Would you pay for it?

[RadioNate]

Oh please lets not turn this into a drunk driving debate. We live in the same subdivision as these people. We could walk there, it was cold out so we drove. We left several HOURS after the xbox incident and I know my husband well enough to know that if there was ANY question about his ability to drive he would have handed over the keys. He has done so many times in the past.

Just because there was alcohol at the party doesn't mean everyone was completely hammered and puking in the bushes.

 

[Chilehead Too]

I would never in a million years have let on to you that the thing was not working properly. Even if it was in a hundred pieces, this is one instance where I think a white lie is perfectly acceptable. Friendship is certainly more important to me than an X bOX. (not even sure what the heck it is )


However, I find the way that you are hndling the situation is admirable. As far as it being your husbands fault, I disagree, accidents happen all the time.

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

Judge Judy doesn't have a Dis user name so I'm letting her borrow mine to post her "opinion."

The hosts of the party served alcohol at the party or at minimum allowed alcohol to be served at the party. When people drink they get silly. Besides the silliness that would already be going on because it is a party, the alcohol adds to it and decreases judgement. The hosts knew alcohol was being consumed inside their home so therefore they bear some responsibility for any damage sustained on their property.

Responsibility should be split 50/50 - since each side shares equal responsibility. RadioNate's husband was drinking and goofing around, and the hosts of the party allowed alcohol to be consumed at the party inside their home.

If RadioNate's Dh suffered any damages that he needed to seek medical care for, he should pay his own bills. The hosts of the party should pay to have the XBox fixed or buy a new one. Each would be taking 50/50 responsibility by taking care of their own expenses (even if the expenses aren't equal). That's what happens when you act irresponsibly - someone gets the short end of the stick.

If RadioNate's Dh didn't have any medical expenses, he and the party hosts should split repair costs on the XBox 50/50.

Now, get out of here and don't pee on my leg and tell me it's raining!

 

[FreshTressa]

I would never in a million years have let on to you that the thing was not working properly. Even if it was in a hundred pieces, this is one instance where I think a white lie is perfectly acceptable. Friendship is certainly more important to me than an X bOX. (not even sure what the heck it is )


However, I find the way that you are hndling the situation is admirable. As far as it being your husbands fault, I disagree, accidents happen all the time.

Yah, me too.

 

[LMCT88]

You said it in your post before it was an accident. I know in past experiences, I have had friends over and things have happened, and it was like don't worry about it. I guess I look at life is to short to worry about the small things. (Not to say the Xbox is important), its just how people value things. I know I would offer to fix the problem, and I the response I would get would be no don't worry about. I guess it all depends on how friendly you are. Just my thought.

 

[lovesmurfs]

If it were me holding the party, I'd chalk it up to the cost of hosting a party in my home and thank you kindly, but refuse. Accidents are accidents. Your insistence on paying for it is commendable.

However, I did have an incident where two 12 year old boys were playing catch with a baseball in my living room, after I told them not to, and the crash I heard was my front living room window. I made my son pay for half and his friend to do menial labor for me in my garden (with his mother's permission). Then again, with this particular friend of my son's, breakage appears to happen more often than the average.

 

[Nancyg56]

yes I would offer to pay for it. If the offer were turned down, I would give a gift of equivalent value perharps in the form of a gift card. That's just the way I am. If that were my home and my XBox, you never would have known it was broken because I would never have embarrassed my friends by telling them they broke something of mine.


edited to add: I do think your friend should turn down the offer to pay

That is what I would do. I would never embarrass a friend by telling them they broke something in my house.

 

[Cindyluwho]

I think accusing them of trying to scam a new Xbox is harsh, as is accusing your DH of being drunk and clumsy.

For the record, how is asking if someone was drunk is that ACCUSING them of being drunk? I just didn't feel comfortable giving an opinion without knowing all of the information. To me, that info makes a huge difference. From the OPs answer it seems that it was just a plain old accident, but without the info for all we know he could have been dancing around in a gold lame' g-string, singing hits from ABBA and slid into the X-Box. Now, I'm not accusing him of doing that but I'd like to see the video if he was....

 

[AKLRULZ]

I'd pay without complaint or hesitation. However, on the flip side I'd never accept the payment from someone who did it.

 

[sha_lyn]

I know the man who accidently slid into my car last winter didn't mean to, but I still expected him to fix the damage. JMHO.

But would you expect hm to pay the damage if you served him alcohol and you make the roads slick wiht ice? In the OP's case the host/hostess of the party brought it upon themselves. Now knowing that he was racing the the host, I am even more convinced that the OP/her DH should not be held responisible.

 

[RadioNate]

For the record, how is asking if someone was drunk is that ACCUSING them of being drunk? I just didn't feel comfortable giving an opinion without knowing all of the information. To me, that info makes a huge difference. From the OPs answer it seems that it was just a plain old accident, but without the info for all we know he could have been dancing around in a gold lame' g-string, singing hits from ABBA and slid into the X-Box. Now, I'm not accusing him of doing that but I'd like to see the video if he was....

No he wasn't doing that, lol. But he was trying to turn off that Chain Hang Low song! And was wearing a leapord print pimp hat.

He WAS being silly and he knows that. We both feel badly. I'm definately more hurt about the cost than he is.

I was definately raised never to say anything. If it was our game system, I'm sure I would have said everything was fine even if it wasn't. But DH and I did offer to replace it and I DID ask our friend to please let me know if it was broke so I could pay for it. So they ARE doing what I asked.

I sounds like it isn't totally distroyed so hopefully it is fixable, if not we'll purchase a new one.

I think we are all over it. The thought of an extra $400 when paying bills last night got to me...however, my pay check came today and that changes things, lol.

 

[hydster]

Wow I cannot believe the Xbox broke from such a small thud on the floor. My boys have dropped ours down our stairs twice and in our driveway once and that sucker keeps on going! Those things are really tough *at least ours is*.

I think it's great you are going to replace it but I do think the friends are being somewhat tacky in their approach! If it were me and this happened at my home I wouldn't allow someone to pay full price for it even if they were adamant about it. If they were just so bent on paying I'd go 1/2 with them as it was part your friends fault for leaving it out, waxing the floors and serving alcohol.

We've had parties with alcohol and letting someone buy us a new xbox because we chose not to put it away wouldn't have even entered our mind. If you like it and you want to keep it....put it away during a party! You never know what can or will happen!

I think it's great you are willing to pay for it even though it stinks!

 

[ZachnElli]

Something similar happened to a friend of mine last spring. She was hosting some home party. She invited several women and one brought her mom with her. She was serving wine and appetizers. My friend had her laptop out as they were using it to look up info on some of the items they were selling. Well the mom of the friend had too much wine, slipped and spilled her wine on my friend's laptop. There was no hiding that it was immediately damaged. She tried to have it repaired, but it was beyond that. The woman who slipped (didn't actually fall), her dh kept calling and insisting that he pay for a new one. They ended up splitting the difference and my friend never did feel comfortable about it.

The funny thing is she asked me what I would have done. And I asked her if she remembered my new coat. She said yes, and I told her when she was at WDW and her college aged son was suppose to be watching her dog, but she was nervous and asked me to check on him (the dog) and I did. Yes. Well, the dog (a very large lab lacking his usual attention) jumped on me and ripped my leather coat up. I didn't tell her at the time, I didn't expect her to pay for it. Hey, I got a great new coat out of it!

 

[Nancyg56]

No he wasn't doing that, lol. But he was trying to turn off that Chain Hang Low song! And was wearing a leapord print pimp hat.

Oh my, that is quite a visual .

 

[jenm2878]

But would you expect hm to pay the damage if you served him alcohol and you make the roads slick wiht ice? In the OP's case the host/hostess of the party brought it upon themselves. Now knowing that he was racing the the host, I am even more convinced that the OP/her DH should not be held responisible.

My point was, my car is expensive as is an x-box. (not the same, but you get the idea) If someone damaged it, accident or not, it should be taken care of. If I accidently did something like that I would feel so guilty that even if they wouldn't take my money I would make it up to them in some other way.

I don't see how inviting people over is "bringing it on themselves." If the OP's husband & friends are anything like my friends they were probably playing the x-box at some point during the party. If someone spilled wine on my carpet is it my fault for having carpet in the first place?

ETA: I'm not being argumenative, I just think that when something significant is damaged it's only right to offer to fix it. I don't think they owe them a new x-box but should pay for at least half of the repairs.

 

[Pooh67_68]

You are handling it the way you want. You have gotten plenty of what someone else would do if it happened to them.


What I want to know is WHY would they wax the hardwood floors the day of the party?

 

[RadioNate]

You are handling it the way you want. You have gotten plenty of what someone else would do if it happened to them.


What I want to know is WHY would they wax the hardwood floors the day of the party?

lol - In her defense she was out of town until Friday and the party was Sat but I actually never knew people waxed hardwood floors in the 1st place. Growing up I lived for nearly 15 years in a house with hardwood floors and I can promise you my mom never waxed them.

 

[DISUNC]

Judge Judy doesn't have a Dis user name so I'm letting her borrow mine to post her "opinion."

The hosts of the party served alcohol at the party or at minimum allowed alcohol to be served at the party. When people drink they get silly. Besides the silliness that would already be going on because it is a party, the alcohol adds to it and decreases judgement. The hosts knew alcohol was being consumed inside their home so therefore they bear some responsibility for any damage sustained on their property.

Responsibility should be split 50/50 - since each side shares equal responsibility. RadioNate's husband was drinking and goofing around, and the hosts of the party allowed alcohol to be consumed at the party inside their home.

If RadioNate's Dh suffered any damages that he needed to seek medical care for, he should pay his own bills. The hosts of the party should pay to have the XBox fixed or buy a new one. Each would be taking 50/50 responsibility by taking care of their own expenses (even if the expenses aren't equal). That's what happens when you act irresponsibly - someone gets the short end of the stick.

If RadioNate's Dh didn't have any medical expenses, he and the party hosts should split repair costs on the XBox 50/50.

Now, get out of here and don't pee on my leg and tell me it's raining!

 

[Pooh67_68]

Ok, and yes waxing the floors keeps them nice.

lol - In her defense she was out of town until Friday and the party was Sat but I actually never knew people waxed hardwood floors in the 1st place. Growing up I lived for nearly 15 years in a house with hardwood floors and I can promise you my mom never waxed them.

 

[Beca]

I just think there is something about "homeowner's insurance" that is designed to cover things like this. My mom always taught me that when we have people over...WE are responsible. I just had a similar discussion with someone at my dd's gymnastics class. We just bought her a trampoline, and a mom advised me that I should NOT allow other children to jump on the tramp when they are over. She said insurance in Texas has specific clauses about NOT covering other people's children on trampolines. Otherwise, I think insurance has to cover the damage done by other people in your home (if they were invited)...just like your car. I often allow my mom to drive my car. If she wrecked it, I would not expect her to pay for it....I would file a claim on my insurance. She was an approved driver (i.e., I gave her permission to drive my car), so my insurance would pay for it.

Now, if you want to be REALLY nice, you could offer to pay for the deductible on insurance (which is probably more than $400). However, I would let them know that I am not paying anything unless they file a claim with their homeowner's insurance. I would also want it noted on the claim that my dh fell, and keep the door open for futher treatment.

What amazes me is what amazes others. In this litigious-crazy society, I am really shocked that your friends have not expressed more concern about your husband's needs, and a little less concern about their x-box.