Would you go without.....

[lynn46356]

We are not a his, mine and ours family, but we have three DSs, 18, 17 and 8. We have been to WDW four times. The older two have been there four times and our youngest was there when he was 1 1/2 and 3 1/2. We are now contemplating a trip without the oldest two. The oldest will be in his freshman year at college and then our middle son will be a jr. in high school. There is no way either can miss any school and most of our trips to WDW have been in the heat of the summer. I'm not wanting to repeat that. So yes, we will leave the two oldest at home. They went out to Arizona with Dad last spring for Spring Training. They had a WONDERFUL time with just dad. No Mom and little brother. They didn't know how much fun their Dad could be. My son and I stayed home and did everything he wanted to do. Chuckie Cheese, mini golf, movies, bowling, etc. and we had a blast. There will be more summer trips I'm sure for our family together but at this moment I don't think it will be WDW.

Whatever you decide to do, have fun. Just follow your heart.

Lynn

 

[Dorisk3]

I keep thinking of that saying from Ohana's- where Ohana means family and family means that no one is left out or left behind (Ok, I guess I'm paraphrasing there!). I know you'll have to wait extra time to take everyone together- but I think its worth it. I would go so far to say that it's grossly unfair to the kids that won't be home. If it were a weekend at the beach or like Six Flags or something- I would say no big deal. But Disney is something very special- just think how you would feel if you were one of the kids left behind. Is there any way you could all go together at some other time not so far in the future?

 

[Disfan3]

ALL FOR ONE AND ONE FOR ALL.


We don\'t even think in terms of his or mine and there are no ours, and there will never be. I would NEVER go to WDW without my dd\'s or my dsd. EVER. NO WAY. We have joint custody of my dsd so it might be different but each parent is allowed 2 weeks of vacation time in the summer. Why not go then? It is very hard to juggle ex\'s and ex\'s families around holidays and such. I would ask to switch. That has never been a problem with our ex spouses. We all get along ok. Flexibility is key. BUT...NEVER would I go somewhere like WDW without all of my kids..(unless it were to the FWF with only DH...or to my MAELSTROM MEET to see my peeps~hey y\'all!!)

To leave one behind...we just won\'t do it. NOW...If they are older and decide they do not want to go thats fine. But until then we all stay or we all go.

 

[DawnA401]

No.. I would take them all. My mother and my step-dad went to Disney and took their children and never even asked if I wanted to go..I was left home alone 2 times and hated it, they called everynight and told me what a great time they were having It was even worse when the pictures were developed and than I had to look at them every time someone came over.. I finally made it to Disney when I was 32...

 

[CPM]

Just remember people, everyone is different. All situations are diffrent and no one has a right to say what other people should or shouldn't do.
My daughter never minded that we took our son to WDW without her, she enjoyed her alone time with her dad while we were there. Sometimes there just isn't another time to be at WDW all together.

 

[IrishGoofy1986]

I have 4 children and they have all been together at Disney 3 times. Each has been at least 10 times but they seem to have more fun not all together competing for attention.

 

[DiszyDeanette]

I think the ignored issue is if the kids are all "ours" or not. Intact families just don't have the problems/issues step families have. Only the older kids are going? That's OK, the younger kids probably know they will get to go when they reach X age as well. Same for older kids who know that had their turn, and probably aren't as interested by now anyway. They don't have to deal with feelings of abandonment and having to try to choose one parent over the other. And parents who want to do what's best for "their" kids, and think of their spouse's offspring as a nuisance to their plans... well, they shouldn't have married that person in the first place then. You marry somebody, you marry their kids too.

 

[Disneyenthusiast]

Please wait for EVERYONE to go together. The pain of being left out will not go away. The children may act like it doesn't matter or they don't care, but they will always remember...

 

[CPM]

I guess some people will never understand unless they are put in certain situations. So again, it's so easy to say what is right or worng when it's not your situation. I will say do what's best for your family and what works for you.
My daughter has "no pain" of being "left out" lol She's a very happy well adjusted teenager going off to college Friday.

 

[Dixie Luvr 98]

If it is a first strip, I would want everyone to go together.

I have taken pretty much every combination of my four for various reasons on later trips especially when the older two got into their teens.

I'm sure you know your own kids best!

 

[DiszyDeanette]

My daughter has "no pain" of being "left out" lol She's a very happy well adjusted teenager going off to college Friday.

I told my parents that too.

 

[CPM]

I told my parents that too.

whatever, I know my daughter, maybe yours didn't know you so well.
Don't worry, she's been on plenty of trips wit us, she's not deprived.

 

[#1 Pocahontas]

I personally would wait until you could all go.

Unless the other kids are older and don't care. But if they are old enough to make that decision then they would probably be old enough to decide make a decision of visiting the other parents at a different time and join you on your trip. KWIM?