Would you have expected a call?

[budmonster]

DS14 was out with a couple of friends today, one of the mothers was driving them, he just texted me about an hour and a half ago telling me that they were in a fender bender. I didn't have my phone on so I didn't get the text until about an hour after it happened. While I've already talked to DS and he's fine don't you think that mother should have given me a curiosity call and informed me of the accident? Especially when I didn't anwser the text from DS.

 

[OceanAnnie]

Yes. It would have been nice. Glad no one is hurt.

 

[katesorad]

DS14 was out with a couple of friends today, one of the mothers was driving them, he just texted me about an hour and a half ago telling me that they were in a fender bender. I didn't have my phone on so I didn't get the text until about an hour after it happened. While I've already talked to DS and he's fine don't you think that mother should have given me a curiosity call and informed me of the accident? Especially when I didn't anwser the text from DS.

I'd say that it would probably be appropriate for the mother to give you a courtesy call to let you know what happened. It's better than you possibly seeing the accident on the news or hearing about it from a friend who just so happened to be passing by the scene, seeing your son standing there, outside the damaged car.

 

[Pamlur]

If my phone is off and somebody calls, unless they leave a voicemail there is no indication they tried to call. Could she have tried to call, and then your son told her he had texted you, so she didn't try again?

 

[Hannathy]

If it truly was just a minor fender bender then No I wouldn't have called with a 14 yr old with their own phone. I would just think that the kid would have let you know. If it was a little child I may have but not with a kid that old if it were very minor.


Since when are fender benders in the news?

 

[Tinijocaro]

It would really depend on the type of accident. Eventually, she should have called no matter how severe, but if was truly just a little fender beder, no need to rush, unless she was late in delivering your son home.

 

[budmonster]

If my phone is off and somebody calls, unless they leave a voicemail there is no indication they tried to call. Could she have tried to call, and then your son told her he had texted you, so she didn't try again?

My cell phone was off because i get bad service in my house, so when he texted me and I didn't anwser she should have said let's call the house.

DS is fine it was just a fender bender but if the shoe was on the other foot I wouldn't hesitate to call the parent and let them know what happened.

 

[LuvLDM]

I wouldn't expect an immediate call if it was just a fender bender.

 

[sbsteel]

My cell phone was off because i get bad service in my house, so when he texted me and I didn't anwser she should have said let's call the house.

DS is fine it was just a fender bender but if the shoe was on the other foot I wouldn't hesitate to call the parent and let them know what happened.

Did she even know your son was texing you? She could've been busy with the police or exchanging information with the other party when your son texted you. Or she could've asked the kids to contact their parents to let them know and your son sent you a text since he couldn't reach you.

IMO, after she made sure everyone was ok, she most likely needed to talk to the police, her husband/SO, insurance company...that can take awhile, depending on the circumstances. It's understandable that you didn't get a call right away.

 

[MichelleVW]

If it truly was just a minor fender bender then No I wouldn't have called with a 14 yr old with their own phone. I would just think that the kid would have let you know. If it was a little child I may have but not with a kid that old if it were very minor.


Since when are fender benders in the news?

Same here, I wouldn't have called a teenagers mom. I don't have the phone numbers of my DD's friends, let alone parents. A 14 year old is quite capable of calling themselves, and unless the child was hurt or you were late getting him home, it could wait until the kid got home.

 

[Magic Mom]

No, it was just a fender bender. He's 14 not 4, and he texted you.

 

[LilyWDW]

If it was a fender bender and no one was injured, then it's really not a huge deal. Besides, your child is 14. I would think he should be trusted enough to do what he needs to do to get in touch with you. The parent would most likely have had a lot to deal with. I don't think it is unreasonable for the children to be in charge of contacting their parents.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

My cell phone was off because i get bad service in my house, so when he texted me and I didn't anwser she should have said let's call the house.

DS is fine it was just a fender bender but if the shoe was on the other foot I wouldn't hesitate to call the parent and let them know what happened.

In that case, I would tell my child that if you are in another "incident" where you think that I would want to speak with you right away, like fender benders, medical issues, etc. I would tell child to call the house, dad, aunt, whatever, if I do not answer the text right away.

I put the responsibility on my kid because that is where is should be placed as they get older imo. As you see with this incident parents might call or they might not.

 

[Allison]

I guess I don't see it as that big of a deal. I would think she was making calls to the insurance company, husband, etc. The DS is old enough to let you know what happened and he could have told her he had texted you.

 

[aprilgail2]

Same here, I wouldn't have called a teenagers mom. I don't have the phone numbers of my DD's friends, let alone parents. A 14 year old is quite capable of calling themselves, and unless the child was hurt or you were late getting him home, it could wait until the kid got home.

 

[merryweather20]

My cell phone was off because i get bad service in my house, so when he texted me and I didn't anwser she should have said let's call the house.

DS is fine it was just a fender bender but if the shoe was on the other foot I wouldn't hesitate to call the parent and let them know what happened.

In that case your son should have been aware you don't keep your cell on and called the house.

There was no need for the other Mom to call you. Even if she had found it necessary to do a redundant call, she would have called your cell which you didn't have on in the first place. Your son is the one who should have known to call you at home.

 

[RadioNate]

Minor fender bender & your 14 year old contacted you. I would expect to be informed however you were informed. I wouldn't have expected the mother to call especially if my child had his own phone & had texted me.

 

[Pakey]

No I would not have expected a call. By the time my sons were that age, I didn't have many parents phone numbers.

 

[NMAmy]

In that case, I would tell my child that if you are in another "incident" where you think that I would want to speak with you right away, like fender benders, medical issues, etc. I would tell child to call the house, dad, aunt, whatever, if I do not answer the text right away.

I put the responsibility on my kid because that is where is should be placed as they get older imo. As you see with this incident parents might call or they might not.

I agree with this. A 14 yo is old enough to know when and how to call their own mother.

 

[ICF]

no...the kid has his own phone, why didnt he call your house phone?

The mom driving probably had a lot on her mind dealing with the other driver, police, insurance any the general $@@^&*! feeling that goes on when you a wreck.