Would you let your 13 year old...

[lovindisney4ever]

Would you let your 13-year-old DD dye her hair an odd color??? DD has asked to dye her hair black with a few teal streaks on the front sides. I had hoped this day would never come but now it has. I am all for having your own style and expression but I am torn as to whether or not to let her do it.

 

[wvjules]

Would you let your 13-year-old DD dye her hair an odd color??? DD has asked to dye her hair black with a few teal streaks on the front sides. I had hoped this day would never come but now it has. I am all for having your own style and expression but I am torn as to whether or not to let her do it.

My DD16 never asked but yes I would let her. However, since school is getting ready to start make sure they don't have any "unnatural hair color" rule in the school's handbook.

 

[oceanscape]

No, I wouldn't.

 

[snarlingcoyote]

If the school doesn't have a policy against it, why not? It's hair. It grows out. Pretty harmless way for her to show her independence and personality.

 

[dandave]

Absolutely! I helped my 14 yo dye his hair bright blue in June. He actually got quite a few compliments, even from much older people. It actually looked quite good. It was all cut out this weekend, since it can't be colored in school here.
It's just hair. He'll remember that bit of freedom and fun for his entire life.

 

[punkin]

I would try to convince her to try a more natural color or maybe do something non-permanent, but if she was adamant I would allow it. It's only hair. After all, my mother was horrified at my crew cut in 12th grade (she cried as my curls were cut) but she let me do it.

 

[TinkPirateMom]

Nope. DD is about to turn 15. She knows she cannot have her hair colored until she is 18. No I'm not really a strict Mom but I just think once a girl starts messing around with hair color it is difficult to get it back to it's natural beauty and expensive to maintain a fake color.

 

[disneyismyname]

I'm on the fence. Maybe put temporary hair color in? It only last for a month.

 

[tinkerbell2181]

Streaks of 'odd' colors are actually not so 'alternative wild' style anymore. Most of the salons and celebrities are doing it. I seen a woman about 60, not the type you would expect with streaks of hot pink in her hair the other day. After seeing that I realized it's not an alternative style anymore.......it's becoming mainstream.

Same thing with the bling jewels and the feather hair extensions, alternative is in.

 

[babyrich]

Like the other poster said, its hair it grows out. Definately check the school rules; but also let her know what it will look like once her roots start growing in if her natural color is that much different than the black.

Be thankful she doesnt want something pierced or tatooed!!!!

 

[Becc1]

I hate to sound like a old fuddy duddy but I definately wouldn't. Not at age 13. I also don't get these young kids who have piercings all over and tattoos at young ages.

 

[golfgal]

I lucked out on that and DD wasn't "into" that kind of thing. I realize it is hair but at 13 I don't think they need to be putting all those chemicals on their head and we live in a pretty conservative town and she would have been picked on if she had done that. They do put a colored stripe of hair in during marching band each year but it is that adhesive stuff and only stays in for a week or so.

 

[snarlingcoyote]

Nope. DD is about to turn 15. She knows she cannot have her hair colored until she is 18. No I'm not really a strict Mom but I just think once a girl starts messing around with hair color it is difficult to get it back to it's natural beauty and expensive to maintain a fake color.

My niece is always putting in stripes and taking them out. The semi-permanant hair colors that are around today don't strip hair; they just fade away, the hair is fine, so this really isn't the concern that it was 20 years ago when we all used to fry our hair with at home blonding kits, then top it off with kool-aide and then wonder why our hair was so bad.

Seriously, it's not expensive and it's not hard to get it back to the way it was these days. Hair color has come a long way!

 

[jamiesmom07]

Why not? The way I see it, I am going to pick my battles with my soon to be 13 year old. It's hair, it grows out or can be cut. Now tattoos or piercings, we may have WW3 on our hands

 

[cornflake]

Why not? As above, it's hair, it'll grow out. The person who said it's hard to get back to its natural colour - just stop dyeing it or cut the dyed part off and voila, it's not like she'd be trying to keep up with her roots.

It's her head, if she wants it purple or whatever... it's totally impermanent and there are dyes without the nasty chemicals. Wasn't there just a thread about someone's kid Kool-aid'ing their hair?

 

[Princess_Meghan <3]

My mom let me dye my hair purple when I was 13. It was a temporary kit, as my school had rules against unnatural hair colors, so we did it over Christmas break. unfortunately, it didn't come out before I went back to school. I managed to get away with purple hair for a few days before I could get it fixed- my friends and I all thought it was the coolest thing ever!

It does eventually grow out, and if your school doesn't have any rules against it, I say let her- as a pp said, she could be asking for piercings and tattoos, and at least the hair can be changed down the line.

 

[Arielle22]

When DD18 started high school she asked for 2 purple streaks in the front. We tried it at home but her hair was so dark you couldn't see the color. So I paid to take her to the salon and have her hair bleached then the color added.

She is a senior this year and we have kept it up. At the salon it takes her about 1.5 hours between the bleach, color, cut and straightening. Her stylist tells her she has more hair cut off then some people come in with.

Before it was done originally I explained that it could limit her job choices but she was ok with that.

When my niece was 19 she had a hot pink streak in her bangs that looked great. When she started working part time at a hospital delivering food she had to take it out.

 

[Purple Nightshade]

I would let her do it. A little freedom makes for a happy kid

 

[Andtototoo]

My dd wanted to dye part of her hair cobalt blue. Sure, why not?

She kept it up for about a year, then got tired of the maintenance, but says she still misses it.

It was also a good life lesson for her, because she discovered how many people judge others based upon superficial appearance. She had quite a few people who had known her for 10+ year withdraw from her because in their mind unnatural hair color = drug addict. Yup, she had her hair done on a Tuesday and on Wednesday, some friends refused to sit with her any more now that she was a "druggie". It taught her an important lesson about making assumptions and judging others, which IMO was well worth the cost of the salon trips.

 

[mjkacmom]

Yes!