor times. We worked and no longer are we poor.

If DH passed away now I would be well off and sad. I would rather lose all that we had and have him. Love is more
important than money.

I vote for love.

This pretty much sums up my DH and I as well. I look back at some old check stubs from when we got married (14 yrs ago) and wonder how we could afford to eat. We did not have money for extras, but we were always happy. I know without a shadow of a doubt that I would rather be poor with my DH than rich without him.

 

[Rora]

Glad to see most everyone is choosing love!!

 

[NHdisneylover]

Glad to see most everyone is choosing love!!

What did the Beatles say? Can't Buy Me Love (and All You Need is Love). Maybe they were on to something

 

[Liberty Belle]

Okay.. poor meaning you can make ends meet.

So, you can eat, own a car, have somewhere to live, etc. BUT, you can't always go to the movies, out to dinner, have extra money to just spend, take shopping sprees.. and worst of all: cut back on your Disney habit.

Heh, I guess I already chose this option about 18 years ago. It's not so bad. Can't say I consider myself poor, though.

Poor to me means, you struggle to clothe and feed your family, do not own a home, etc.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

Well, your definition of poor isn't poor to anyone but Donald Trump, so you make it too easy.

To answer the question, I would rather be third world country poor and be with my wife than be Bill Gates rich without her. Let's hope it never comes to that.

 

[nmmom95]

I chose love...I couldn't imagine my life without my husband. I told him , though, if we ever do a vow renewal, I'm only saying for better, for richer and in health, because we've had enough of the other stuff and it SUCKS!

 

[Liberty Belle]

NH,

I don't know whether to thank you for the complement, or curse you out for quoting me in the 1 minute before I corrected my apostrophe error.

I hate it when that happens!

 

[NHdisneylover]

Well, your definition of poor isn't poor to anyone but Donald Trump, so you make it too easy.

To answer the question, I would rather be third world country poor and be with my wife than be Bill Gates rich without her. Let's hope it never comes to that.

You should email this to her. It is so sweet (and I feel the same way about my DH--isn't it a good feeling?)

 

[C.Ann]

Love and poor - hands down..